Forgetting birthdays...

[sunlver]

Would you be upset if your spouse forgot your birthday?

Today is my birthday.. My husband has not remembered ...We have been married 14 yrs. I did tell my kids it was my birthday. After all, they are just kids, and never know one date from another date. Granted we dont make a big deal about our birthdays(mine and my husbands). Normally there is a dinner out and a card..So its no big hoopla. DO you think I have to remind him its my birthday. We both watched the news this morning before he went to work. It clearly stated the date. I went back to sleep.
When I came down, I saw he had called. I thought, ok he remembered. I called him back at work, and he said he wanted me to remind my daughter to clean her room. Apparently they had an agreement she would clean when she got up. I said "Anything else?" he said no. We both hung up...sigh...

So yes, my feelings are hurt, but do I need to remind a an adult/husband. He works at a desk/computer all day, so I know he knows what date it is..

Anybody elses spouse not acknowledge their birthday?

 

[SC Minnie]

I would be upset if DH didn't acknowledge mine since it is on the same day as his own.

 

[mickeyboat]

My spouse would be in the dog house.

In fact, I reminded him last night that it was 2 months until my birthday.

Happy birthday, BTW!

Denae

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

Happy Birthday! I'm sorry your feelings are hurt today.

DH doesn't forget mine, but would if I didn't mention it a couple of days ahead of time. I mention it because he's a guy and not exactly organized. He doesn't know his own mother's birthday. My feelings would be hurt if he didn't acknowledge me, so I make sure he can't forget.

eta...I mention it by saying something like, "Hon, where are we going for dinner for my birthday on Thursday?" You have to do it early enough to give them a chance to get you a gift.

 

[flipturngirl]

Happy Birthday! things will work out.


ETA:

You could also have your kids talk to your husband and be like "its mommys birthday what are we getting her.?" or something haha

 

[hydster]

First off Happy Birthday to you! Mine is on Sunday!!

I had this happen to me as well and it did hurt my feelings twice fold. We were married August 23rd and my birthday is August 26th. We were married at the age of 20 so I turned 21 ON my honeymoon. We drove to SFO from Utah and were in the car the entire time. He knew the date because he said it when we were at breakfast. Hmm..it's Monday Aug 26th. We rode in the car for 10 hours straight *poor college students*. Checked into our hotel that night. Still nothing........I went downstairs and decided to try and get carded to buy a beer........nope not carded. Just $5.75 for the can MA'AM! UGH!

Go back to the room......nope nothing. He tries getting all frisky *we were on our honeymoon* and I was like NO FREAKIN WAY! I told him I was tired

Next day I'm hurt, he asks me why I'm being so mopey and I tell him. He hasn't forgotten since!

I am sorry your hubby forgot. That stinks even if you don't make a big deal out of it *which we don't either* but still.......................

Of course now at my age I'd rather most people forgot the day! You can only turn 29 so many times KWIM? LOL

 

[budbeerlady]

To be fair Dh and I are a week apart, so he has an inkling that he better get working on it when he has his. But 2 years ago he "didnt have time to stop anywhere to get anything" but he did have a moment to stop at the local gas station to pick himself up a 6pk. Which I pointed out to him as nicely as I could without going to jail that they probley had flowers there, it was a very quiet week at our house.

So unless he comes in the door with nothing, or a six pack, hopefully he will pull thru and get you a card or something. Otherwise....

And by the way, Happy Birthday!

 

[horseshowmom]

Happy Birthday to you!

Try not to feel too bad. DH and I have both been known to forget each others birthdays (and our own anniversary from time to time ),and we really truly do adore each other. I did feel really bad earlier this week, because I forgot to call my mother on her birthday (I've been sick and overworked, but I still felt bad about it). I guess I care more about how we treat each other every other day of the year (although I do have a special spot in my heart for birthday cake ), but I do understand how you feel.

I hope he remembers later!

 

[mickeyboat]

To be fair Dh and I are a week apart, so he has an inkling that he better get working on it when he has his. But 2 years ago he "didnt have time to stop anywhere to get anything" but he did have a moment to stop at the local gas station to pick himself up a 6pk. Which I pointed out to him as nicely as I could without going to jail that they probley had flowers there, it was a very quiet week at our house.

So unless he comes in the door with nothing, or a six pack, hopefully he will pull thru and get you a card or something. Otherwise....

And by the way, Happy Birthday!

DH is the same way. I couldn't get you a Valentine's Day gift because it we had a snowstorm the night before. I couldn't get you a birthday gift because I worked late.

