Forgetting birthdays...

[missypie]

That was my thought exactly!! Pretending to forget may be part of the plan.

Happy Birthday.

Doesn't that kind of stuff only happen on "I Love Lucy"?

 

[mickeyboat]

Send him an email

Happy birthday to me
Happy birthday to me
You'd better stop on the way home
Or the couch is where you'll sleep

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well....make your own happiness!

Head out to the store, get yourself some fancy nightwear , gifts, & cake for tonight and then perhaps next year he will remember.

Oh and..........

 

[MickeyMo'sBo]

My husband did forget once. The hysterical part is that his birthday is the very next day!!! I didn't get mad - I went overboard with the kids for his birthday the next day and they really got into the planning: cake, balloons, silly party hats (my dd idea) decorations, the whole bit. Later that night, I even put a card and his present in his car where he would see it first thing that next morning.

He did figure it out when my mom called to wish me a "Happy Birthday" and told him "Happy Birthday", too...

(oops, I'm posting under his screen name)

 

[sunlver]

That was my thought exactly!! Pretending to forget may be part of the plan.

Happy Birthday.

Oh I wish...no I am 99.9999% sure there is no big plan or surpises in store for me. He works two jobs half the week.When he does come home,he goes right to the driveway to work on his project, which is fixing/tinkering with some sort of car. I know that is always on his mind, because he takes his lunch break and goes to the auto parts store or to the car junk yard to find parts for his project. My guess, he has other priorities on his mind,and my birthday is not one of them.
I have mentioned it several times over the last two weeks that my birthday is coming up. I have told the kids right in front of him. So, its been no big secret.

 

[missypie]

My husband did forget once. The hysterical part is that his birthday is the very next day!!! I didn't get mad - I went overboard with the kids for his birthday the next day and they really got into the planning: cake, balloons, silly party hats (my dd idea) decorations, the whole bit. Later that night, I even put a card and his present in his car where he would see it first thing that next morning.

He did figure it out when my mom called to wish me a "Happy Birthday" and told him "Happy Birthday", too...

(oops, I'm posting under his screen name)

Boy, now that's a man who should have NO excuses.

DH's birthday is Dec. 26th. Because it's such a lousy day to have a birthday, I always make a big deal about it. We even decorate a "birthday tree" under which all of his birthday presents (wrapped in BIRTHDAY-not Christmas-paper) are placed. Since I go to such trouble at such a busy time, it is pretty irritating when he doesn't go to any trouble for mine.

 

[sunlver]

Thanks everybody for the birthday wishes.

 

[missypie]

Oh I wish...no I am 99.9999% sure there is no big plan or surpises in store for me. He works two jobs half the week.When he does come home,he goes right to the driveway to work on his project, which is fixing/tinkering with some sort of car. I know that is always on his mind, because he takes his lunch break and goes to the auto parts store or to the car junk yard to find parts for his project. My guess, he has other priorities on his mind,and my birthday is not one of them.
I have mentioned it several times over the last two weeks that my birthday is coming up. I have told the kids right in front of him. So, its been no big secret.

I'm a bit vindictive....if it were me, I think I'd wait until he was all dirty under the car and gather up the kids and say, "The kids and I are going to dinner to celebrate my birthday. Wanna come?" Or, if he gets home late from Job #2, he'd find a note saying "The kids and I are at dinner celebrating my birthday."

 

[crz4mm2]

I agree. If it is important to you, remind him.
DH frequently forgets dates. I remind him too (or remind the kids to remind him ). works for us. That way everyone is happy.

The first year we were married he asked what I wanted for Valentines day. I said "nothing". so that's what I got... NOt even a card. I was VERY upset. hurt, disappointed all that. When I told him I was disappointed I didn't even receive one of those little kiddie cards he said "you told me you didn't want ANYTHING"... sigh.
Next year I got a whole box of those little kiddie cards

Tell him. They don't think the same way we do...

Happy Birthday btw.

 

[sunlver]

Well I was right..He is home now and hasn't said a thing. He has forgotten. I am so hurt and sad, that I can't bring myself to say anything. Hes off buying the kids McDonalds for dinner.. oh well 6 more hours and this day will be hour, and no more birthday until another year

 

[wilderness01]

I'm sorry.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Tell him you are not happy. Not even a card? Jeesh. Even if you are both not big on celebrating, the LEAST he could do is say happy birthday.

 

[hydster]

AWWW sweetie! I know how you feel. When my b-day was forgotten I just ignored it.......now I'd be up, perky and saying.....I'm going to go out with X and we're going to go celebrate my birthday tonight! C ya! And walk out the door. But then that's just me!!

