We are taking our kids to DL for their 3rd birthday and plan to go in May. I have never stayed at a hotel as I always lived in LA and was an AP holder. We want to stay in a suite as one room with all of us means we go to bed at 8pm 
So my questions are:
Do we get the onsite benefits by staying at a good neighbor hotel? even if we don't book through disney?
Any recommendations as to which are closest? We won't be walking but don't want to travel too far.
Thanks for your help
Christine

So my questions are:
Do we get the onsite benefits by staying at a good neighbor hotel? even if we don't book through disney?
Any recommendations as to which are closest? We won't be walking but don't want to travel too far.
Thanks for your help
Christine