I had a HUGE post that stopped making sense...but at the heart of it...jordansmama...I still say it sounds like you're going on a date, even if it makes you comfy calling it "hanging out"...whatever you like.
And just to explain my mention of the hated dr laura...listening to her show casually helped me see that an action I was set on was ridiculous, and changed my life for what I am certain is the better. I was going to have my chiro school "hanging out partner" move out here to be with me... Seemed a good idea to me. The fact that he had two tiny kids didn't click with me...they were the product of a tricky woman who had told him that it was a "safe" time, no protection needed, two times in 2 years...she was in school with us and absolutely psychotic...ended school with NO friends b/c she had scared them all away...her best friend stopped being her best friend, told Rich that she had even planned the first kid (Rich thought the second was planned but the first was a true accident), she found out the friend told, and she punctured all four of the friend's VERY expensive white-wall SUV tires...
Anyway, I wasn't thinking there was much wrong, and one day listening to DLaura it hit me that a man who would leave his loved children behind like that (he wasn't even upset about it) wasn't necessarily going to stick around with OUR children... And along with that, i did NOT want psycho in my life. So I dropped him.