For those who are single, are you ever frustrated that you haven’t found the one yet?

[Buzz Rules]

For those who are single, are you ever frustrated that you haven’t found the one yet? I kind of feel that way to be honest. I’m in that 25-35 age bracket but sometimes it feels harder to meet potential people to date. Am I alone in this thinking?

 

[fla4fun]

Yes. You are not alone in your thinking. I hope you find someone before you reach my age. It doesn’t get any easier.

 

[Smugpugmug]

Not really. It is difficult to meet people nowdays (in person or online) but I don't mind being single at this point in my life. I would rather wait and find the right person than to rush it.

 

[RedAngie]

For those who are single, are you ever frustrated that you haven’t found the one yet? I kind of feel that way to be honest. I’m in that 25-35 age bracket but sometimes it feels harder to meet potential people to date. Am I alone in this thinking?

You mentioned about a week ago that you have a girlfriend but stay in separate rooms on trips if her family comes along.

Or was that a past relationship?

 

[Buzz Rules]

You mentioned about a week ago that you have a girlfriend but stay in separate rooms on trips if her family comes along.

Or was that a past relationship?

That was a past relationship. I thought I said that in my previous post on that thread but maybe it wasn’t clear.

 

[mikehn]

You are still a youngster, omg, whats the rush? Youre not even in your prime yet

 

[Buzz Rules]

You are still a youngster, omg, whats the rush? Youre not even in your prime yet

I’m not in a rush. My friends that are in the 28-31 age range, are all married. I’m not complaining or jealous, it just sort of feels I’m falling behind. I’m not trying to date someone to just date someone. It’s just harder to find real long term relationships when your around 30.

 

[BrianL]

I mean, I'm not really frustrated by it, and I'm way older than you are. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have, but sometimes I think it would be a total pain too. It doesn't help that I've only ever been in one "real" (and short-lived) relationship and it was a miserable experience in which I got totally burned and lost my ability to trust and general faith in humanity - okay not entirely, but mostly. But, you know, my time is mine, my money is mine, my space is mine - it's great! If you're lonely, get a cat or a dog.

 

[Mysterian]

You go to soccer games, right? Maybe meet someone at a game. You're Catholic? Maybe meet someone at a church function. You're into 1800's stuff? See who's at the Ren faire.

Take risks: Set up a table outside, and offer free pasta and lemonade (note: you must actually have pasta and lemonade to do this). Should a woman come by, hand her a plate of pasta, a fork, some lemonade, napkins, and most importantly, ask her out. Report back and let us know how it goes.

 

[BrianL]

You go to soccer games, right? Maybe meet someone at a game. You're Catholic? Maybe meet someone at a church function. You're into 1800's stuff? See who's at the Ren faire.

Take risks: Set up a table outside, and offer free pasta and lemonade (note: you must actually have pasta and lemonade to do this). Should a woman come by, hand her a plate of pasta, a fork, some lemonade, napkins, and most importantly, ask her out. Report back and let us know how it goes.

You do know that Ren faires are not set in the 1800's, right? Then agian, they do always seem to have pirates for some reason....

 

[DaisyDuck001]

I’m not in a rush. My friends that are in the 28-31 age range, are all married. I’m not complaining or jealous, it just sort of feels I’m falling behind. I’m not trying to date someone to just date someone. It’s just harder to find real long term relationships when your around 30.

Your friends might have rushed into marriage a little young. I wish them the very best, but from what I've observed, sometimes people who do that end up divorcing because they didn't take the time to establish their own identity as an adult before getting married. In a few years, it is possible some of your friends might be divorced while you may have found someone by then.

Also, it's possible to be a happy single person, and I encourage you to live your life to the fullest instead of putting it on hold until you meet "the one". If she does cross your path, she'll be more attracted to you seeing you're already active and happy in your life.

 

[Mysterian]

You do know that Ren faires are not set in the 1800's, right? Then agian, they do always seem to have pirates for some reason....

BrianL, the keen readers of the board know that Buzz posts about 1800's and Ren faires. Now, he's not going to find the 1800's at a Target or Home Depot, so the Ren faire is the closet thing.

