For those with kids and dont do Halloween

WE did it once years ago 'cause the cousins wanted us to. Saw too many scary costumes passing us on the street & scary people answering the doors so we never went again.

THOUGH dh & I really didn't ever plan on taking the kiddos - I can remember being scared @ a house down the street - in fact I can tell you exactly which one to this day...LOL

So we go to the local church that has a fall festival - that way the kids have something fun to do & we don't just have to sit @ home with the lights off (which we've done before too)
 
Halloween is to Samhain as Christmas is to Winter Solstice as Easter is to Oestre or Beltane. :ssst:

Anyway, I'm off topic.

I stopped handing out candy b/c I got tired of all the kids that aren't from my town who get bussed in to trick or treat and who are in high school.

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i didn't give out candy this year. i live in an apartment complex, and i was going to be alone tonight, so i was afraid to constantly be opening my door to the unknown. i kept my light off and my door locked, and i ate the candy myself. ;)
 
You know, I feel the same way. Annoyed. The thing that bothers me is the 6 week buildup where we are treated to skulls, ghoulish creatures, naughty costumes,etc. Halloween isn't uplifting, it doesn't celebrate the gathering of family, it doesn't help anyone else. It's a purely selfish day with no redeeming value.

My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving because there are no presents, it's all about being grateful for our blessings, and gathering with our families, whoever that may be.:thumbsup2


Your opinion is certainly your opinion but my opinion is that you aren't celebrating it right if you don't think it doesn't celebrate gathering of family. My son helped me make his costume, we went to my dad's house tonight and laughed while chatting and sharing candy. My dad loves handing out candy and seeing all the costumes. It is a giving holiday. It is a family holiday. It is fun and we all enjoy the time spent together before and during the actual day.
 

I never celebrated halloween growing up and we still don't celebrate it now that I'm a parent. It is mostly because of religious reasons.
But another reason is I tell my kids not to take anything including candy from strangers every day and don't see why that should be any different on this day. Plus it is just a gross day, the decorations get worse every year.
 
Pagan origins? I suspect that some don't know the full story of the other holidays.

Anyway, we were lucky enough to attend a hayride that is strongly themed around Halloween including some of the darker images. We were surrounded by huge family groups with everyone from small kids to the elderly all having a wonderful time. That is certainly family enough for me!
 
When our children's church leader goes trick or treating in a monkey suit with his kids, then our church must be mainstream.

It's a great day for family and friends to gather, spend some time together, and get free candy. In addition, look at all of the exercise that everyone got last night. Halloween is what you make of it.

Now to figure out how to get the rest of the makeup off my face before serving communion this morning.......
 
:thumbsup2 My DS attends a Christian school. They do not allow Halloween costumes or Halloween themed decorations for religious reasons & at Christmas it's about celebrating Jesus Birthday & they have a birthday party for Jesus (at school). They tell you in their manual that what you do in your home is your personal belief but at school no Santa or Halloween. But they do have a candy corn festival & a harvest festival as well as a Christmas pageant. We love it all, so the kids have tons of fun ! Our neighborhood has very few children & no one passed by last year so this year we took him to a birthday/Halloween party & DS had a blast & got tons of candy. Now personally while we (DH & I) consider ourselves Christians & attend services were raised with trick or treat & Santa Claus. I dress up DS in fun costumes at Halloween & watch silly old movies & we do put up a tree at Christmas & he still (sort of) believes in Santa (busted me a few times hiding stuff in a closet lol). & I LOVE to cook & bake for the holidays (starting with Halloween & ending with New Year's Eve). As a matter of fact since I am latin, he gets a present on the 3 wise men day too !!!! (usually something simple under the bed - got that from my mom)

Some people I know don't do what we do & that's fine. To each their own.
 
Honestly, I have yet to meet anyone who doesn't celebrate halloween (the majority of people here are Catholic, and we love our holidays!). We live 5 homes away from a major street here that gets a lot of halloween traffic (to the point that people come from out of town), and we end up seeing neighbors that we rarely see, and other families. And the kids have so much fun! :goodvibes

Edited to add that the kids are going to CCD this morning, and are all having halloween celebrations in a religious setting.
 
We don't celebrate Halloween and never have because of the gory, horror-like costumes. It can verge on glorifying evil and we just don't do that. The origins have nothing to do with it for us. It's by far my least favorite holiday. Our daughter has Asperger's and is super sensitive to visual stuff. It can leave her with nightmares. She's 14 now and more able to handle things but for years, we would have to approach our house from a different direction due to a neighbor's Halloween display which went way beyond pumpkins and ghosts. She really can't handle disturbing images so we try to to completely avoid the holiday - other than carving a pumpkin (and then smashing it - her favorite part).

