Finding love after divorce, has it happened to you?

[NY Disney fan]

I'm curious to hear about people who have found love after divorce or found love when you gave up on it and thought there was no hope. Anyone?

 

[DrCavin]

absolutely YES... Keep a positive attitude & be confident

 

[NMAmy]

Yep! DH is the first man I dated after my divorce and I really hit the jackpot. He's really wonderful.

 

[NY Disney fan]

Can you share how you met ??

 

[LuvOrlando]

A DF of mine met a wonderful man who is now her DH after she split with her ex. She met him through her sister at a BBQ

FYI, her ex was a hot tempered mouthy go no-where sort. Once she had her babies the marriage dissolved. When she met her current DH she had 3 babies and soon to be DH was just dumped by his wife because he wasn't able to have children. It was/is a match made in heaven. He adores her and her kids and has given them a lifestyle they never would have had with the ex. They are pretty much the poster family for things working out well.

 

[Jennasis]

Another big HECK YEAH! I found it. I had given up on not only love, but also on any idea that I might find that happily ever after with my best friend at the time. About a month later, he broke up with his girlfriend, confessed his love for me and we've been together for 10 years (married for 5).


ETA: We worked together.

 

[SC Minnie]

My parents divorced after 35 yrs (about 34 yrs too late ). My mom didn't think she would ever want to find love again much less find someone when she was almost 60. Well, she did. She started dating a man from her church whose wife had died a year before. She had known both of them for more than 30 years. The got married 6 months after their first date and have been married 7 years now.

 

[minkydog]

My parents divorced after 21 years when I was about 18. My mother was about 42 and completely demoralized. She was so burnt by my dad that she never thought she could even trust another man, let alone love one. A friend of hers introduced her to square dancing where she met a lot of single men. She didn't date for a long time, but she went to her square dance every week. Eventually she began to have fun and make friends. One friend was particularly close, but they didn't date. This man ended up marrying Mother's friend but it only lasted 6 months. After a few months, he and Mother went on a date and it ended up being a match made in heaven. There were happily married for almost 20 years before he died at age 75. He treated her like a queen and she felt like she was the luckiest woman in the world.

Love is out there, lurking where you least expect it. Maybe not now or in the very near future, but when you're ready, love will come.

 

[wenrob]

I'm curious to hear about people who have found love after divorce or found love when you gave up on it and thought there was no hope. Anyone?

I've never been divorced but had a long term relationship followed by an assortment of losers. I was so done and over men, had zero interest in meeting anyone. DH was a neighbor, my sister was in town visiting and I spontaneously held up a 12pack of beer to his window as we were passing by. My only intent was to invite him to party with us. Here we are 21yrs later. We still refer to each other as that neighbor guy/chick I'm sleeping with.

 

[NMAmy]

Can you share how you met ??

DH and I worked at the same college--in totally different areas of the campus so we didn't see each other often. We were acquaintances but didn't know each other well. When he heard I was divorced, he asked me to lunch. That was 11 years ago this month, actually.

 

[pyrxtc]

Yup, he was my ex-BF's best friend. Knew him barely in high school but ht it off after I got divorced, he has been divorced to. I think it makes you work even harder at your marriage when you've been through a crappy one.

 

[DAISY DUCK FAN!]

Absolutely!!
I met my DH well-after my divorce and he is the best thing to happen to me. He's been a great step-dad to my oldest and a great dad to our two.
And he loves Disney ~ what more can I ask for??!!

 

[drag n' fly]

I met my second dh when I was not looking at all. Smack just like a lobster along side of the head and he was there. My bff introduced us and when he asked for my address to pick me up on our first date we discovered we lived right across the street from each other! Bring me some butter for that lobster cuz that is love fate!

 

[frndshpcptn]

This is a very encouraging thread

I'm still recovering from the end of a 7 year relationship and have forced myself to go on a few very not great dates.

I had one date that I really sort of enjoyed - I talked to the guy for 3+ hours the first time we spoke on the phone, then for another hour the night before we went out (and I am not a phone person AT ALL).

We went out and I had a nice time - then he got really grabby / touchy which made me uncomfortable. He even invited himself up to my apartment (which I'm embarassed to admit I went along with as I was too surprised at the questions to think straight and say no.) When I asked him to slow down / stop he was resistant. Which I also didn't like. I finally just asked him to leave. Then he emailed me 4 days later to say he just wanted to be friends. Awesome.