 

[Buzz Rules]

BrianL, the keen readers of the board know that Buzz posts about 1800's and Ren faires. Now, he's not going to find the 1800's at a Target or Home Depot, so the Ren faire is the closet thing.

18th century is the 1700’s btw.

 

[Mysterian]

Your friends might have rushed into marriage a little young. I wish them the very best, but from what I've observed, sometimes people who do that end up divorcing because they didn't take the time to establish their own identity as an adult before getting married. In a few years, it is possible some of your friends might be divorced while you may have found someone by then.

Also, it's possible to be a happy single person, and I encourage you to live your life to the fullest instead of putting it on hold until you meet "the one". If she does cross your path, she'll be more attracted to you seeing you're already active and happy in your life.

I wholeheartedly agree with this.

18th century is the 1700’s btw.

They changed it to the 1800's when you weren't looking.

 

[Mysterian]

I mean, I'm not really frustrated by it, and I'm way older than you are. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have, but sometimes I think it would be a total pain too. It doesn't help that I've only ever been in one "real" (and short-lived) relationship and it was a miserable experience in which I got totally burned and lost my ability to trust and general faith in humanity - okay not entirely, but mostly. But, you know, my time is mine, my money is mine, my space is mine - it's great! If you're lonely, get a cat or a dog.

I thought you were messaging someone around the board here? I remember she used the word "soulmate".

 

[BrianL]

I thought you were messaging someone around the board here? I remember she used the word "soulmate".

I don't recall that word exactly because I post so much, but I have had some private chats with some folks and have kept in contact. There's been nothing quite in the romantic realm though. I mean, usually we don't even live anywhere close, so that's an issue.

 

[DaisyDuck001]

I don't recall that word exactly because I post so much, but I have had some private chats with some folks and have kept in contact. There's been nothing quite in the romantic realm though. I mean, usually we don't even live anywhere close, so that's an issue.

Although I'm not a romantic match for @BrianL in terms of age or geography, I've had a couple of casual, friendly meet-ups with him at WDW, and I think he's a great guy and human being. To any single ladies out there around his age, I just wanted to put in a good word for him!

 

[RamblingMad]

Not single. But here are some tips:

1) don't waste your time with anyone under 30. Folks under 30 rarely are interested in marriage. There are exceptions. See number 2.
2) join a religious institution. The marrying type tends to congregate.
3) don't worry about finding the perfect one. find someone you get along with.
4) avoid those who got divorced. you have a 50/50 chance of dating the crazy one. Once you get into your 40s or 50s, you can deal with sorting out the crazy one. Don't waste your time now.

Folks can call me crazy, but these tend to work.

 

[BrianL]

Although I'm not a romantic match for @BrianL in terms of age or geography, I've had a couple of casual, friendly meet-ups with him at WDW, and I think he's a great guy and human being. To any single ladies out there around his age, I just wanted to put in a good word for him!

Aww, well, thank you. I'm glad I wasn't too off-putting! I remember our couple of meet-ups and it was fun - a bit of a hectic breakfast at 1900 Park Faire, but a very nice early dinner at Skipper Canteen. Good stuff!

 

[BrianL]

Not single. But here are some tips:

1) don't waste your time with anyone under 30. Folks under 30 rarely are interested in marriage. There are exceptions. See number 2.
2) join a religious institution. The marrying type tends to congregate.
3) don't worry about finding the perfect one. find someone you get along with.
4) avoid those who got divorced. you have a 50/50 chance of dating the crazy one. Once you get into your 40s or 50s, you can deal with sorting out the crazy one. Don't waste your time now.

Folks can call me crazy, but these tend to work.

1) No worries for me there! I think I'm past the age range for 20-somethings, not to mention they're all crazy!
2) Well, I'm not very religious, but Disney fans do congregate...
3) I'm not expecting perfect, but there are some serious deal breakers like smoking or being a Rick & Morty fan!
4) Sometimes both of them were the crazy one - what then?