frustarted w/ inlaws

[problemchild718]

Last I checked, a rehersal dinner was just that providing a meal for those who were rehearsing the wedding-and maybe their significant other. If this is causing such a problem in your soon to be family, have your FH (its HIS place) let mom and dad know the number of prople attending the REHERSAL dinner is____. tell her you will be happy to help with the planning or providing her a list of venues and then back off. (if all of the guests attend the rehersal, sort of takes the wind out of the sails on the big day) If she wants a prewedding dinner/celebration with every one, suggest a dessert party AFTER the dinner where all can join a socialize at less of a cost, but the same group feeling. If the subject of $$$$ comes up again in a negative way, I wouldn't ask them for a cent or their 2 cents and do what you want-pay for it yourselves even if it means waiting tables to come up with the cash.
I feud is no way to begin a family and if you look at the whole picture, this really isn't that important-or won't be in 5,10, 20 years. If you don't get along and every holiday, baby event, birthday is hell-thats important.
Deep breath, manicure, chocolate and wine will make a difference! Good luck

 

[quadaunt]

inlaws can be trying sometimes but remember youre marrying your fiance not them.

Big misconception. If the gtb or btb is close with his/her parents then in a sense you're marrying the whole family. But you also have to be assertive and hold your ground.

 

[JonetteA]

I am right there with you. Here was our solution. We are having ours at Fulton's less than Disney, but we don't have to pay for transport for everyone. Quite honestly, I am at the point where I would rather have pizza around the pool with the wedding party and my friends. I think that would be great!! PM me if you want to talk b/c I went through the exact same thing earlier this year and in some cases still going through it.