going with out husband

[figment3258]

Has anyone taken a vacation without your spouses? We leave in 7 days and I am already missing him. He has to work and could not come this time My mom is coming with my to help but its still not the same. My mom had made at cvs a pillow case and teddy bear each with a picture of my husband for my girls. But I am still worried that being without him will ruin the trip. Any advice? Thanks

Jessica

 

[kathrna]

We end up going w/o DH most of the time b/c he always seems to be deployed. I think of it as my happy place and it makes time pass more quickly. If I waited for him, we'd almost never go. I absolutely LOVE it when he can go, but now the boys and I have made enough trips that we are very comfortable. The second time we ever went, DH couldn't go and we were staying there w/friends. It was hard to see their complete family when mine was not. But I really paid attention to where I was, got comfortable w/it and hit the ground running. Just remember it's a happy place and he'll probably be able to come along the next time. Make it fun and it will be. Good luck!

 

[exwdwcm]

Jessica- sorry to hear it. I've done it and it can be a lot of fun. Especially if you have girls- you can focus on girl time! take the time to make some special mommy and me type memories instaed and know that on a future trip the whole family can be together again. maybe you can make a flattie out of your husband and bring him along that way? it makes it fun to take pics!

 

[MusiqChic99]

I am going next month without mine. He doesn't have the vacation time and I want to go! I'm going with my parents and my sister's family. I will miss mine too but you will be so busy having fun and you will be very happy you went anyway!

 

[auralia]

just think about all the children that go a year or more w/o their dads in iraq and the 7 days won't feel bad at all!!! My husband will be gone at least 3 months of the next year for military things (abet he will be in the US, just across the country) and time will only tell if they take him for more or further away. I let my daughter call her dad when ever she wants to even if he isn't there to hear his message machine and and i keep a picture of him in her room. They may miss their dad, but it's disney, kids can't help but have fun at disney. maybe let each one pick out a special presant to bring back to dad?

 

[Claudia Kellenberger]

This December I will have my 11th annual week at Disney World without my DH. He prefers to stay home with our two cats. We do not have any children, so no grandchildren, and I don't have any sisters. I have two brothers who are not interested in Disney at all. WDW is too expensive for quite a few of my girlfriends. I am now 56 years .... young. So I go solo.

I just take my cell phone and keep in frequent ( NOT constant ) touch with my Husband and my Mother. I make sure to have a small notebook, and a Disney theme park map, when I eat meals solo.

Being apart from hubby for a short while can make you appreciate each other more. It can be a good thing.

 

[WaltD4Me]

My sister and nieces have come with me on a couple trips that her DH just couldn't get off work for. Her thinking was "go without or don't go at all." The girls love Disney so much, not going at all wasn't the answer, so they came with me and she missed him and so did the girls, but it didn't ruin the trip by any means. It might be weird at first, but just think of it as a Mother/Daughter trip. You'll have fun!

 

[Rootskate]

I took my dad to WDW this year without my husband. I missed him but it was nice to spend the time with my dad. I am sure you will have a good time!

 

[AnneR]

It's been years since I dragged my DH to WDW. He hates to travel. I have to twist his arm to do one trip somewhere every other year. I have a while before he will consider traveling again since he went to Phoenix with us last Christmas. I usually travel with my daughters but I am starting DAP by myself this year, my oldest will join me part way. She loves when mom springs for part of the cost of a vacation.

 

[lurkyloo]

I went by myself back in May b/c DH had to work, and it was fun!

I met some friends from the DIS a few times, but I also spent a lot of time solo, even dining solo. I kept in touch with DH, but I found that, in terms of missing each other, the trip was a lot harder on DH than it was on me cuz I was having so much fun!

 

[jcb]

Has anyone taken a vacation without your spouses? We leave in 7 days and I am already missing him. He has to work and could not come this time My mom is coming with my to help but its still not the same. My mom had made at cvs a pillow case and teddy bear each with a picture of my husband for my girls. But I am still worried that being without him will ruin the trip. Any advice? Thanks

Jessica

On a less than serious note, I went in 12/07 with DD sans DW. DW then wanted to go so we went in 1/08. I got to go twice!

 

[SamIAm21]

I go without mine all the time. Well he went once and said "That's Enough". He's not a theme park, manufactured surroundings kind of guy. He would rather be in a boat fishing with real nature and real animals.

He likes cruises though, so when we vacation, we tend to take a cruise together or find a place with a little something for both of us!

 

[wildfan1473]

It will be just fine. I took our boys on our first major trip without dad last month. We went to DH's parents winter home in Florida for a week, we've been there before with dad and knew the routine. I missed him terribly, but he was at a conference in Bismarck, ND, and he gave me the choice of going with him to the conference or take the boys to FL by myself. It was a no-brainer. I did get really anxious about it just before the trip, but the my in-laws decided to come with and that made it much easier on me.

Even though I'm a SAHM and spend all my time with the boys, this was different. I didn't have to worry about running errands or doing (alot of) laundry or cleaning the bathroom, the normal stuff at home. It was nice bonding time for us, and I would do it again in a heartbeat.

On a related note, 3 weeks after this trip, DH and I took our first trip away from the boys. We went to the same place, it was our 10th anniversary and we went for 4 days. I've been away on solo trips while DH was home with the boys, but this was the first time he and I have been away from them for more than a day, ever. Having both of us away from the kids was much harder on me than us being away from DH.

 

[figment3258]

Thanks for all the wonderful help. My husband loves the world so he is really upset that he is missing this. At the same time I am just a little nervous that my youngest she is 3 is going to miss him. She still comes into our bed at night and sleeps on him and only him. She cry's for him most of the day. He works 7 day weeks 10 to 12 hour days. I know I can do this and I will thanks again for all the support!

 

[wildfan1473]

Thanks for all the wonderful help. My husband loves the world so he is really upset that he is missing this. At the same time I am just a little nervous that my youngest she is 3 is going to miss him. She still comes into our bed at night and sleeps on him and only him. She cry's for him most of the day. He works 7 day weeks 10 to 12 hour days. I know I can do this and I will thanks again for all the support!

DS5 is the EXACT same way - he comes into bed 3 or 4 times a night to snuggle with daddy, only daddy can help him get dressed/put shoes on/go to the bathroom with him etc., etc., etc. After our trip, he and I are much closer, and he is more willing to be with me, show his affection for me, etc.

 

[Madi100]

I went to WDW with my sister, aunt, and mom. While I thoroughly enjoyed our time together, I've decided WDW is my favorite place to be because I'm there with my husband. I can go without the kids, but I LOVE WDW with my DH.

With that being said, we had a very good time when I went without him. It was just very different.

 

[dizzy203]

My husband is not a big Disney fan. He never really wanted to go but I talked him into going once before we had our son. Then when my DS was 3 and I wanted to take him to Disney my husband wanted to go so he could be with him on his 1st trip. The following year my sister and brother were both going with their families and I wanted to go too. My husband had no interest in going so I went with my DS4. He missed his dad but he got over it real quick. Since then I've taken him back many times with out DH. I've had some of the best times with just the 2 of us. Memories that last a life time! We do whatever we want, when we want and I don't worry if my DH is having a good time.