Friendship Issues Vent/ Suggestions??

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Ok so here my issue its long and its about a month old and just seems to be getting worse by the moment...

So to starts out with about I want to say 2 months ago I was in another fight with a close friend
It was over communication bassically and telling each other the truth I guess you could say...
We both played the I guesss we hate each other stay away from me game for about 3 weeks.
After I wrote a letter it ended up all sorting out but there was another issue that came into play
When I wrote the letter another girl Chloe told me Katelyn hated the letter and didnt want to talk to me
Well that turned out to be the exact oppisite of what Katelyn said and after another friend helping working things out we were friends again
So a few days later during lunch I normally dont see Chloe since she likes to hide in her classroom she walks up to me and was mad and starts screaming at me over the it...
So I tell her I will talk to Katelyn about it
I decided it would be best to take all the blame for it so there could be peace
Was I far from wrong thats all it would take...
Katelyn then tells me when my dad was giving us a ride home from school that Chloe has been mad at me for quite a while and she wasnt to tell me but she was going to anyways
So the next Monday we decided it would be best if I worked it out with Chloe
I thought it would be painless as could be just saying sorry saying yes we both had made mistakes and it would all be cool
Was I far from wrong
So I say to Chloe that I know Katelyn told you that she told me the truth
So I then said, can we talk about this and work things out
Chloe reacts by acting like a 5 year old and changing the subject
I then say lets not change the subject which she does anyway...
So I then walk away for 10 minutes then come back and ask if shes ready
She then tells me how annoying I am, how I make too much drama, how shes mad at me for telling Katelyn that and down the line
I then say ok can we work it out she then goes NOPE
So since that moment for the last month I've been getting the silent treatment
It wouldnt be as big of a deal if it wasnt for the fact that we hang out with the same group of people
I'm never really apart of conversations when ever shes around and I feel like an outsider
I have no idea what to do...
So today in English after trying everything else that would ease her up or maybe get her unhappy and want to work things out (giving the silent treatment back to her which she enjoyed and asked if I would do it for the rest of my life, just casually trying to talk to her, etc) I finally say Chloe "can we please just work this out".
Chloe then acts like I said nothing and when Jessica the girl which was the reason I was sitting there, then said something to Chloe about it she took it as joke
Shes all like who said what Becca, our teacher, Justin shes all like you know who Katie
Shes all like no, no, no who really
By then I was so mad I got up and moved and just started crying I dont know what else to do....
I dont think its going to be resolved anytime soon
Also if its not resolved by next Friday do you have any tips of having the silent treatment for 24hrs??
Its Jessicas birthday party she only could invite 3 people and she invited Me, Chloe, and Katelyn
I dont know if I can take it but I dont want to deny it
Since it was really kind of her to do this since she could only invite very few people
Any tips on what to do I have no other ideas only thing others have told me is get the counselor involved in it which sounds like a really bad idea, and talk to another person I know which she has to hear about enough she has 4 kids of her own she doesnt need to hear about my drama also.
Help anyone??
Thanks for reading :)
 
Honestly, it doesn't sound like there's a lot you could do. It sounds like she's mad at you for the sake of being mad. And why not? It's fun to be mad. Or, possibly, there's something going on at home and she's really upset and the only way she can think to take her anger out is on you/Katelyn. Or, maybe she's mad at how close you and Katelyn are, and she feels left out. Or maybe I'm wrong in my assumptions.
Either way, don't let her drag you down from having fun. It's her choice to be angry. And there wasn't even a point to her lying in the beginning. I would personally just live my life, act the same around her as I did when she wasn't mad at me, and maybe she'll forget about it all for a few minutes. (but that's just me)
I hope everything works out for you. I know how much it sucks to fight with friends.
 
I really don't have advice. I'm in the middle of a situation like that, too.

But, go to the party. Have fun.
Don't let them get in you're way. just leave them alone, don't bug them about it. Hang with Jessica, and just at least act like you don't care about Chloe.
Don't give them the silent treatment. That's childish. If they try to talk to you, talk to them, back. But if they try to HURT you, just walk away.

Jessica wants you there. And if you don't go, theres a good chance that Katelyn and Chloe will talk about you to Jessica, and that could be bad.

Go. Have lots of fun. :)
 
Honestly, it doesn't sound like there's a lot you could do. It sounds like she's mad at you for the sake of being mad. And why not? It's fun to be mad. Or, possibly, there's something going on at home and she's really upset and the only way she can think to take her anger out is on you/Katelyn. Or, maybe she's mad at how close you and Katelyn are, and she feels left out. Or maybe I'm wrong in my assumptions.
Either way, don't let her drag you down from having fun. It's her choice to be angry. And there wasn't even a point to her lying in the beginning. I would personally just live my life, act the same around her as I did when she wasn't mad at me, and maybe she'll forget about it all for a few minutes. (but that's just me)
I hope everything works out for you. I know how much it sucks to fight with friends.

Katelyn her new best friend told me that everything is going great in her life and theres no drama at home
I thought that was a possibility but was told it wasnt
Chloe has a pretty bad reputation when it comes down to drama...
Last piece of drama with her got so bad 2 people got suspended for a week
I dont know what to do...
Dont think shes mad at how close me and Katelyn are since Katelyn is her best friend
Katelyn is just a close/good friend of mine
I let her have her Chloe time and I only get Katelyn on the walk home to school since we both live across the street from each other...
I dont know why she would be mad to be mad
She finds it great that she can give me the silent treatment from what others have told me
I tried acting the same way when we were werent fighting didnt work out too well
She just completely ignored me and treated me like a brick in the wall...
 






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