For you MOMs out there... do you go solo ever?

[cindyfan]

Such a dilemma.....
Oldest DD has #2 grandson on the way.... so tough to go to WDW with the babies and all their "stuff" in tow.
and....
Now that youngest DD is 14 and WAY too busy with High School activities.....
It is a real struggle to plan a full week at WDW.

It isn't DH's "cup of tea" so to speak.... he mostly went because we all voted WDW as our vacation spot. Not much of a vacationer.

So it looks like our original 9 day trip for next June has been cut to maybe 6 days.

It just doesn't seem enough for me.

So.... Moms out there.....
do you go solo? and do you end up feeling guilty ? Or worse yet.... Lonely?

Since everyone's schedules are so busy, I was thinking a solo trip plus the short trip with the rest of them.

I could get an AP for myself. Added benifit of getting AP rates for both trips.

I'm just afraid I would get down there and feel lonely with out DD!!
I've been without DH.... that wouldn't bother me.... but without either DD....

 

[cindyfan]

Oops... meant to post on another board...
Maybe a moderator can move it to the appropiate one.
Thanks,

 

[Janet2k]

Before this gets moved, I just thought I'd tell you that I've been to WDW three times without my family. Sure, I missed 'em, but I made the trips fun by either going and/or hooking up with some of my friends and/or Internet buddies (lots of wonderful folks who I've met through these boards). Those trips were wonderful and I wouldn't trade them for the world.

One of the trips without my family happened when my daughter was an infant (I had just stopped breast feeding otherwise I probably wouldn't have been able to go on that trip -- I know -- way too much info!). But I went on that trip with my best girlfriend and the two of us had a ball. We danced (both at Pleasure Island & at the Atlantic Dance Hall), drank lots of champagne (our drink of choice that trip), took plenty of midnight swims, and just plain had the times of our lives. She & I still talk about that trip to this day. And when my husband & I celebrated 20 years of marriage with a Fairy Tale Weddings vow renewal last fall, my girlfriend was right there with me: click here. She has joined my family on many WDW trips. I love her as if she were my own sister (and my parents actually consider her one of the family after last fall's vacation).

By the way, I was in WDW for two weeks for that vow renewal. And wanna know who was with me for my first week? No one. I went by myself (my family & friends joined up with me at the end of my first week). It was wonderful to be by myself. And I got to meet another one of my wonderful Internet friends, SlightyGoofy: click here.

No matter what you decide to do, I hope you have as magical vacations as I have had, both with your family and without.

 

[DeeDeeDis]

Cindyfan

go for it, to keep from getting lonely talk a friend of two into going with you, book a spa treatment or two, stay out late and spend the morning in your pjs on the balcony watching the world walk by. When you start feeling guilty stop at the disney store and buy the kids/grandkids a small gift.

If your YOUNGEST is 14 years old, you deserve to treat yourself to a few days away from the family. Don't worry they're survive just fine.

Second girls only trip at wdw - Oct 22 to 28th

have a GREAT time

 

[Alicnwondrln]

go and have fun
i am struggling with this also
i wanna go alone or with friends but my DH says its wrong to go without him and boys
we have come to an understanding
but it has been hard

 

[kmjmom]

Two years ago I took a trip with my DD then 10 for a girls trip. I planned a separate FLA vacation for my husband and two sons. It was great. My DD and I are hoping to repeat the moments again this April. My Mom and sister met us there to complete the girls in the family. I highly recommend it.

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

I went for a 3 day weekend once totally by myself and I didn't feel lonely or guilty! I love doing a lot of things, like checking out all the resorts, that others just don't seem to get into.

Go for it - it's fun!

 

[cindyfan]

Thanks you have all inspired me!
I think I will be planning 2 trips for next year!

That is a great idea to try to hook up with some DIS friends!!
I've always wanted to do that, but felt bad dragging the family to meet people they have no clue who they are or why I want to meet them!
They don't "get it" .... why I spend so much time on these boards!

 

[LegoMom3]

I would LOVE to go solo, just once! Problem is, my family are all as big of a Disney nut as I am, so not only would they be insanely jealous, but I'd feel a tad guilty (at least for the first 2 minutes! LOL!!). Lonely?...no, not me. I thrive on time to myself, which I attribute to being a combination of growing up an only child and now, having 3 kiddos of my own, needing some time away!

You all have got me thinking, though....I turn 40 next year, and I know we won't be able to afford a trip for all 5 of us yet, but maybe that's a good enough reason (read: excuse!) to go solo for the first time?!?!

Hmmm....

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm doing my first solo trip in late Nov!! My dd is a little miffed about it, but since she has been to WDW 4 times in the last 12 months, I don't think she has a leg to stand on!!! I'm looking forward to hooking up with some DIS buddies and also just going it on my own. It should be nice to do exactly what I want, when I want to do it. It's only for 4 nights/5 days, so I shouldn't feel to lonely or miss dd or dh. But, I'm sure there will be times that it will feel a bit strange not having them with me.

 

[magiroux]

Well Diane, at least you have the "you know what" to tell DD where you're going. Me, I'm a big chicken, cluck cluck. I'm trying to think of what to say without blatantly fibbing .

That being said, I am looking forward to my solo trip. I am also meeting up with DIS friends but looking forward to being able to do the parks without worrying about what everyone else in the family does or does not want to do. I even booked a Segway Tour. Something DH has never wanted to do and DD is too young.

 

[dyna]

I would LOVE to go solo!!!!! Not gonna happen tho can't even go to store for loaf of bread solo here.

