For those of you who are or have been in love,

[honeywolf7]

how did you know you were in love?

 

[RUDisney]

My heart skips a beat when I answer the phone and it is him. I still get excited when I see him unexpectedly, like when we're both driving our trucks.

He's the first thing I think of when I wake and the last good thought I have before I go to sleep.

Is it love? Yep... I think so.

 

[MosMom]

Good question...I don't even know. I couldn't stop thinking about DH when we met and when I saw him, my legs would turn to Jello. When he touched me, I thought I would just melt. Actually, that time period in the beginning when you are so madly in love have gone and I miss that feeling. I still am madly in love with DH but only sometimes do I get the butterflies in the stomach feeling these days. I suppose that is a good thing or I would get NOTHING done. I got the same feeling when our kids were born and sometimes I will catch a whiff of his cologne and go gaga.

It probably isn't even something that could be defined for everyone. I'm sure everyone feels it differently.

 

[CamColt]

It wasnt one clear sign, but something that grew. At first I wasnt too into DH, thinking he was just another jerk I was going to date. As we gradually got to know each other we found out we had lots of the same interests, same values, and same goals for our futures. We also found out we were different in ways which was good because we offset each other(Im a hyper spaz, hes very calm, stuff like that). And always treated me very well and we had fun together. It was then that we(or at least I) knew he was the one.

 

[danacara]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
how did you know you were in love?

Have you found a new love?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I really knew I was "in love" after 11yrs of marriage. We are both willingly to talk things out, and work it to the best ending. To me that is true love.

 

[Princess_Aurora]

Well, when I met DH we were just friends. It didn't take long for us to fall in love though. He lived pretty far away from me. We met on the internet and my friends invited him out with us one day because I had just been dumped. We all went out to the movies and it was as if I had known him forever...and not just me, my friends also talked to him online too so we were like old buddies all four of us. At first he just came down on the weekends. I knew it was love when I couldn't get through an entire week without seeing him. We did the ICQ think every night (this was before MSN Messenger) and we would talk for hours. After a couple of months he had me hooked. I couldn't deny it any longer, I was in LOVE. He already knew he loved me though but I was just too afraid of getting hurt again. Then I realized it was too late because if I were to never see him again I would be heartbroken. So he asked me to marry him and I said yes. Actually, I take that back. I never did say yes (Oops) I just snatch the ring from him and put it on my fingers and jumped up and down sqealling. My best friend came in the room to see what was going on and I started showing her my ring so DH never even actually got the chance to ASK if I would marry him. I knew what he meant though

And even today sometimes he'll just give me a hug and I'll melt in his arms. I love him so much

 

[pajamommy]

I agree with Mystery Machine, DH and I are there, where we don't take ourselves too seriously, we can talk and work things out without everything being a huge fight, etc. But at the beginning, we just clicked, I just knew. It was a feeling that I had that I hadn't had before with other guys. As RUDisney said, my heart skipped a beat every time I'd see him or talk to him when we first got together, and it STILL does, even more, really. And after 9/11, where 2 of our friends died and left their wives and kids alone, well, we just appreciate each other more now, we really do.

 

[DocRafiki]

I don't take the butterflies, weak knees, and obsessive thoughts to mean anything. I've gone through that at the beginning of all my relationships.

Everyone has their own definition of what "love" is, so it's more a matter of you deciding.... are the butterflies "love"? Am i in love now that I think about him all the time? Is it love because I cry for joy when he tells me he loves me? Is it love now that I put his needs before mine? Is it love now that he's paralyzed and disfigured, and yet I still want to be near him all the time?

And then people's definition of love changes. How many people do you know who were previously married for years and now say, "I THOUGHT I was in love. Now I KNOW."

I don't think there's an answer. I've wondered about this a lot.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I felt peacefulness, exhiliration, and contentment all at once in my heart. Unfortunately, he was the one who got away. I haven't felt like that with anyone else.

 

[tnkrbell]

It wasnt love at first sight thats for sure!! I thought he was a jerk!! (Very cute but a jerk)
I think when I realised he put me first above everything I knew he loved me. And I knew I loved him when I felt safe being with him.

 

[pumba]

hubby and I have been married for 35 years and I still get that butterfly feeling when I see him....I just love him....we have not been separated except when we were first married and he was in the service....long long months...we said we would never be apart for that long again....so we are sort of stuck at the hip still...oh wait...he did go moose hunting with our son and he called each of the two nights ....we even go hunting together....although he leaves me in the woods by myself now....he is a wonderful person to be hitched to....and the love that I felt then ...and the excitement I felt then....is still there.....

 

[honeywolf7]

Danacara, no I'm not in love....I'm not ready for that yet. This is actually for a Psychology paper I'm doing.

 

[Diane]

Love just kind of snuck up on me. I was bound and determined not to fall in love with him, because I didn’t think he’d stick around for very long. He was in the National Guard and was going away in March for 2 weeks. While we were talking on the phone the night before he left, I started to cry because I wouldn’t be seeing him for a while. And I thought, ‘Darn! I’m in love with him!’ We were together 4 years. After we broke up, I realized that I’d lost my best friend. But, I think that whoever said that it was ‘better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all’ was right.

 

[MosMom]

I don't take the butterflies, weak knees, and obsessive thoughts to mean anything. I've gone through that at the beginning of all my relationships.

Just because it didn't last doesn't necessarily mean it wasn't love though. I agree though that the feeling of love changes. I know that the weak knees was love...but I also know that when all 4 of us are piled in bed with messy hair watching movies all day, that is also love. It changes. I can't picture my life without him, disfigured or not. Hell, I didn't even know what he looked like when I met him. His looks are the last thing I saw and I didn't meet him until after I had already fallen in love with him.

 

[snoopy]

I agree with Tink. She said it exactly as I would have - when I realized that this man would go to the ends of the earth for me, that he would always keep me warm and safe and close to his heart, then I knew it was love. 15 years of marriage later, I still feel so very secure with him, I have never doubted his love for me in all these years.

Its funny you should post this because I was just thinking how blessed I am just a few hours ago. I was listening to this CD that I love, Carole King's Tapestry. And I was singing along at the top of my lungs as I usually do. Now one area where I was NOT blessed, by any far stretch of the imagination, is the ability to sing. DH came downstairs and said he loves when I sing to Carole King because I sound just like her. Love is blind.

And to top it all off, my heart still skips a beat when I see my handsome husband every day, just like it did 25 years ago when I first met him.

I know, its sickening, but its true. I wish for everyone the kind of love I have, thats why I'm always setting up my single girl and guy friends!

 

[Serena]

I'm jealous.

 

[TennVolTony]

she TOLD me .......

 

[newmousecateer]

When I looked at him and thought to myself "this is the man I want and need to spend the rest of my life with".

 

[Goofyposter]

Groosch!! IT was love at first sight fer Mrs. G and I....LOL! although...on the first date...she became more attached than I...but...in no time...as we dated..and got to knoe each other...the reality that we'd both go to the grave fer each other...and as we realized how much we have in common (humor, morals etc.)...it quickly became evident that we were 'a couple'....we've been together fer 14 years...married fer 6....we knew that we were made fer each other!