Thank you Beth...... baby firsts are very exciting!!!
Laurie (I'm sorry I think that is your name Diznee Luver) that is so awesome about your little one walking!!
Do you mind if I ask what the circumstances were for them getting taken away? If you can't say I understand but I am just curious. Was their mom a druggie or was it a violence issue? I was just wondering because she is a beautiful little girl and to be taken away at birth like that is just so sad. I mean don't get me wrong it is WONDERFUL for you and those children and I am sure they are 1 million times better off then where they probably were but I just wondered what their mother must have done to them. I know we have a friend who adopted a drug baby and he is now 14 or 15 I believe. They had a heck of a time with him at first and I know he has some developmental delays because of it but he is ONE lucky boy for getting the parents he did! Then his mom and dad went on to have a biological son but he was SO lucky to get them as parents and it sounds like these children are VERY lucky to have you and your husband as well! I so admire people that take in and adopt foster children!!
The twins parents were dabbling in meth but the biggest reason why is their inability to parent children (low IQ's). The birthmom is 30 & has popped out 9 kids. She doesn't have custody of any of them. The father is the dad to the last 5 kids. All of these kids are "train wrecks"....genetically, developmentally & medically.
The twins have a brother (6) who is severally autistic. The sister (4) is also autistic but not physically violent like the brother. Next are the twins followed by another brother born last September. He has kidney failure, a wrinkle in his brain that causes seizures & vision issues.
Michayla has Pierre Robin & had a huge cleft palate (not lip), recessed chin, 2 holes in her heart, apnea, breathing, swallowing & eating issues. The palate has been repaired, the chin is growing out enough to keep her from having apnea & swallowing issues. She still has the holes in her heart & is due for a sedated echo in June to see the progress there. She is 100% g-tube fed because she has an oral aversion to everything. She won't accept a spoon, bottle, toothbrush, finger, toy, etc in her mouth or even touching her lips.
Her sister has a lot of the same issues but milder. She had a soft palate (no hard bone in the roof of her mouth, but it was closed) & she has one hole in her heart & pulminary stenosis. She eats orally, but very little & only a couple things. She still bottle feeds for most of her nutrients.
Genetically the parents together make bad mojo!!! Luckily mom got her tubes tied after the boy born in Sept.
There was no way they could have handled a healthy baby....but twins with medical issues was out of the question. That's how we knew we would be keeping them from the beginning.
They've come a long ways & is very exciting to see what new thing they will do.
Most of the kids we've taken in came from meth-homes. These kids all come with issues from the exposure, but we've learned to deal with each one differently & remember there are reasons for their behaviors.
Ok,......enough for the novel........
Oh those are great names. I love Michayla's name. Justice well interesting!
We kinda think it was because she felt it was Justice for her to have a sick baby.........
Most people thought it was a boy with that name.
Those are great names Laurie! I've spent a few years working in NICU's, and it is amazing to me some of the names, stories, and things that some people do. That's one thing about nursing, you have to remember that not everyone has the same standards, morals, and virtues that you do! From the mother who did cocaine at her baby shower (because "how can you celebrate without it"), to the one who had to get back to me with the baby's last name because she wanted him to have his father's last name, but she didn't know what it was, and on and on. You have to seperate yourself from that, and know that these babies
and their parents are on this earth for a purpose, and I am here to help them find their way. So many of my coworkers would go home with babies, I almost did myself, but the mother changed her mind and decided to keep him.
Now, as far as names go, I've seen some doosies! My favorite by far was the little girl named Awaii D'island (first and middle names). We also had a little girl whose parents named her buzzsaw, she had gorwn up with us, and answered to buzzsaw.
Your little girls are so lucky to have you Laurie. I hope to get in a position once we're settled down and help some babies out again. I miss them.
I imagine you have seen some real winners in the NICU!!!
Buzzsaw....how sad is that?
We feel like the lucky ones
