? For Christians, about miscarriages...

[lisajl]

to everyone that has lost a child.

I can't imagine the pain. But, I can tell you I truly believe that we will see our loved ones again. When we do, it will be a wonderful day.

Lisa

 

[Blondy876]

Thank you all so much. I received some very wonderful PMs and everyones willingness to share such a personal tragedy really touched me. I too believe I will see my baby someday, but I thought maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part. Thank you all so much, I'm really struggling with this and it helps so much to know I'm not alone.

 

[FionaLovesShrek]

Blondy876, I know the emptiness you feel will always be there, but I do believe you will get to hold that child in heaven. I too am sending you a
SillyMe what made you believe your lost child was a boy? The reason I ask is this:
I went through in-vitro fertilization to have my DD. I had 4 embryos placed back into my uterus, but only 1 embryo made it through the process. When my DD was 2 1/2, I was driving down the road and she was just a jabbering to herself in her car seat. I thought I heard her say something about a brother and so I asked her was she said. She said, "I had 3 brothers but they're dead." I almost had a car accident! I couldn't speak, I couldn't breathe. Today, she doesn't remember saying those words. But I will never forget. I always carry with me the hope of holding the children I never got to hold here on earth.
To all of you who carry the pain of the loss of a child, and for those who carry the pain of wanting a child you may never have

 

[SillyMe]

Blondy876, I know the emptiness you feel will always be there, but I do believe you will get to hold that child in heaven. I too am sending you a
SillyMe what made you believe your lost child was a boy? The reason I ask is this:
I went through in-vitro fertilization to have my DD. I had 4 embryos placed back into my uterus, but only 1 embryo made it through the process. When my DD was 2 1/2, I was driving down the road and she was just a jabbering to herself in her car seat. I thought I heard her say something about a brother and so I asked her was she said. She said, "I had 3 brothers but they're dead." I almost had a car accident! I couldn't speak, I couldn't breathe. Today, she doesn't remember saying those words. But I will never forget. I always carry with me the hope of holding the children I never got to hold here on earth.
To all of you who carry the pain of the loss of a child, and for those who carry the pain of wanting a child you may never have

I have the chills after reading your story. I didn't go into details in my original post because I didn't want people to think I'm crazy.

When I was pregnant (before having my miscarriage) we were hoping for a boy. I picked out two names for a boy. Devin was the one I really liked and was my first choice. No one knew this except for Dfi and I. I wasn't far enough along to find out the gender of the baby after I miscarried, so we didn't know what the baby was.

I went on to have my dd (who is now 6yo) about a year after my miscarriage. We never ever talked about the miscarriage or the fact that there was another baby. Dd6 never knew it, still doesn't to this day. Anyway, when she was 3yo she was playing and chattering away. I asked her who she was talking to and she said she was talking to Devin. I asked who Devin was and she said he was her brother. I was stunned. Chills ran up and down my spine. I just walked out of the room. A few days later, she did it again. I asked her once again who Devin was. Being 3 yo I thought she'd probably give me a different answer than the first time. She gave me the same response. Devin is my brother. So, I asked her how she knew. He told her. I asked her what he was doing. She told me "He came to see you Mommy. He wants to talk to you." I ran out of the room in tears. It was never mentioned since then. There is no way she knew about the pregnancy or the miscarriage. There is no way she knew we had the name Devin picked out. She didn't even know anyone named Devin.

 

[luvthatduke]

I have chills after reading those last posts!
Thank you for sharing!

 

[Puffy2]

Here's what I think - nothing more , nothing less.

Everything in life is to either teach us something or someone else. Good and bad have purpose.

Each soul is unique and different. I think it is unlikely that you would be given the exact same soul in one lifetime to care for (through multiple pregnancies, births).

Those souls that are lost as children are most definately with God - whether you want to call that heaven is up to you.

Don't assume that when you meet your child again in the next life that they will still be a child. A soul continues to grow and develop whether in this life or the next. It's possible that they will out grow you in maturity, spirit and otherwise, before you get there.

 

[FionaLovesShrek]

I have the chills after reading your story. I didn't go into details in my original post because I didn't want people to think I'm crazy.

When I was pregnant (before having my miscarriage) we were hoping for a boy. I picked out two names for a boy. Devin was the one I really liked and was my first choice. No one knew this except for Dfi and I. I wasn't far enough along to find out the gender of the baby after I miscarried, so we didn't know what the baby was.

I went on to have my dd (who is now 6yo) about a year after my miscarriage. We never ever talked about the miscarriage or the fact that there was another baby. Dd6 never knew it, still doesn't to this day. Anyway, when she was 3yo she was playing and chattering away. I asked her who she was talking to and she said she was talking to Devin. I asked who Devin was and she said he was her brother. I was stunned. Chills ran up and down my spine. I just walked out of the room. A few days later, she did it again. I asked her once again who Devin was. Being 3 yo I thought she'd probably give me a different answer than the first time. She gave me the same response. Devin is my brother. So, I asked her how she knew. He told her. I asked her what he was doing. She told me "He came to see you Mommy. He wants to talk to you." I ran out of the room in tears. It was never mentioned since then. There is no way she knew about the pregnancy or the miscarriage. There is no way she knew we had the name Devin picked out. She didn't even know anyone named Devin.

I just knew from the hints in your first post you had a story like mine. Wow, it feels strange and weird to know I am not alone in this. In Jeremiah God says, Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. That means He knew us as spiritual beings before we ever came to be in the flesh. I agree with the OP about that. The Bible also tells us to lean not into our own understanding, so I lean into God's arms and ask Him to guide me. There is so much we don't understand, but sometimes, God gives us a glimpse of something wonderful...which is meant to help in our maturing. When I said I hope I can hold my babies someday, I meant I hope as spiritual beings, we are still able to wrap arms around others in love. I don't know if we'll know them as our spiritual children, but I hope we do. I know that the gift I have in my DD is so much more precious knowing God gave me a glimpse of heaven through her. Thank you for sharing your story with me. God bless you and your family.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I, too, have a baby that was lost to miscarriage. I wasn't far enough along to know if it was a boy or a girl, but I've always thought it was a boy, I thought that the minute the dr told me I was pregnant. I named him Preston Kyle, and I hope I get to hold him in Heaven.