I'm not sure what bothered me more - I really enjoyed talking with him and there haven't been many people I've enjoyed meeting lately - or the fact that he was so agressive. And it turns out we know about 50 of the same people - we went to school at the same places from pre-school on (no idea how we had not met before this). UGH. And I am super-mad at myself for even considering the idea of being friends (I could stand to expand my social circle a bit post-break up with the ex).

Anyway - I'm glad to hear there is hope out there!! (sorry to hijack!!!)

 

[JCJRSmith]

We lived together for 5 years then got married. Six months into the marriage, she cheated on me while I was at sea. We worked thru it. A year later she told me she wanted a divorce. She was cheating with another guy and he was the true love of her life and she ran away with him when he went back to Ohio after his discharge from the Marine Corps...the divorce was finalized a year later.

A little over a year after that, after I had pretty much given up on ever being happy and in love again, I met the true love of MY life. We will be married 22 years this November. So, yes, you can be happy again. It can happen to you.

Oh, and the first wife? The guy she ran away with became an over the road trucker, and was cheating on her with women in about 5 different cities. She found out becuase while he was out on the road, she was handling the bills back home and she got the phone bill with LOTS of calls to the same set of numbers all over the country. Karma can be a cast-iron b....uh, bear, yeah, that's it, bear.

 

[Nancy F]

One of the girls that works for me was left by her husband when their daughter was very young. (He has done nothing for her either of them). Several years later she met a man who just happened to be passing our store and seen her sitting at the front desk. He asked her out and they started dating. Her daughter was in high school by then. He started a college fund for Desiree right away. They married and a few years ago Anna needed a kidney transplant. Mark turned out to be a perfect match. She was so blessed to have found such a great guy. (the first husband wouldn't have given her a cup of coffee let alone a kidney.) And I can say that they are living HEA. God Bless them!
Nancy

 

[NY Disney fan]

Oh wow these are great stories!

 

[Disney Doll]

This is a very encouraging thread

I'm still recovering from the end of a 7 year relationship and have forced myself to go on a few very not great dates.

I had one date that I really sort of enjoyed - I talked to the guy for 3+ hours the first time we spoke on the phone, then for another hour the night before we went out (and I am not a phone person AT ALL).

We went out and I had a nice time - then he got really grabby / touchy which made me uncomfortable. He even invited himself up to my apartment (which I'm embarassed to admit I went along with as I was too surprised at the questions to think straight and say no.) When I asked him to slow down / stop he was resistant. Which I also didn't like. I finally just asked him to leave. Then he emailed me 4 days later to say he just wanted to be friends. Awesome.

I'm not sure what bothered me more - I really enjoyed talking with him and there haven't been many people I've enjoyed meeting lately - or the fact that he was so agressive. And it turns out we know about 50 of the same people - we went to school at the same places from pre-school on (no idea how we had not met before this). UGH. And I am super-mad at myself for even considering the idea of being friends (I could stand to expand my social circle a bit post-break up with the ex).

Anyway - I'm glad to hear there is hope out there!! (sorry to hijack!!!)

A gentleman will not feel the need to force himself upon you. And while the argument could be made that inviting him to your apartment may have sent the wrong signal about where you wanted the night to go, nonetheless, when you said to slow down, he should not have been "resistant".

 

[Pakey]

Absolutely. I divorced after 9 years of marriage (and a 3 year old son). I've been blissfully remarried for 25 years now to a man who was also divorced with 2 young sons.

I dated maybe a half of a dozen men prior to meeting him. I knew right away that he was different because he told me to bring my son along on our second date (our first date was dinner at a mutual friend's house).

In all honesty, I would have never married my second husband if I hadn't went through my first marriage. My first husband was all grand gestures but no substance. My current husband is the slow and steady kind of guy. He's not the type to tell me that I'm wonderful or beautiful but he was there taking care of me through months of chemo.

 

[Disney Doll]

We lived together for 5 years then got married. Six months into the marriage, she cheated on me while I was at sea. We worked thru it. A year later she told me she wanted a divorce. She was cheating with another guy and he was the true love of her life and she ran away with him when he went back to Ohio after his discharge from the Marine Corps...the divorce was finalized a year later.

A little over a year after that, after I had pretty much given up on ever being happy and in love again, I met the true love of MY life. We will be married 22 years this November. So, yes, you can be happy again. It can happen to you.

Oh, and the first wife? The guy she ran away with became an over the road trucker, and was cheating on her with women in about 5 different cities. She found out becuase while he was out on the road, she was handling the bills back home and she got the phone bill with LOTS of calls to the same set of numbers all over the country. Karma can be a cast-iron b....uh, bear, yeah, that's it, bear.

I karma sometimes, don't you???