Going to work- no doubts now

[Serena]

I've been thinking that it might be possible to just live off of what my h gives me each week and maybe it was possible that I didn't have to worry about working quite yet.

Well, he has a herniated disk now. He didn't work all last week. He is working at his desk this week, so far.

I have to go to work. No doubt about it anymore.

 

[Cindy B]

Well sometimes its bad things that gets us motivated. Now look at this as a blessing in disguise.

 

[Serena]

Well, I do already have a job, I start next month with training on saturday, but I still questioned whether I should disrupt my kids for it, if I could figure out how to live without it.
It was just a small question that has been answered now.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

You're really much better off not being entirely dependent on him Serena.

Best of Luck this weekend with the new job.

 

[Cindy B]

See, this IS a good thing..

Now aren't you a crossing guard right now? How are you going to juggle both of the jobs?

I've done up to three part time jobs with two kids in different school schedules.

 

[Serena]

Yeah Toby, there is that. I tend not to think about that much. I depended on him for 20 years. He's been gone 2 months and still paying the bills.

I guess I have to admit to being a little bit spoiled in that regard.

 

[Serena]

I can't juggle them. I have to quit the crossing guard thing. I don't like it, but I couldn't find a job that would allow me to take an hour or so off twice a day. Go figure.

 

[browneyes]

I agree with Cindy, Laurie. This is a blessing in disguise. I think you'll be even more enriched with empowerment when you know you can rely on yourself more. Sorry to hear about your h.

 

[Cindy B]

An hour off twice a day.... lets see, there are many options..

A peak Bank Teller they used to start at 10- and be done by 2-3 p.m.

I work part time at a college, my hours are 3 1/2 days, and 2 full (5-7 hours) days...

 

[Serena]

Yeah, I realized that when I was in Chicago and couldn't rely on him to come and rescue me.
Before he did heating and airconditioning, he was a mechanic, he is a good one.

I relied on everyone else and AAA. lol But, it wasn't him, that's what mattered. It felt good.

 

[nativetxn]

Serena, I think you will be happy once you get training and find a job you like. You will be self sufficient and that's a <b>very</b> good thing

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie

 

[browneyes]

Hey, if you can handle those exterminating those little mice in your house, you can handle any job.

Is your car 100% now?

I see good things happening to you soon (it's about time, right? ).

 

[Serena]

My car is 100% at the moment. lol

Something good happened 2 months ago, I just didn't realize it at the time.

I'm happy now. I like it.

The different things I have to work out, will work out. If not, I'll do something else. lol

 

[EROS]

Serena, FREUD often offered that life is all about being able:

TO LOVE AND TO WORK!!!!

Of course, women WORK extremely hard raising a family. However, getting into the workplace can also do wonders for one's self-esteem and provide a great chance for socialization.

good luck,

 

[tc]

I know this has been a hard time for you, but you seem so much stronger now than ever two months ago. It will be hard to go back to work, but you will feel so much better about yourself. Your kids will adjust, they are amazing creatures. Best of luck and lots of hugs and pd (and prayer) sent your way!

 

[Pam]

Serena,
You will do great at your new job - and - you'll get a discount on all those clothes!!!

Will I see you later at Saffron's for the ongoing Halloween party?
Pam

 

[Robinrs]

Wow, Laurie...

I hope everything works out for you, you've been through alot in the past few months.

I think getting out and seeing different people everyday will give you a whole new outlook on life. I love working because it's a different view everyday!

Good luck!

--Robinrs

 

[preshi]

I am glad you are going. You dont' want to have to depend on him if you need something {{{hugs}}}

 

[C.Ann]

If I had to rely on money from my first husband my 3 kids and I would have ended up in a homeless shelter somewhere.. Even ex's who start out with the best intentions often get fed up with trying to support two households along the way.

The best thing you can do is become self-reliant and get child support ordered through a court. You may also live in a state where your husband would be obligated to pay you alimony and keep you covered under his health insurance until you're able to complete some kind of schooling that will result in a job that actually pays a living wage. Check it out - call your county social services dept. and ask them. My brother had to do this for his ex-wife for 3 years - and she left him for another man!!

I'm job hunting myself right now.. Hope the new job works out well for you! Check on those programs though - you could end up with training for a job that pays a lot more..

 

[Serena]

Yes, I don't want to rely on him. And it would be nice to be out there working. The few part time jobs I've had, I enjoyed it.

It's just new.
But hey, I've got great role models. Beside you all of course. My aunt just opened a tea shop and craft store. She's almost 70. My mom would have done it with her.