 

[cindyfan]

I'm doing my first solo trip in late Nov!! My dd is a little miffed about it, but since she has been to WDW 4 times in the last 12 months, I don't think she has a leg to stand on!!! I'm looking forward to hooking up with some DIS buddies and also just going it on my own. It should be nice to do exactly what I want, when I want to do it. It's only for 4 nights/5 days, so I shouldn't feel to lonely or miss dd or dh. But, I'm sure there will be times that it will feel a bit strange not having them with me.

How old is your DD?
Mine is 14 and not sure she would understand me going without her!!
Her goal is to work hard enough with her music and trumpet that she can go to WDW under the College Internship and play in one of the street bands.... then ultimately stay there after she graduates from college!
So it would be tough to leave her at home!

 

[Simba's Mom]

My first solo trip was when my 2 DSs were 15 and 12. Not only were they OK with it, but they (together with DH) gave it to me as a gift. Needless to say, I cried when I opened the confirmation envelope, and they high-fived each other, "We did it!" Fortunately, they've never minded-they know that in our family, Mom's the biggest Disney nut.

 

[DeeDeeDis]

Cindyfan

your daughter is 14 years old, she is in high school. She has to learn the world does NOT always revolve around her (I repeat this statement so often to my three boys that i am seriously considering having a sign made so i can just hold it up). Please I'm sure she's a really sweet kid, but if you are anything like we are we have all overindulged our children to some point and as a result they "occassionaly" only think about how something will effect them.

You sound like a sweet person who gives alot of yourself to your family, you DESERVE to come FIRST every once in a while and a girls only and/or solo trip is a GREAT way to START.

Stop feeling guilty, your daughter will get over it and may even enjoy a few days without "mom" underfoot, your husband will survive and the grand kids will be as cute as ever when you get home. So stop hedging and get on that phone and make some plans for yourself.

 

[allaboutmm]

go and have fun
i am struggling with this also
i wanna go alone or with friends but my DH says its wrong to go without him and boys
we have come to an understanding
but it has been hard

My DH must have called your DH b/c I am getting the same guilt trip! We are going as a family in Dec. can't wait!! But, I would love to do WDW with no kids. My DH says," Every 2yrs for Disney,or we will get sick of it", you see, he doesn't get it! I would love to go once a year. So.........a friend of mine she wants to go sometime winter 2006. Just for a quick trip, fly out Thursday night come home late Sunday night. I REALLY want to do this!!! But in the back of my mind I hear....we will just have been getting back, the money?, aren't you going to feel gulity w/out the kids? Its like I have my DH standing on one shoulder, and on the other! HELP!!!!!

 

[newholidayx2]

DS13 & I went for our first mother/son two week WDW vacation Aug 13-27.

In March I'll be flying to FL w/a friend and her 16yr daughter. They'll be spending the first 3 days offsite at a cheerleading competition. That will be my first ever solo. On the 4th day they'll come join me at VWL for the next 4nights.

Next Aug DH, DS & I will be at WDW for a wk before our Magical Western cruise!

 

[DeeDeeDis]

allaboutmm

You can get around the money guilt by starting to save for your "girls only" trip now, you have about a year and a half. If you dont work outside the house than spend $12.00/week less on groceries and stash that money away somewhere. Go during value season, Sept, early Dec or January. rooms are pretty cheap at this time of year, you'd be spliting the cost with a friend or even two so that will reduce your cost. Southwest flies to orlando from Ma and/or RI all the time, be vigilent and you could get round trip for as little as 101.00.

You children will be 10, 7 and 4 1/2 years old. Ask mom/MIL to help with the kids and/or arrange for them to spend a nite and/or time with their friends. Have a babysitter come over for a few hours so dad can go watch the game?? Make this an adventure for the kids, do a calendar with some small thing for them to do everyday while you are gone.

Precook and freeze dinners. Bring everyone home a BIG surprise.

I always feel sad when i read that someones dh is making them feel bad about a vacation without "the family". I'm confused by how someone who loves you would begrudge you joy, i mean its not like your doing this every week.

I hope you all find it inside yourselves to start putting yourselves first once and a while, we really are better people when every once in a while we do something special just for us.

 

[cindyfan]

DeeDeeDis.... thanks for the support. It is about time for me to do something for myself.

My DD really isn't one of the typical teens that believes "the world revolves around her" She is always telling me it is okay if I do things that I want to do.
I just know how much she LOVES WDW and even though she told me to go.... she might still feel bad...

She is always telling me things like "you don't have to buy me that.... you should get yourself that (whatever) "
That is what makes it tough not to take her.... because she is so great about making sacrifices for others!!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

My DH must have called your DH b/c I am getting the same guilt trip! We are going as a family in Dec. can't wait!! But, I would love to do WDW with no kids. My DH says," Every 2yrs for Disney,or we will get sick of it", you see, he doesn't get it! I would love to go once a year. So.........a friend of mine she wants to go sometime winter 2006. Just for a quick trip, fly out Thursday night come home late Sunday night. I REALLY want to do this!!! But in the back of my mind I hear....we will just have been getting back, the money?, aren't you going to feel gulity w/out the kids? Its like I have my DH standing on one shoulder, and on the other! HELP!!!!!

yeah maybe he did
LOL
its hard i love my osne ds6 and ds amlmost 2
my DH works fulltime monthru fri
i recently started staying home with the boys saving $ alot more $ now that we dont have to pay daycare
i am home iwth them all day, i work part time at night 20 to 25 hours a week for extra money and to get out of the house and i am taking some classes
i feel the what i contribute is just an important
sometimes he doesnt
i feel if i can go away with my friends for 3 days he shouldnt care but he freaked out
i was like whatever you have 5 weeks paid vacation and have taken none
i felt like i had to put my foot down
i think i deserve some time alone away once in awhile
he goes to foxwoods and other places with his friends
how come i cant do the same

where r u from in ma allaboutmm?