Foot Washing at a wedding

[jscunningham699]

This thread made me think of twitter...where people were admitting to not physically washing their feet when they shower/bathe...just letting the water flow do the work.

That's disgusting! I wash every inch of my body while showering or bathing!

 

[HopperFan]

I thought promise rings were what you gave your Girl Friend Forever in High school only to dump her when you went away to college.

You are correct. I think the PP meant to say Purity Ring.

 

[low-key]

Most of these type things are male does male and female does female. It would have to be with a female for me, but still not my thing

 

[Lehuaann]

That's disgusting! I wash every inch of my body while showering or bathing!

Right, maybe foot washing isn’t such a bad thing - especially the kind where you wash your own feet!

 

[RUDisney]

You are correct. I think the PP meant to say Purity Ring.

They called it a promise ring at the wedding. She returned the ring to her parents because the promise was fulfilled

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

They called it a promise ring at the wedding. She returned the ring to her parents because the promise was fulfilled

I feel like they more using the definition of purity ring. Especially if the thoughtprocess was she hadn't even had her first kiss. Seems more related to abstinence in sexual aspect vs the generally used promise to get married that a promise ring most often signifies.

I can't even imagine giving my promise ring up especially to my parents lol.

 

[DISNEYSQUIRRELS]

Just no

 

[Mousemom234]

Psst. You can have sex without being married.

But that's exactly what a promise ring is supposed to be about - to promise yourself only to the person you marry. And only after the wedding.

Original question : Not my thing, I'd probably either be quietly snickering or biting my lip not to. But it's not my wedding, and as long as it doesn't concern me directly (other than having to watch), I can survive.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

But that's exactly what a promise ring is supposed to be about - to promise yourself only to the person you marry. And only after the wedding.

To use a more concise difference I took this from a website:

"Promise rings represent the love that a couple has for each other. The rings can be given at any time and are a symbol of commitment. In a way, promise rings are pre-engagement rings, as they come before the commitment of marriage. The exchange of rings can mean that a future engagement is likely or simply that you have a devotion to one another." You can give promise rings and shockingly yes have relations with each other too.

Conversely "Purity rings symbolize a commitment to abstinence until marriage. Giving a purity ring is usually accompanied by a commitment not to have sex until married."

Some people do use promise ring when they refer to abstinence but generally speaking that's what a purity ring is.

In the end it's really whatever the couple signifies but a promise ring is not normally used to signify abstinence but rather a committment for each other; if the agreement is more related to sexual relations until after marriage it would be much more likely you'd give someone a purity ring.

 

[tcufrog]

The bride also gave her promise ring back to her parents at the start of the ceremony and at the end, she was hopping on her toes before she was told she could kiss her husband. I told her mother that it was cute that she was so excited to be married. Her mother told me while that is true, she was probably more excited for her first kiss.

It's a good thing that couple didn't come to my wedding. They would have been horrified because we had a wine ceremony where the wine was blessed by the female minister. It wasn't Communion wine either.

As for foot washing. At least they only removed their shoes. It could have been a skyclad wedding.

 

[L&Lfan]

This thread made me think of twitter...where people were admitting to not physically washing their feet when they shower/bathe...just letting the water flow do the work.

Well, to play devil’s advocate, it’s not the easiest thing for many people to properly wash their feet if their shower doesn’t have a place to sit. Just sayin’...

 

[Mirielle]

The bride and groom can certainly include anything they like in their ceremony, however, I'd feel very uncomfortable watching foot washing take place. Sure hope this doesn't become a popular "thing".

 

[MrsPete]

Have you seen it? Do you like it? Would you do it?

I've only seen it once, and it was a couple who was very sincere about it /very religious. For a different couple it could've come off looking hypocritical, but it suited their personalities.

From a practical point of view, it was time consuming, and she had trouble getting his socks back on his damp feet.

Some churches do this on "Maundy Thursday" ... it is very humbling to offer this service to another and equally humbling to be on the receiving end. It's the exact opposite of ego /pride. Perhaps society would be better if we all had a little more of a servant's attitude and a little less "me first".

I'm sure my personality plays into my feelings. I'm really against any acts of love that are done for "show" or out of obligation (like gifts for holidays) so I think this would fall under that category for me.

Just to be contrary ... you could argue that 100% of the wedding is an act of love that's done for show. Well, except for the legal license.

 

[theluckyrabbit]

In the Catholic Church, foot washing is a part of the Holy Thursday mass, not Good Friday.

At the churches where I've seen it, all Protestant -- some small home churches -- it was done on Good Friday. I know other denominations do it on Maundy Thursday.
If it was only between the bride and groom, doing it during the ceremony before the guests does not necessarily mean that they wanted an audience. It can mean that they wanted witnesses to their sincere intention to love and serve each other, just as they wanted their invited guests to witness their vows. I wonder if this is going to be a new wedding trend in conservative churches... We know quite a few fundamentalist Baptists and they're not (yet) doing this in their wedding services.

 

[ronandannette]

At the churches where I've seen it, all protestant -- some small home churches -- it was done on Good Friday. I know other denominations do it on Maundy Thursday.
If it was only between the bride and groom, doing it during the ceremony before the guests does not necessarily mean that they wanted an audience. It can mean that they wanted witnesses to their sincere intention to love and serve each other, just as they wanted their invited guests to witness their vows. I wonder if this is going to be a new wedding trend in conservative churches... We know quite a few fundamentalist Baptists and they're not (yet) doing this in their wedding services.

I think you're right about this. To the devout, a Christian wedding ceremony has profound meaning "before God and man". Our church is about as conservative as they come but I've yet to hear of foot washing during a wedding, although I suppose it could happen as easily as any other thing a couple does to personalize their service. We've got no real hard-and-fast rites and rituals.

 

[BingoJoe]

Seen lots of wedding loafers ... with NO SOCKS!!!

I am a great fan of loafers with no socks, indeed I have about 5 pairs, but if you are gonna wear loafers to a wedding you may as well just wear jeans and a T-Shirt!

 

[mousefan73]

Yes, that’s the one!
Thanks for clarifying. I was wondering why your comment didn’t make sense to me!
Fornication’s been around forevah!

Hhmm the emogi. Luv it

 

[theluckyrabbit]

I think you're right about this. To the devout, a Christian wedding ceremony has profound meaning "before God and man"...

Our church is very conservative, too. "Before God and man" has literal meaning -- if any of our guests who witnessed us taking our vows ever sees us breaking those vows, we hope that they would confront us in love and help us to remember the vows that we took and the seriousness of what they mean. Being married well can be hard work -- having help and support all along the way is a real blessing!

 

[RUDisney]

I feel like they more using the definition of purity ring. Especially if the thoughtprocess was she hadn't even had her first kiss. Seems more related to abstinence in sexual aspect vs the generally used promise to get married that a promise ring most often signifies.

I can't even imagine giving my promise ring up especially to my parents lol.

You’re absolutely right about promise vs purity rings. They called it a promise ring at my cousin’s wedding. It was given to her by her parents and she promised to save herself until marriage.

It's a good thing that couple didn't come to my wedding. They would have been horrified because we had a wine ceremony where the wine was blessed by the female minister. It wasn't Communion wine either.

As for foot washing. At least they only removed their shoes. It could have been a skyclad wedding.

Funny you should mention wine. They had a dry reception. There was dancing at this reception, unlike her parents’. They only had chamber music.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I have never heard of this... I just don't think I would be into it. This is almost as bad as the wedding I went to and the groom sang to the bride.

At the time, I laughed at it. However, that was 1985 and they are still together.