So sorry you're having such a crummy day!

 

[mcco5543]

I know your hurt and sad and you deserve to be! I know birthday's aren't a big deal in your house, but you still have to aknowledge the day with lots of love and affection and a big happy birthday! When you're ready it's imperitive that he knows how hurt you were. I'm sure he's a good man and will be crushed that he hurt you so much. Hurting someone you love is always worse than making them mad so make sure you express the hurt it has caused to not hear "happy birthday" even after you've reminded him the last 2 weeks. He wont' forget again i'm sure!

I'm sorry you feel sad on your special day and we Diser's were SO glad you were born!!! Happy Birthday!

 

[tluvstink]

I'm sorry....but I would let him know how hurt you are so this doesn't happen again.


Terri

 

[sunlver]

While the kids were eating their McDonalds, I left to do a couple of errands. I needed gas, and the dogs needed food. Apparently one of the kids must of mentioned it was my birthday. When he saw me pull up, he came outside. I was getting the dogfood out of the car and he said "I didnt even realize it was the 24th, why didnt you say anything?" HUH????WHY DIDNT I SAY ANYTHING....I just walked right inside, put the dog food away and went on with my business.Oh well...some men have "it" and some dont. There could be worse things right?

 

[LUVMYTINK]

Would you be upset if your spouse forgot your birthday?

Today is my birthday.. My husband has not remembered ...We have been married 14 yrs. I did tell my kids it was my birthday. After all, they are just kids, and never know one date from another date. Granted we dont make a big deal about our birthdays(mine and my husbands). Normally there is a dinner out and a card..So its no big hoopla. DO you think I have to remind him its my birthday. We both watched the news this morning before he went to work. It clearly stated the date. I went back to sleep.
When I came down, I saw he had called. I thought, ok he remembered. I called him back at work, and he said he wanted me to remind my daughter to clean her room. Apparently they had an agreement she would clean when she got up. I said "Anything else?" he said no. We both hung up...sigh...

So yes, my feelings are hurt, but do I need to remind a an adult/husband. He works at a desk/computer all day, so I know he knows what date it is..

Anybody elses spouse not acknowledge their birthday?

Sorry he forgot your birthday, you can celebrate with my #2 DS, it's his birthday today too.

I sure my DH would forget mine too (even after 13yrs. of marriage). So when I get a new calendar every year I write everyone's b-day in it and mine in BIG BOLD RED letters. It hangs in the kitchen so I know he will see it.

 

[pearlieq]

I'm sorry. That stinks.

 

[SandiH]

While the kids were eating their McDonalds, I left to do a couple of errands. I needed gas, and the dogs needed food. Apparently one of the kids must of mentioned it was my birthday. When he saw me pull up, he came outside. I was getting the dogfood out of the car and he said "I didnt even realize it was the 24th, why didnt you say anything?" HUH????WHY DIDNT I SAY ANYTHING....I just walked right inside, put the dog food away and went on with my business.Oh well...some men have "it" and some dont. There could be worse things right?

OK, I just don't get this. If you want to be acknowledged, then say something!!!!! He's a GUY!!! Guys can be clueless to the date, to the event, whatever. I'm sorry he forgot but goodness, give him a chance to fix it early in the day instead of moping around all day being PO'd. That's no way to celebrate a birthday.

Sorry to be harsh but guys think differently than us girls and they need help in this area - especially if it's important to us.

I hope some part of your day was Happy.

 

[wilderness01]

OK, I just don't get this. If you want to be acknowledged, then say something!!!!! He's a GUY!!! Guys can be clueless to the date, to the event, whatever. I'm sorry he forgot but goodness, give him a chance to fix it early in the day instead of moping around all day being PO'd. That's no way to celebrate a birthday.

Sorry to be harsh but guys think differently than us girls and they need help in this area - especially if it's important to us.

I hope some part of your day was Happy.

Ok I am sorry, but that is way too harsh. Not every guy is clueless just because he is a guy. They know how to romance and remember when they are dating, don't they? Well, most do. Who says she was moping around all day? Her feelings are hurt and rightly so. Instead of apologizing immediately and trying to make her feel better, he wanted to know why she didn't say anything. This would further upset me that he isn't accepting or taking responsibility, but placing the blame on the birthday girl. Actually if that statement came out of my husband's mouth, I would then be mad as he$$. Shame on him. Not the worst thing in the world I am sure, but today he acted like a clod.