? For Those In Long Distance Relationships

[LadyAmongTramps]

I'm not in a long-distance relationship and this is probably going to sound very childish on my part, but my boyfriend (who I've been seeing for about 10 months but have just started actually getting somewhat serious with) is in Miami for three weeks for a boat show and I'm really feeling down and missing him already (he left on Tuesday and will be back on the 26th.) How do you guys get through the time apart? He doesn't even have email down there (although he does have a cell phone.)

 

[lovemygoofy]

It's very normal to miss a special person in your life that you are used to seeing everyday. You have to just live your life. Get up everyday and do something and make a goal for everyday even if its just folding your socks. Trust in your relationship and enjoy the special calls that you will get since he is lucky enough to have a cell on him. Look at pictures you have of him or ya'll together and day dream lol or make plans to get some snapshots together when he is back. Last thing, make some special plans for when he returns

 

[LadyAmongTramps]

Thanks, Tina....that's why I feel like my missing him is kind of childish. I know there are so many people out there that have loved ones in the military and I know he'll be coming back home to me in just 17 days.

 

[mickeyboat]

It's only natural to really miss someone you are used to being a part of your everyday life. Don't feel like it is childish!

DH and I were in a LD relationship for a long long time before we were married. It was hard, especially the saying good-bye part. But it made us appreciate our time together that much more.

When I go away from DH and the kids even for a couple of days, I miss them like crazy!

Denae

 

[lovemygoofy]

Don't feel childish it's only natural. You care for someone and want them around, if you were dancing a jig that he was gone then you should feel worried. Of course now that I've done this so many times, 3 weeks is like a vacation apart for us lol. Time for me to roll around in the bed alone

 

[Micca]

After 30 years of marriage DW and I spent a little over two years apart due to careers. It was miserable, but if I ever started feeling too sorry for myself, I just remembered those with loved ones serving in the military far, far away, and that at least DW wasn't in harms way. Nevertheless, 3 weeks can seem like a long time.

 

[grinningghost]

My marriage is kind of a long distance one. My DH is a road railroad conductor, so he's out of town all the time, and when he's here, he's usually exhausted and sleeping or just vegging out waiting for the next call.

It's hard sometimes. You start to feel like you're not in a relationship at all, but it does make the reunions so much sweeter. We appreciate each other alot more than some couples who are always together.

 

[LadyAmongTramps]

I'm making him a bunch of CD's for a gift when he gets home. About 12 years ago, everything that he owned except for the clothes on his back (and including family pictures) got stolen by a roommate of his. I can't replace the family pictures but at least I can replace some of the music.

 

[supercarrie]

I just keep myself as busy as possible! I am a college student in CA and my boyfriend is in London, so until the degree gets finished (hopefully in August) we will be apart. I am taking extra classes and working so I make sure I don't have time to mope! Why don't you make extra plans to spend time with your friends over the next few weeks, or treat yourself to something special?

It is really hard some days, and really easy other days. But that is part of the ups and downs of being in a LDR. The reunions are the best!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

My DFi lives in NC (about 3-4 hours away). We've been doing the long distance thing for a year and a half and will continue to do so until October 2008. It's hard but we do get to see each other on a lot of weekends.

The hardest thing I ever had to do was when I was 19 dating someone who was sent to the Middle East (Army) for 10 months. Not only do you miss the person and hardly ever get to talk to them but you have to worry about their safety every day. I would much rather have the situation I do now than that one.

Good luck and he'll be home soon!!

 

[LadyAmongTramps]

He came back for four days unexpectedly....still has to go back for another week, but I was thrilled that I got to see him (we don't live together but even ater a four hour drive back plus having to load another boat once he got back, he still made a point of seeing me tonight.) He told me he loves me for the first time tonight and told me he wishes that I lived with him. I think the time apart will be much easier to get through this time.

 

[Forevryoung]

It sucks but you make the best of it- you girls are right, time together is just that much special.

I'm 270 miles away from my boyfriend while I'm in grad school. We see eachother every 2-3 weeks and it's tough. Sometimes it's near impossible (like when his dad passed away at the beginning of last semester and I couldn't get to him).

He says almost once a week that he is quitting his 2 full time jobs and moving up here. Then we realize that it's a bad idea. I have my school work and he has his life. We plot and plan for the future, enjoy my vacations and the brief weekends together, and talk on the phone every day.

It's worked for nearly a year this way and things are still going strong (and I still cry almost every time we part).

 

[Sparx]

Its not easy.
its not fun.
its not nice.

But I do it anyway. Because I love him. He is 850 something odd miles away from me, and will be until this summer, when I'm going to get a few days with him. Then back to 850 miles away, until fall, with a few more days (probably 2-3 both times). then back to that until January, for another few days.

We've been together for almost six months. I've spent a few days with him. I wish I knew the magic word that makes me go through it every day. I really don't. But I look forward to the next conversation so much and I treasure every word of it that I think it keeps us together. The distance pulls us closer, as cheesy as that sounds. We know what its like to not be together, and I don't want to do this forever. So we treasure the time that we're together so much more. It makes our relationship work, and it makes it last. When we start to argue, we just realize how insignificant it really is, and we move on.

Yes, I miss him. Yes, I cry. Yes, I wish we were together almost every second of every day. I can't go five minutes without thinking about him. Everything reminds me of him. I wear a necklace he gave me on our 4 month anniversary every single day, because it makes me feel closer to him.

I don't know how I go through it. Maybe that gives you an insight into the mentality that goes into it, though.