First Trip In Over 25 Years - Tips Needed

[jerzeystar09]

So I love the parks and have my own, very fast paced style of touring them to pack as much in as possible. I'm taking my boyfriend for his first trip since the late 80s at the end of February/beginning of March.

I know he likes more relaxing vacations and don't wanna pack too much in so that he gets burnt out and never wants to go again.

Any suggestions? We are there for a week and make fastpasses later this week.

 

[Nancyg56]

I would look at this trip through different eyes. Think about how he likes to vacation in general, and then plan your parks and times you go with that in mind.

Pick a few attractions and shows in each park that you think would be a must do and figure anything else is a bonus. I am not a strategic FP planner, and just pick the three per park I know we want, and plan their times around when we will arrive at any given park.

 

[mshanson3121]

Do the opposite of what you would normally do? lol

Honestly, I would just sit down together and plan. Look over the websites and get a feel for the attractions etc... available, and see what he REALLY wants to do, and what your absolutely MUST dos are (everything is not an option, lol). Make your plans around that. Then, each day when you're done yours "musts!", if he's done, then he's done. Go back to the resort and enjoy the pool, resort activities etc... But, if he's still raring to go, then go tackle some of the "would like to dos". I'm thinking a good plan would probably be too, to plan on a mix of rope drop/afternoon break/go back for the evenings, with sleep in/R&R mornings and then head in in the afternoon and stay for the evening - make good use of your FP+ those days and I would say those are good days to focus more on shows/experiences, than rides. That way he doesn't always feel like he's being rushed out the door to get to the park, and it might give him a bit more of a "vacation" feel. My DH is the same way - he likes to have down time.

 

[dmband]

I say do your thing and put him to the test. if he's a keeper he can keep up, will not get burnt out and will want to return because he sees your happiness.
If he passes the test, next time slow down for him.

 

[DisneyRookie2007]

I say do your thing and put him to the test. if he's a keeper he can keep up, will not get burnt out and will want to return because he sees your happiness.
If he passes the test, next time slow down for him.

I don't agree. Push him too hard and he never want to go back. Keep him involved in the planning. Plan for a day or two away from the parks to unwind. Consider the water parks too, depending on when you are going.

 

[gap2368]

I go to Disney with some one that like to take it slow I am the opisit what we do when we go together is we do an in between ( but since this is his first time I would do more his way) plane your 3 FP together so this way you have them maybe sleep in ( I know for us hard core park goers this is a NO NO but for him it maybe what he needs) I would do one park a day sleep in ( with in region) so maybe get up at 9 and to the parks may 11 have FP for 11:30 to 3:30 maybe go back to the hotel to swimm relax and then had back to the park for the night time entertainment. If you really want to do a lot of rides you could buy the DAH ticket ( I went last year and I am going agin this year on march 2 so much fun)but take it slow so that he will hopefully enjoy it and want to go back.

 

[glassslippergirl]

A few easy ways to slow down:

Sleep in, wake up later and skip rope drop
Enjoy leisurely meals at TS restaurants
Walk slower and enjoy streetmosphere
Plan to spend time at the hotel pool, whether it's a non-park day or a time in the afternoon to relax

 

[jerzeystar09]

Thanks for all the tips! He has no idea about the rides and fast passes so I think I may have him take a look at the planning DVD to at least get an idea of some of the rides and shows because 90% of them are new for him. Gonna be a big change of pace for me, but maybe it will be for the better. And I have to keep in mind that we will be back a few months later for a wedding so there will be more time then for other activities

 

[gap2368]

if Disney becomes a annual trip for you two then you can have it both ways and what I mean by this is you get up early head to the park( do rope drop and a few/ a lot of rides) then you have a place to meet say the upper level of the Main Street train station at 11 this way you get to do a fest past he can have a slower morning then you can have some FP together and a slower past afternoon then maybe after wishes ( or the night time entertainment ) when the park is slower you do you speed ( if he dose not want to walk fast go on a lot of rides then you can say I will meet you at the exit of ____ but I do agree with every one else the first few times need to be slower past for him but doing a day or two this way might be just enough for you not to miss the old way that you used to tour Disney it will still allow him to have a slower day and allow the two of you to spend time togeather and a little apart. ( I am someone that need my time a lone so when going to Disney with some one else this is what I do and it works great)

 

[SillyFamily]

If you dont think you can handle a whole week at a relaxed pace, you might pick one day in the middle and tailor it a bit more to your touring style. just be sure to give him plenty of down time before and after. I would also make sure to pick several things throughout the day that he would enjoy just to find some balance. I would probably plan a sit down lunch in the middle of that day inside the park so your still going but he is getting to relax.

 

[Nancyg56]

I say do your thing and put him to the test. if he's a keeper he can keep up, will not get burnt out and will want to return because he sees your happiness.
If he passes the test, next time slow down for him.

For me the reverse would be true. If I cared about someone, and I do....and if I wanted that person to enjoy my special place but know that they vacation much differently than I do, and I do...I would make some changes to accommodate that person. And I do.

I have never understood the my way of highway method of proving that you care for someone. I will never test someone by making them paly the drum to my beat.

 

[dmband]

For me the reverse would be true. If I cared about someone, and I do....and if I wanted that person to enjoy my special place but know that they vacation much differently than I do, and I do...I would make some changes to accommodate that person. And I do.

I have never understood the my way of highway method of proving that you care for someone. I will never test someone by making them paly the drum to my beat.

I was being more of a wise guy then anything

Honest opinion, a good compromise is the key. You don't want to push them over the edge but you also can't let them "take away your trip" by doing everything the way they would like it based on their personality or whatnot

 

[Nancyg56]

I was being more of a wise guy then anything

Honest opinion, a good compromise is the key. You don't want to push them over the edge but you also can't let them "take away your trip" by doing everything the way they would like it based on their personality or whatnot

I'm sorry, it was hard to tell. There are a lot of folks who actually mean what you were teasing about. I think that compromise is the key in most areas that a couple has differing styles. A little give and take goes a long way.

 

[spiceycat]

what are his interest - he might not like the parks but the other stuff that WDW has to do - definitely let him see the DVD from Disney - but if he wants to go play golf, bowling, tennis or several of the other things that Disney has - then let him. that could be your really fast day and do everything on your list. You can have fun together and apart.

here a link that might help

https://www.disneyplanning.com/?

 

[Bete]

He may like the shows, parades, fireworks, and live street entertainment better than the rides.

Prepare him for the crowd factor and the ride waits.

Pay attention to him while you are in the park. I think you'll be able to tell if he's getting stressed out. Maybe, take a mid day break each day.

I would do the DVD for sure and some u-tube videos, too. Pick out the rides you like and see how he reacts to them.