friends

[debbiecarol]

Here is a question for you. How do you make friends.? I'am 44 years old and I came to the realization that I don't have any friends. I try to be nice to do things for people and to just be a good person but I don't have anyone. You know how some thing funny happens and you say let me call(insert name) and tell her. Well I would love to have someone. I really want to know .How do you make friends.?

 

[Pop Daddy]

maybe if you where rich

 

[debbiecarol]

Thank-you that was very comforting.

 

[Serena]

I really don't know. I wish I could help, but it takes forever for me to get close to someone.

 

[debbiecarol]

Yes me too. I have been hurt before but I'am plugging on.

 

[KrnB]

I would suggest picking someone that you think you have a lot in common with and ask them to join you for lunch or something along those lines. Take it slow because close friendships don't happen overnight and don't be discouraged if things don't click. Just keep trying with as many people as you feel comfortable with. Try joining clubs that are related to interests that you have too.

 

[Cruisin]

I don't have any words of wisdom to help you either.
I don't really have any friends either. I have tons of acquaintances but not really any friends.
In my case I think it is just cause I am too busy to have the time to devote to friends.
The kids are getting older now 20 & 16 so they don't require as much time. We own our own business but we employ 2 men plus my husband and me, so no female companionship there.
I am figuring when the kids are totally gone maybe I will find the time to join some things and make some friends.
The DIS people are some very nice friends to have though. I thoroughly enjoy my DIS friends.

 

[debbiecarol]

I have a similar situation. My only shild is 15 and my husband works(of course) and I don't have anyone. I'am trying to as my daughter would say "get a life". I 'am considering joining a club as you suggested but I tend to be shy. I really am trying.
P.s. I agree that the people here at Dis are nice. I have been on another Disney board for years and I have never had so many nice people answer my posts

 

[Dan Murphy]

Well, Debbie, if you'd like, I sure can be one of your long distance friends. Send me a PM or email any time you like. And if I get to Maryland, or you get to Chicago, or we both get to WDW at the same time, I sure would enjoy meeting you and your family. Stay warm there, it's chilly out

Dan

 

[IloveDMB]

I know it takes me a long time to make good friends. I have to really trust someone.

I would also suggest maybe joining a club or community activity. Do you like to read? I know at my local library, they have book clubs that meet every week or so. Maybe you could join one of them. That seems like a good way to meet people.

Or what about asking one of your daughter's friend's mothers over for coffee? I know my mother has made at least 1 good friend that way.

 

[debbiecarol]

Thank-you Dan you sound very kind.

 

[debbiecarol]

Thank-you Traci-Lyn yes I love to read that is a good idea. I will try call the library and asking if they have a book club.

 

[browneyes]

The best way to make a friend is to say hello to someone and take things from there. It's difficult to become close friends with someone. Usually, it's because of trust issues or something that keeps people from becoming friends with others. I was extremely shy for many years, and I know when I had problems making friends, it was because of trust issues I had within myself.

Good luck.

 

[debbiecarol]

I agree, but I'am at the point where I want to open up and have a friend. I don't want anybody's money or religious advice or someone to tell me how to live my life I just want a girlfriend to talk to about nail polish. Does that make sense.?

 

[Antonia]

I have a few friends, for which I am very grateful. My best friend I have had since I was 12 and I will be 43 next month.
People say I never meet a stranger. Little do they know that when I was younger, I was very shy.
My advice for making friends is to be yourself, be friendly, smile alot. When you are out and about speak to everyone you pass.
Don't wait for people to introduce themselves to you. Make the first move. Give compliments, but not to many - you'll seem fake.
Ask one or two people to join you in something you enjoy doing. I have another friend who she and I really enjoy browsing through consignment shops and antique shops. I didn't meet her until I was in my 30's and she was in her 40's. We have a great time together and there is an 11 year age difference. We met at church. Now we have been friends for about 10 years. We often make a point of inviting other people on our little adventures and by doing this she and I have made even more friends.
I think people nowadays are very busy - often so busy that they don't make time for making and having friends. Don't worry if your house is clean, etc. Get out there and make some friends!!!!

 

[powellrj]

Several years ago when my DS was 8 he told me he was sad because I didn't have any friends. I said I really hadn't noticed that I was busy doing things with them and I had my job. He told me everybody needs friends and that I should find some. Well I took him up on his advise and we changed churchs and I found one that I am really plugged into. I still don't have "friends" but I do get out with other ladies have have fun things in my life. I think it's hard for women with families and jobs to have time for many friends, because it does take time, but I am happy with just having ladies to count on!! Good-luck and always know that you can e-mail or pm me anytime!!

 

[MAC3]

Hi debbiecarol.

I just wanted to say that friendships evolve over time (and some disolve) but I would suggest what KrnB & the others said take it slow and join some clubs.

Best of luck to you & welcome to the Dis, We are a small group of friends from all over. Feel free to include us in whatever you want to share. I know it's been like a support group for me.

And just for the record (Dan is very nice!!!)

Lisa

 

[honeywolf7]

I used to be painfully shy and worried that I might say the wrong thing. Now, I smile, say hello, and ask questions about other people as well as telling people about myself. I have made four new friends in the past month doing this....and what's the worst that could happen?

 

[Jeafl]

I'd like to be your friend too! Feel free to PM or email me anytime you want to talk about nail polish or anything else.

Do you have any neighbors that you are friendly with? Maybe invite one over for coffee, or a local community event. My best friend and I have been friends for 28 years, but she lives 45 minutes away so I don't see her as often as I would like. Since moving to our new neighborhood almost 9 years ago, I have made friends with 3 women in the neighborhood whom I consider to be very good friends. We do a lot together, and it helps that our kids are all friends. Just jump in with both feet, and I'm sure you'll have friends in no time.