snusnu said:I can see why this choice of phrase has rubbed people the wrong way. It would NEVER be okay to insert any group other than gays and lesbians into the phrase and publish it. For example, no one would (hopefully) ever say, "We are travelling with a famiily that has 2 small children and they would like to avoid having to explain "insert race/size/disability here" to them." Why is it OK to want to avoid gay people thinly veiled under the argument that you're avoiding certain behaviors that most reasonable adults avoid? That smacks very strongly of intolerance. Why would anything have to be explained? I like the poster who had very short and appropriate responses to questions pertaining to ANYONE who exhibits inappropriate or unusual behavior.
My first reaction to that was "Explain what? That they kissed because they love each other? That they are wearing matching shirts because they are a family? What's to explain?"
I realise the OP is talking about her 'friends' but you are so right. The idea of having to 'explain' is offensive.