I informed him that he has had an entire year to plan. And I have also lessened my expecations. There really isn't much I need that I won't just go out and get myself. I would rather go out to a nice dinner together, or to go away for a weekend. And I can make those plans myself.

Denae

 

[General Xho]

Thanks for the reminder. The wife's birthday is coming up.

 

[NMAmy]

My mom gave me some wise advise many years ago. If you want something, ask for it.

Birthdays are a big deal to me. They're not to DH but he knows they're important to me and dd so he will go all out for the birthdays. However, I do give him a public service announcement about 2 weeks out. As in "14 more shopping days until my birthday!" Repeat as necessary.

He doesn't forget my birthday; I don't get upset. Win/win. It's not a big deal to me to remind him.

And Happy Birthday to you!

 

[missypie]

My birthday always falls either during or right after spring break. I get the same "lack of planning" excuses....couldn't shop because we were on spring break, couldn't shop because we just got back from spring break.

This year I wanted a red Chi (hair straightener). I have a March birthday and started telling everyone I wanted one right after Christmas. My birthday was the day after we returned from Spring Break....I got a call that afternoon..."I was looking on line and they don't have red Chis anymore." Looking on line...ON my birthday....even if they had them, it wouldn't have arrived in time for my birthday.

I said, "No big deal. Just make sure I have a cake."
Pause, pause...."You want a cake?"
So I told him what kind of cake to buy and where to buy it.
And on Saturday, I went to Ulta and bought a red Chi.

 

[wilderness01]

Happy Birthday

We don't make a big deal here either. However, I wouldn't be reminding him either. I don't blame you for being hurt. Try and enjoy the day with the kids.

 

[missypie]

My mom gave me some wise advise many years ago. If you want something, ask for it.

Birthdays are a big deal to me. They're not to DH but he knows they're important to me and dd so he will go all out for the birthdays. However, I do give him a public service announcement about 2 weeks out. As in "14 more shopping days until my birthday!" Repeat as necessary.

He doesn't forget my birthday; I don't get upset. Win/win. It's not a big deal to me to remind him.

And Happy Birthday to you!

I follow this rule with flowers. From the beginning of our marriage, I told him that he didn't have to send flowers for Valentines Day, but that flowers were required for our anniversary. Each time I was pregnant, I told him that he had to send me flowers as soon as I gave birth and that they had to be BIG because no flower arrangement could possibly be too big to show his appreciation for me giving birth to his child. He complied. With one of the kids, the arrangement was so big that it looked like the centerpiece for a banquet table.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I'd simply divorce him and find someone else with a calendar.



Of course I am She With the Most Serious Need for Affirmation on Her Birthday.

AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!!!!! Go buy yourself a cake. And put some balloons on the front door. Tell him you forgot to invite him to your party.

 

[mrsltg]

Happy Birthday!!!

Yes, remind him - BUT - don't let it turn into a fight. Kids like to celebrate birthdays - parents included - and you will make them sad if you're sad.

I would let him know you are disappointed and hurt. Birthdays are a big deal and should be celebrated (at least in my house!!!)

 

[MagicalMom]

The day isn't over yet. Maybe he has a big suprise planned for you.

BTW, Happy Birthday!!!!

 

[pearlieq]

Maybe he's planning a surprise? Just trying to be optimisitc.

I would be hurt too. But think of all the fun you'll have when he realizes what he did and tries to make up for it. It should be like a double birthday!

 

[missypie]

I'd simply divorce him and find someone else with a calendar.



Of course I am She With the Most Serious Need for Affirmation on Her Birthday.

AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!!!!! Go buy yourself a cake. And put some balloons on the front door. Tell him you forgot to invite him to your party.

In all seriousness, if you can afford it and have the time, I'd go get a cake from my favorite bakery and go shopping.

That is one benefit for having a spring break birthday that no one remembers....I always buy myself a special treat on vacation. This year it was a few pieces of very cool pottery in Barcelona!!!

One year, we were at Disneyland Paris the day before my birthday. There was a Minnie Mouse kids tea set that I liked so much. I hinted mightily and couldn't BELIEVE that no one bought it for me. (After that, I started buying my own birthday treats.)

 

[luvtogo12]

The day isn't over yet. Maybe he has a big suprise planned for you.

BTW, Happy Birthday!!!!

That was my thought exactly!! Pretending to forget may be part of the plan.

Happy Birthday.