Fitting rooms

[surfergirl602]

My opinion - men do not belong in a women's section dressing room - period. If I really need DH's opinion on something, I'll walk to the entrance of the dressing area and ask him. IF he's with me and I'm buying clothing, he's the go-to guy anyway, if I want a different size or color.

 

[OceanAnnie]

This thread absolutely amazes me. If you post a thread about taking a 6 year old child into a public bathroom where the doors lock and close some people have a full on hissy fit about it. Yet there are people who think that a GROWN MAN belongs in a women's dressing room where the entire purpose is to get undressed? Really?

OP- I would have called security on you. I don't care if your DH is a pervert or not. I do not want strange men around me while I am in various states of undress. Sometimes I come out of the dressing room to look at the 3 way mirror and my bra might be showing or I might not have zippered the dress all the way or whatever and I do not want random men around. I want privacy and the knowledge that the only people that will see me is other women. I agree with LuvOrlando. I would not want my dd's in a dressing room with random men either. That doesn't mean the man's a pervert it just means he does not belong there where my child is getting dressed and undressed. I wouldn't want him in a women's locker room either. Same concept.

I also cannot imagine not being able to buy clothes without my DH sitting in the dressing room with me. I value his opinion but I walk out of the dressing room to get it if I want. There is no way on earth he would think it was remotely appropriate for him to be in there with me. He would be horrified if I even suggested it.

It is quite a contrast. I remember the thread about boys in ladies rooms. Sometimes the DIS is all over the place.

 

[FireDancer]

I'm not a big dressing room person myself, I'd rather skip it all together but even if there weren't any doors, or walls for that matter, I wouldn't care. It's just a human body, big deal.

<sarcasm>You obviously didn't get the memo that not only are we supposed to be ashamed of our bodies and hide them from everyone but someone seeing a bra strap may cause spontaneous combustion. </sarcasm>

We aren't talking about nudity here people. We have this very strange (IMO) need to hide our bodies from people in this country.

 

[klacey1]

I worked retail in college and we had a policy that two people were not allowed in one cubicle together (unless it was a mother and small child) for shoplifting reasons.
So for that reason, if I was the fitting room attendent, I might ask your BF to leave. However, if it was unmarked and he was only in a stall with you, not creeping on other ladies, I definitely would not. And unless your BF made a comment or skeevy glance, I would wonder why people wouldn't just mind their own business.
I'm the type that doesn't complain to managers, etc. Talking to the store to get him removed just seems like too much effort to me

 

[Shutterbug]

I have been in a Kohls changing room that was clearly in a mens section. When I heard two girls come in and go into a stall near mine.

 

[CathrynRose]

I got in a fight with JCPenney when my (now 18 y/o) son was graduating 6th grade.

Our elementary school is K-6, and they make a big deal about their graduation, so he needed fancy schmancy pants, a dress shirt, a tie, etc, etc.

So, we gathered up a bunch of stuff, took it into the first room in the dressing room so he could start trying things on.

Then a knock was on the door. "We need you to leave this room, ma'am"

I told them they were out of their mind if they thought I was going to have him try on every combination of pants/shirt/tie while I was -literally steps- from the exit / entrance to the fitting room. And shut the door. They told me they were going to call the police. So, I opened the door and asked "For what?". He didn't actually have an answer "Ummm, errrrr" - so, I said - "Okay, call them." And shut the door.

It was like a Tuesday evening. No one was in there, and even if they were I wasn't peeping at anyone. I was tired from work, and plopped on the itty bitty chair in the dressing room.

IMO - people are just waaaaaay too uptight about things like this. Just like bathrooms.

 

[kwelch10377]

IMO - people are just waaaaaay too uptight about things like this. Just like bathrooms.

I couldn't agree more!

 

[CathrynRose]

Oddly enough, I've gone into the men's dressing room with him with no problems.
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I have actively looked for the men's dressing room, after seeing the line outside a woman's on a Saturday afternoon. And.......

I have gone in because 1) I'm bored 2) I want to sit down 3) because he has a lot to try on and show me and its easier if I'm already in there 4) because I can 5) he can't zip back zipped dresses either.

I've done this too. As has my son.... just (maybe 2 weekends ago) the poor kid agreed to go to Macy's with me. And I found *so much* stuff I liked, and ended up trying on. Most of the dressing rooms I went into, had the husband-pouting chair. The last one I went into, did not. And as I turned around to shut the door, there's my son stepping on into the room with me. I did this: He said "I wanna sit down".

And he did.

We aren't talking about nudity here people. We have this very strange (IMO) need to hide our bodies from people in this country.

