getting child with asd out of my bed

[lilpeople]

Please help. I have a 8 year old with autism that still comes to my bed and sleeps with me. When she was younger we lived with relatives and we had to share a bed. About five years ago we got our own place and she still gets in my bed at night. I have tried everything. Right now we are using a weighted blanket, and melatonin. She is getting way to big to sleep with me, that and i will be getting married soon. She shares a room with her sister so i cant let her cry it out like the psychiatries suggested. I cant keep getting up at night because i work long hours and have to get up early.

 

[LMC]

When my ASD son was 5 yo and I was expecting another child, I paid him $1 per night that he went to sleep in his own bed. The first few nights I sat with him for a little bit, but he had to stay there when I left and we worked up to him being tucked in and left alone. Best $30 I have EVER spent in my life! Yes, it only took 30 days. At the end of a month he could do this completely on his own and I told him he was big enough now to go to sleep on his own and didn't need a reward for it.

He liked getting the $$$ and he could spend it on whatever he wanted so it was very motivational for him. And to a 5 yo a dollar is alot of money.

 

[lilpeople]

it has been three nights since she has tried to sleep in my bed. she is sleeping all night long in her own bed.

 

[lilpeople]

up to six nights now

 

[Goofygirl17]

That's great! Are you using the $1 a night strategy? DD11 has anxiety and still ends up in our bed sometimes. I might try it!

 

[lilpeople]

no we told her that since she was going to 3rd grade she had to be a big girl and stop sleeping with me. i also told her that when we go to flordia ( she doesnt know about disney trip yet), i would get her a henna tattoo