Last night, we went out to do some clothes shopping and then drove around our beautiful beach areas while listening to the Charlie Brown Christmas CD. We had a wonderful evening! We got back and our neighborhood was still slammed with people. Our subdivision begins next to a church parking lot and people come from other areas, park, and then TOT in our subdivision. The parking lot was full (with TOT people)and people had parked all over the place. Some neighbors count and the total is usually 400 - 500 - most of whom do NOT live in our neighborhood.

We kept the porch light off and did our normal evening routine. Our tradition is to put up our Christmas decorations on the day after - and that's what we'll be doing today. I'm very glad that Halloween is over for another year.
 
Our family doesn't celebrate Halloween for personal religious reasons, due to it's Pagan origins. You can google for lots of information on the origins of Halloween. Of course a lot of people see it is a fun day for the kids to get to dress up and get candy. We don't see it that way. :flower3:

I used to think that way too. Do you celebrate Christmas. It's origins are just as pagan. The puritans actually outlawed celebrating Christmas for a while. I am a Christian and I have a problem celebrating Christmas as Christ's birthday. I think it was not right to take the Roman celebration of the winter solstice and tack Christ's name to it in an effort to get converted pagans to celebrate the exact same holiday with the exact same traditions just with a different name. Christ was born no where near December. I do celebrate Christmas and we do use the oppurtunity to discuss with our kids trhe miracle of Christ's birth but to us it's a holiday about family, love and giving. I do not let my children dress up as witches, ghouls or anything gory but to me the holiday is just harmless frivolity.
 
I can't imagine not celebrating Halloween. It's one of our biggest holidays of the year. Thanksgiving is usually just for our immediate family (wife and kids). Christmas is often a holiday with extended family. Halloween is our big community holiday.

We decorate the house and yard. We have neighborhood parties. I convert the garage into a makeshift photo studio and take pictures of all the trick-or-treaters to share with neighbors. Another neighbor does a haunted house. The school has a storybook character parade in which the little ones dress up as their favorite storybook character. The older kids had a "bat day" party where we did bat related crafts and games.

It is such a fun holiday. The kids love dressing up. They revel in the "safe" but "spooky" aspects of the holiday. For us, it is no more of a religious holiday than labor day is a labor movement holiday. It's a chance to have fun.

The one tradition I'd change is the candy stuff. It was great when I was a kid and you'd come home with interesting cookies, popcorn balls, and other home made confections. Now's it is just heaps of Snickers bars and other typical junk that kids get too much of already. I'd like to switch to giving the kids coins. We get about 100 trick-or-treaters, so a quarter a kid would work out to only $25. I'm sure that the kids would rather have cash to spend rather than candy to eat. It would be a perfect change to get Christmas holiday shopping money.
 
We celebrate Halloween but we don't go waaay out for it. We go to the Fall Festival at church (on Halloween and the kids can come dressed anyway they want--scary or not. Our purpose is to get as many kids from the community to come as possible so we don't dictate what they can wear) and dd goes trick or treating and then we spend the night watching "scary" movies (she hasn't gotten any more scary than "The Haunted Mansion" quite yet) and eating her candy and other junk.

I think its a fun holiday and could care less about its "origins" (I am a Christian). Any holiday is what YOU make it. If YOU make it about evil then it is, if you make it about family then it is, if you make it about church and practicing your religion then it is.
 
I thought Halloween started in Ireland when the poor would go to the door of the wealthy and ask for apples or nuts?
 
I thought Halloween started in Ireland when the poor would go to the door of the wealthy and ask for apples or nuts?

Not really, it dates back to Samhain on the Irish calendar, which was essentially the day that the shepherds returned with the flocks from their summer pastures. In some ways, it's a lot like Mothering Sunday in that origin of families being reunited, so it was decidedly a family holiday. It was also the time of year when the flocks and herds were culled, since you wouldn't keep any but the breeding animals alive over the winter. It meant there was plenty of meat around for once, so you bet there was feasting.