Agree 10000%

When I was pregnant with the above dressing room violator, my 4 y/o would come in the room with me, during exams. I remember the first every-single-month exam, the doctor asked me - do you want the nurse to watch him in the hall? He was 4.

I must have looked baffled. I said - no, I don't care. And I will never forget that doctor saying "I think that's really great/ So many women "freak out" about it"

 

[aprilgail2]

This thread absolutely amazes me. If you post a thread about taking a 6 year old child into a public bathroom where the doors lock and close some people have a full on hissy fit about it. Yet there are people who think that a GROWN MAN belongs in a women's dressing room where the entire purpose is to get undressed? Really?

OP- I would have called security on you. I don't care if your DH is a pervert or not. I do not want strange men around me while I am in various states of undress. Sometimes I come out of the dressing room to look at the 3 way mirror and my bra might be showing or I might not have zippered the dress all the way or whatever and I do not want random men around. I want privacy and the knowledge that the only people that will see me is other women. I agree with LuvOrlando. I would not want my dd's in a dressing room with random men either. That doesn't mean the man's a pervert it just means he does not belong there where my child is getting dressed and undressed. I wouldn't want him in a women's locker room either. Same concept.

I also cannot imagine not being able to buy clothes without my DH sitting in the dressing room with me. I value his opinion but I walk out of the dressing room to get it if I want. There is no way on earth he would think it was remotely appropriate for him to be in there with me. He would be horrified if I even suggested it.

 

[MiniGirl]

<sarcasm>You obviously didn't get the memo that not only are we supposed to be ashamed of our bodies and hide them from everyone but someone seeing a bra strap may cause spontaneous combustion. </sarcasm>

We aren't talking about nudity here people. We have this very strange (IMO) need to hide our bodies from people in this country.

I don't understand why people automatically assume that if I don't want a stranger seeing me while I am changing clothes that it means I am ashamed of my body. Honestly, I don't understand how people always jump to that conclusion. One really has nothing to do with the other. My body is mine and mine alone. Certainly we still have some say in who we will allow to have access to our bodies -- even visually. I don't think it is unusual or neurotic for a woman to expect a women's dressing room to be women only.

I will add that I am really surprised by the amount of women on here that go clothes shopping with their men. I don't know if I have ever gone with my dh or any boyfriend before that. We do enjoy shopping for other things together.

 

[FireDancer]

I don't understand why people automatically assume that if I don't want a stranger seeing me while I am changing clothes that it means I am ashamed of my body. Honestly, I don't understand how people always jump to that conclusion. One really has nothing to do with the other. My body is mine and mine alone. Certainly we still have some say in who we will allow to have access to our bodies -- even visually. I don't think it is unusual or neurotic for a woman to expect a women's dressing room to be women only.

I will add that I am really surprised by the amount of women on here that go clothes shopping with their men. I don't know if I have ever gone with my dh or any boyfriend before that. We do enjoy shopping for other things together.

If we were talking about nudity I would buy it. There are comments about being uncomfortable with someone seeing them in ill fitting clothes or seeing a bra strap. That is what I find ridiculous. I have seen more at public beaches.

 

[MiniGirl]

If we were talking about nudity I would buy it. There are comments about being uncomfortable with someone seeing them in ill fitting clothes or seeing a bra strap. That is what I find ridiculous. I have seen more at public beaches.

But isn't it possible, and in fact, probable that those you see "more of" at the beach aren't the same people who are uncomfortable with having men in the dressing room? I'm guessing those people are not modest types to begin with. Those of us who feel a women's dressing room should be women only are probably not the people baring all at the beach. I also don't think that it is odd that someone is uncomfortable having others see them in ill fitting clothing. After all nobody wants to be seen in something that is unflattering -- at least nobody I know. Isn't that why we try to clothes on anyway?

 

[FireDancer]

But isn't it possible, and in fact, probable that those you see "more of" at the beach aren't the same people who are uncomfortable with having men in the dressing room? I'm guessing those people are not modest types to begin with. Those of us who feel a women's dressing room should be women only are probably not the people baring all at the beach. I also don't think that it is odd that someone is uncomfortable having others see them in ill fitting clothing. After all nobody wants to be seen in something that is unflattering -- at least nobody I know. Isn't that why we try to clothes on anyway?

Who knows why people do the things they do .

I guess I just don't understand not wanting someone of the opposite sex seeing me in something that doesn't fit right or, in my case, even half naked. It is an area to try on clothing after all, not a place you are presenting yourself as all put together. I don't have to only been seen when everything is all perfect. I'd probably look in the mirror and make a remark like, "well, that looks pretty terrible doesn't it. The cotton that died to make this deserved much better.", as opposed to running back behind the curtain to hide. I am a fan of self deprecating humor.

