Friend needs help, I dunno what to tell him. Help!

[OneTreeHill]

Maybe he could talk to her in the lunch line, or on the way out tto the buses.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Maybe he could talk to her in the lunch line, or on the way out tto the buses.

I told him he should try talking to her on the way to the buses, too. He still asks me how to go up and start a conversation with her, though.

Aaaand, I don't know.

 

[OneTreeHill]

I told him he should try talking to her on the way to the buses, too. He still asks me how to go up and start a conversation with her, though.

Aaaand, I don't know.

that is really hard. does he know anything about her, like what she likes or anyhting like that? If he does then that may be the place to start the conversations with.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

that is really hard. does he know anything about her, like what she likes or anyhting like that? If he does then that may be the place to start the conversations with.

I asked him, he said no.

 

[OneTreeHill]

I asked him, he said no.

Wellll that makes it even more difficult. Does he know any of her friends? Or anyone who knows her that he can ask about her interests?

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Wellll that makes it even more difficult. Does he know any of her friends? Or anyone who knows her that he can ask about her interests?

He said no to that, too.

The way I figure it, he should try and talk to her and eventually get her myspace (if she has one) and talk to her on there, find out more about her. But in order to do that, he's gotta become her friend first. Lol, yeah, holes in the plan.


That's why I figured I'd ask, 'cause I don't know what to tell him at all!

 

[OneTreeHill]

Well, I know he would look kinda stupid, but maybe he should just go up to her and talk about something random. At least it would start a conversation. I know he would be worried about looking stupid, but maybe that is truly the only way to talk to her. I have to go now, but maybe I can come back on later and see how everything is going. '

updates please!!

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Well, I know he would look kinda stupid, but maybe he should just go up to her and talk about something random. At least it would start a conversation. I know he would be worried about looking stupid, but maybe that is truly the only way to talk to her. I have to go now, but maybe I can come back on later and see how everything is going. '

updates please!!

Okay, and thanks for your help.

 

[MousekaMaddi]

hi guys, Im 43 and married with a 5 yr old, I accidentally jumped in here........hope Im not too ancient to help
Id ask her what Santa brought her? Say what did u get for xmas(if she /they celebrate) thats a good convrsation starter........or discuss how lousy the cafeteria food is, thats usually true...
Good luck, any girl would love it if u came up and started a conversation, go for it! Be confident

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

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#: back
@: lol I thought you disappeared
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#: So, maybe you should just go up to her and talk about something random
@: ...
@: nah, no [$&%^#(%] way man
@: id look [$%&@^] stupid
#: But what if it's the only way?
@: theres gotta be another way,dude
@: i would look stupid and she'd think its weird
#: Fine, I'll try and get some more answers.
@: ok lol

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[DramaQueen]

hi guys, Im 43 and married with a 5 yr old, I accidentally jumped in here........hope Im not too ancient to help
Id ask her what Santa brought her? Say what did u get for xmas(if she /they celebrate) thats a good convrsation starter........or discuss how lousy the cafeteria food is, thats usually true...
Good luck, any girl would love it if u came up and started a conversation, go for it! Be confident

That's some great advice!
What he said!

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

IMO, the asking what she got for Christmas starter would seem too personal too fast, you know? I could imagine the look on her face as he walks up and randomly asks what she got. But the rest was good, though. Just my two cents worth!

 

[DramaQueen]

IMO, the asking what she got for Christmas starter would seem too personal too fast, you know? I could imagine the look on her face as he walks up and randomly asks what she got. But the rest was good, though. Just my two cents worth!

Well come on! He's gotta start SOMEWHERE!
I dunno what else to tell you to tell him...just start with small talk somehow.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Ah, he's asked something new:

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@: hey
#: Yes?
@: lets say things dont work out w the girl i like
#: Okay...
#: ...Let's say that.
@: lol ok, well
@: at the mall, dude theres always hot girls right
#: ...Yeah...
@: well how would i just go up to one of them
#: You mean, to go up to a pretty girl at the mall and just start talking to her?
@: yea
#: ...I don't know.
@: well damn
@: ask please?
#: Lol okay.
#: But that's IF things with the girl you like don't work out?
@: yeah.
#: Alright, hang on. =]

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[DramaQueen]

personally i'd never go up to a random person and start talking to them, but some people are more comfortable than others.
I usually meet people @ school or work or whatever.

Okay, here's a story.
This guy in my media class in grade 11 that I NEVER talked to added me on MSN one day and just totally out of no where told me i was the most beautiful girl in the world and he was in love with me...it was really flattering but REALLY scary.
I would've much rather if he would've talked to me in class about an assignment or the teacher or something casual before jumping in like that!

Anyways, that's my story...hope it helps

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

personally i'd never go up to a random person and start talking to them, but some people are more comfortable than others.
I usually meet people @ school or work or whatever.

Okay, here's a story.
This guy in my media class in grade 11 that I NEVER talked to added me on MSN one day and just totally out of no where told me i was the most beautiful girl in the world and he was in love with me...it was really flattering but REALLY scary.
I would've much rather if he would've talked to me in class about an assignment or the teacher or something casual before jumping in like that!

Anyways, that's my story...hope it helps

LOL yeah, I advised him against doing something like that!
That must have been creepy. I hope you blocked him.

 

[MousekaMaddi]

just so u know... Im female.....not that it matters but......

I may be wrong but if the girl is in a class of his, and in his lunch, and they see each other at bus pick up, she KNOWS HE EXISTS! It wont be too weird if he just walks up and starts talking to he, she is aware that he xists, prob even knows his name. 15 yr old girls are VERY aware of 15 yr old guys. Its no big deal, tell him to be confident and to pretend talking to her is easy, and like its no big deal, (like he talks to lots of cute girls) Tell him to just SMILE alot, and relax.......

 

[luckystar]

I think he should stop looking for one. There has been times where I wanted a boyfriend but you know what when I wanted it I never got it. But once I decided just to go and live on my life without searching for the special one I got it. Most of the times you meet the right person when you least expect it.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Does this happen to be your lil' WalMart friend?

He sounds like he just wants a girlfriend for the sake of having one. Tell him girls aren't everything. (Even though they are )

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Ok, I hate to say this, but he sounds like my 12 year old brother who wants a gf just to have one.

You must have someone in mind.
You must like someone. You shouldn't just have a gf because she would be decent company or arm candy. And too bad if he is shy. If "she" doesn't know he exists, he obviously will not be able to date her. I am generally shy too. I find that note-writing helps. Leave one at the girl he likes' (IF he likes one) locker or something like that. Pass in class. A little immature, but if correctly-written, very effective.

Nicely said