Flower question for Wedding Ceremony

[LoraJ]

I know it is a year away, but I had an idea that I wanted to run by my family and IL's. I read about a girl doing this at her ceremony and I think it is very touching. DFi's sister was killed 5 years ago, and his father passed away this summer. I'd like to hold them two empty seats in the front row, and when DFi comes out, he would place flowers on their chairs. (or I could make them a part of my bouquet and place them when I come down the aisle).

I have been looking at flower colors and their meaning, and can't seem to find a fitting color for such a tribute. Any suggestions?

 

[Tazicket]

What about (some of these have meanings that do apply as well as meanings that don't):
Carnation ( Pink) [Dianthus Caryophyllus]: I'll never forget you; Woman's love
or
Forget-Me-Not [Myosotis]: Faithful love; Undying hope; Memories; Do not forget; True love
or
Zinnia [Zinnia]: Thoughts of absent friends
or
Zinnia (Yellow) [Zinnia]: Daily rememberance
or
Zinnia (Mixed) [Zinnia] Thinking / In memory of an absent friend

 

[golfgal]

That is a great idea. I know nothing about flowers so I can't help there. I know of many people that have had a vase of flowers on the alter for deceased family members, usually red roses.

 

[ceiligh1]

I did this at my wedding in honor of my dads parents. I used a blue iris as that was my grandmothers favorite flower it means faith, hope wisdom. This site has a good description of what flowers mean what emotion you might impart. http://www.thegardener.btinternet.co.uk/flowerlanguage.html

 

[AprilShowers]

My Godfather and uncle died just a few months before my wedding. He was to be a groomsman. His favorite flower was a red carnation. We had a red carnation on the corner of the altar. Not in a vase, just in a tube of water, just laying casually on the front corner of the alter inconspicuously. In his memory.

I didn't want to make it a sad thing, just something done in his honor. He wouldn't have wanted a big deal done out of sadness done on such a happy day.

 

[LoraJ]

Thanks for the suggestions. I'll look into that site.

 

[Caradana]

Here's something similar - I'm having my florist build an extra white rose into my bouquet. When I'm almost all the way down the aisle, I stop, pull out the flower and give it to my mother.

The fun part of this idea is that my mother did the same thing for my grandmother in 1977, but my mother doesn't know that I know. My grandmother told me.

 

[LoraJ]

Here's something similar - I'm having my florist build an extra white rose into my bouquet. When I'm almost all the way down the aisle, I stop, pull out the flower and give it to my mother.

The fun part of this idea is that my mother did the same thing for my grandmother in 1977, but my mother doesn't know that I know. My grandmother told me.

That's really sweet.

 

[belle&beast]

My FIL passed away 6 years before our wedding. DH and his mom walked in from the back of the church before the ceremony and together they placed a bouquet on the altar. Then he seated his mom. We took the bouquet with us to the reception and sat it at the head table with us. The next day we took it to the cemetery and placed it on the grave. This was important to my DH, and one of the very few times we have been to the cemetery in 6 1/2 years. He really had a hard time without his dad at our wedding and MANY people told him how proud his dad would have been and how happy, all very positive, but DH was very emotional. Just be ready!