To each their own I guess. One of the many agree to disagree moments on the DIS.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Who knows why people do the things they do .

I guess I just don't understand not wanting someone of the opposite sex seeing me in something that doesn't fit right or, in my case, even half naked. It is an area to try on clothing after all, not a place you are presenting yourself as all put together. I don't have to only been seen when everything is all perfect. I'd probably look in the mirror and make a remark like, "well, that looks pretty terrible doesn't it. The cotton that died to make this deserved much better.", as opposed to running back behind the curtain to hide. I am a fan of self deprecating humor.

To each their own I guess. One of the many agree to disagree moments on the DIS.

Because in a fitting room you are in various states of undress. Nope- I am not uptight. I just don't need to parade around in front of strange men while I am trying to fix myself. I am not an exhibitionist. I also won't use a dressing room that is one big open room. I also don't feel the need to have to make funny remarks about myself to make it less awkward. The man does not belong in there. To be honest I think it is weird.

 

[KAMLEM]

OP- I would have called security on you. I don't care if your DH is a pervert or not. I do not want strange men around me while I am in various states of undress. Sometimes I come out of the dressing room to look at the 3 way mirror and my bra might be showing or I might not have zippered the dress all the way or whatever and I do not want random men around.

The OP's DH was not haninging around, he was IN her dressing room so he would not have seen you. I think a lot of people are missing that point. I also don't see why so many people have to criticize the OP just because she wants her DH's opinion. Is that so unheard of?

 

[jrmasm]

It's pretty simple really.

Men's = Men
Women's = Women
Unisex = party time! (kidding)

 

[Heidict]

The OP's DH was not haninging around, he was IN her dressing room so he would not have seen you. I think a lot of people are missing that point. I also don't see why so many people have to criticize the OP just because she wants her DH's opinion. Is that so unheard of?

I value my DH's opinion when it comes to me trying on clothes. He has great fashion sense and is honest about what looks good on me and what doesn't.

He often goes into the dressing room with me, or stays outside, depending on the logistics of the rooms and what not. I have never had anyone say a word to us or to an associate about it (that I am aware of).

He isn't leering at other women, looking through cracks or peeking under the doors. If women were running around in their skivies or half naked, then of course he would not come back with me, but they are FULLY dressed. Can't understand why people are paranoid about having a man see them fully dressed.

I've done this too. As has my son.... just (maybe 2 weekends ago) the poor kid agreed to go to Macy's with me. And I found *so much* stuff I liked, and ended up trying on. Most of the dressing rooms I went into, had the husband-pouting chair. The last one I went into, did not. And as I turned around to shut the door, there's my son stepping on into the room with me. I did this: He said "I wanna sit down".

And he did.

Hold on, your 18 year old son went into the dressing room with you and watched you try on various clothes?

Okay, now that is just creepy. I don't know any teenage boy that wants to see his mother in various stages of undress.

 

[H&Hmommy]

No way does a man belong in a ladies fitting room. My DD-13 would be mortified.

 

[OceanAnnie]

The way I see it, the area is designated for women. If not, it would be "unisex dressing rooms". Restrooms are designated for women. Would you want a man in a woman's restroom? I wouldn't. Restrooms have doors, where men wouldn't be able to see anything either. But I wouldn't be comfortable sharing a restroom with men. I don't have any hang ups, so kindly don't go there. It's a personal preference.

It doesn't have anything to do with being uptight or "any feelings about one's body". It's a difference of opinion. IMO, it has to do with courtesy for others.

 

[CathrynRose]

I value my DH's opinion when it comes to me trying on clothes. He has great fashion sense and is honest about what looks good on me and what doesn't.

He often goes into the dressing room with me, or stays outside, depending on the logistics of the rooms and what not. I have never had anyone say a word to us or to an associate about it (that I am aware of).

He isn't leering at other women, looking through cracks or peeking under the doors. If women were running around in their skivies or half naked, then of course he would not come back with me, but they are FULLY d


Hold on, your 18 year old son went into the dressing room with you and watched you try on various clothes?

Okay, now that is just creepy. I don't know any teenage boy that wants to see his mother in various stages of undress.

On my phone - sorry about the giant text quote.

No, I have 2 boys - the one who was too lazy to stand is 14.

I don't put on clothes and go "hey, look at my chest!", I just try on clothes, while he is sitting there staring at his ipod.

But thanks for calling us all creepy. LOL!