Aside from the culling, the ghostly aspect of Samhain/Halloween came into it when people figured that on this night of homecoming, even the dead would visit as they were wont to do in life. So they opted to be hospitable and leave out some of the feast for them. Of course, there are a huge range of folk beliefs, so a hundred different reasonings for the customs would be equally true in different places. Jack-o-lanterns have been said to be everything from lighting the way home for the beloved dead to warding away "the good neighbors" and unpleasant sorts. Masks have been said to be worn because this time of year everything is in flux, so "the other side" could be showing up (both good and bad), or because you didn't want to be recognized by the dead, for whatever reason.

Trick or treating is actually a recent phenomenon, it was thought up in the early 20th century because prior to that there was a lot more "mischief night" than friendly Halloween as we know it going on. The idea was to do something child-friendly and entertaining, most of the ancient origins of trick or treating were frankly made up at that time (this is around the same period that gave us the George Washington and the cherry tree story).

Since I'm getting into it, I'd also point out that Halloween isn't actually a one day thing. There's Halloween, All Saints' Day and All Souls' Day, in succession, with folklore and traditions associated with each one. Of course, back in history, there probably wasn't a set calendar day for any of it, it was just when it got too cold to stay out in the summer pastures, and it would continue so long as the party mood did.

(Would also care to point out, that as far as I know, for the entire historic period of Ireland from which we have records, including of their calendar: they were Christian. Ireland retained Christianity when the rest of the British Isles "lost it" for a period, and was part of the direction from which the British Isles were re-missionized. That would mean that Samhain/Halloween, from the Irish calendar, was not considered Pagan from the period that we have records, and we frankly don't have any real evidence of a great Pagan Samhain from beforehand... because there were no pre-Christian records to speak of. And, speaking as a Pagan, I can't quite see how a harvest or a homecoming is strictly one religion or another.)
 
Your opinion is certainly your opinion but my opinion is that you aren't celebrating it right if you don't think it doesn't celebrate gathering of family. My son helped me make his costume, we went to my dad's house tonight and laughed while chatting and sharing candy. My dad loves handing out candy and seeing all the costumes. It is a giving holiday. It is a family holiday. It is fun and we all enjoy the time spent together before and during the actual day.

I completely agree. It's all about the giving and spending time with friends and family at my house. The kids and I made Halloween cards for grandparents, baked cookies after school with their friends, visited family to show off costumes, and brought treats to friends. We made up goodie bags as a family, and had family over to carve pumpkins. My kids like handing out the candy just as much as getting their own. I love any excuse to get together with friends and family and act silly.

I respect everyones right to not participate but to call Halloween a selfish tradition boggles my mind. You're definitely doing it wrong.
 
For those with kids(who arent babies)and dont do the whole trick or treating/Halloween thing, why dont you?? Just curious thats all.:confused3

Plain and simple, it's a Pagan holiday. You can google and find out for yourself. A lot of people will change it to a Fall Festival celebration, but to me, it's the same thing. Not trying to start a debate, it's just how I believe. :flower3:

And before anyone asks, I don't celebrate Christmas for the same reason.
 
I have a friend who doesn't celebrate Halloween for religious reasons... however, she did email us all pictures of her son "celebrating" his first "Character Day". :confused3 Same difference?
 
I completely agree. It's all about the giving and spending time with friends and family at my house. The kids and I made Halloween cards for grandparents, baked cookies after school with their friends, visited family to show off costumes, and brought treats to friends. We made up goodie bags as a family, and had family over to carve pumpkins. My kids like handing out the candy just as much as getting their own. I love any excuse to get together with friends and family and act silly.

I respect everyones right to not participate but to call Halloween a selfish tradition boggles my mind. You're definitely doing it wrong.

I totally agree with you! Halloween is a time for family, friends, and neighborhoods. Halloween night is the only night in the year where we welcome total strangers to our doors. Instead of focusing on the dark side of Halloween, focus on the people that make up your neighborhood, the children who come to your door, and on what you can do to make the night fun and safe. I think it is the perfect opportunity to shine your Light in the all darkness.
 
This is what I find interesting...So I respect those who do not wish to celebrate it for whatever reason. What I find intersting is the people attach bible versus/booklets to the candy. I am guessing those people really dont like the Halloween holiday or dont really celebrate it, yet they give out candy with bible tracts(Isnt that what its called?)
A very good friend of mine who lives in a different state, does not celebrate Halloween for religious purposes. Her church doesnt do any fall celebration of any kind. Yet she told me she would not take her kids trick or treating, but hand out candy with bible tracts to the kids who came by?

I honestly respect people who do not celebrate it, but why bother with the candy and bible stuff then?:confused3
 



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