I can't. Our gifted program here, if we cut through all the crap, is mostly about keeping the parents happy. Our "gifted" teacher has no formal training in the teaching of gifted students.
I love your question because I've been battling with that question for decades now. When does a kid forfeit the right to his education? If I were king of the world, I'd give him (or her) a hard dose of reality and suggest he find his education in the school of hard knocks. If you don't perform or are disruptive in a private school setting, that school dismisses you. Public schools don't have that option. And trust me, I've seen student be intentionally disruptive because they have the power to do so and know it. I can't imagine the cost of these students in real dollars.
Further, and this is the saddest part of education now, once a student passes whatever state mandated test is required, he doesn't matter in the eyes of some schools. We literally identify the kids individually who are close to passing and create special classes for them, tutoring opportunities, not because we care about them being educated, but because we need to make AYP. If we don't, we get put on a list, and our funds are cut or the state takes over the school (like it's not running it already). But this is the state of public education today.
Actually, you would pretty much just need to be king of the US because the rest of the world pretty much does this already. We are the only, or one of the few, countries that has compulsory education for kids over 16. Many countries kids take a test at that age to determine their future path. You have to score high enough to go on to "college" which is roughly equivalent to our high school or community college and then if you score well enough after that you go on to "university" which is what we call college or university here. For kids that don't try in school, they go into the workforce or to what we would call a trade school.
Again, the question posted was why the overwhelming demand for Gifted and Talented programs. It isn't about being proud of your child or whether your child is bright or not-it is about why the sudden need for all of these programs. The answer is the same as it would be for parents that think their child is overly talented in sports, or music, or theater or pageants or whatever-the demand is there because PARENTS need their ego stroked. If parents were totally taken out of the equation, participation in most of these programs would drop, significantly. I am sure there are some programs that don't have overbearing parents but they are few and far between. Not that they can tell you but I bet if you asked your G/T teachers, they would tell you the same thing.
Now you understand my fury. I am NO longer in that district, because I would have killed someone.
. She is LAST Chair in her band now. Yes, I criticize her for that because it is just stupid. This is the same attitude you see with a lot of parents trying to get their kids into the G/T programs-and sports and music and pageants, etc. Yep, I criticize these parents with this attitude. Now, if they wanted to schedule a meeting with the teacher, get some information about why she was not moved up and what things she needed to work on to improve her chances of moving up to the top band as a senior, ok, I am fine with that (although I think the DD should do that).
I've been reading this thread for a few days now because I have been very curious over this whole G & T thing. I've learned a lot, mostly that the schools here are cr*p compared to others. But I'm still shaking my head over this one. And here I was, hoping that my kids would be smart so they could do well in college and have a career and support themselves and their families. What was I thinking? Do you mean to tell me that I should be worrying about what my kids are wearing instead? That my girls should worry about clothes and fashion and just find a man that will take care of them so they won't have to think or do anything for themselves?