Fiance wants an UGLY ring...need advice

[jojoandhb]

My fiance and I looked at wedding bands, and he wants a really ugly one. I'm not joking. It's white gold with little wolves carved in it. He loves wolves. Should I let him get it since he'll be the one wearing it, even if it is really ugly?
How can I talk him into something else? Or can I?

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I would say if it's his ring, and that's what he would love. I would get it for him.

 

[aeryn]

Advice from a very recent Groom friend of mine: "Have him keep a bag over his hand Then she doesn't have to look at it."

Just one recommendation

 

[Gradar1]

I'd say let him have it....after all, he's the one that has to wear it, lol.

 

[StephSFL]

I know he should at least one thing he really wants- I keep getting told it's all about us brides.
However, if you really don't like it and think it may be something he might look back on and say, "what was I thinkiing?!?!", then maybe intervention is a good thing. You could suggest he go with a plain ring and let you engrave the inside with something more personel- like a wolf and a special saying.
Makes for a surprise on the weddign day and everyone is happy!
No matter what, I hope everything works out! Keep us updated!

 

[BrideToBe82]

Eww wolves on a ring? He is the one that will be wearing the ring so I say let him get the wolf ring...maybe you can convince him that a wolf inside the ring (where no one can see) would look nicer. If he has his heart set on this ring just let him have it.

 

[TinkBride]

HAHA!!!

Men are so silly!

Unfortuantely, it is kinda his say when it comes to his ring. I know it sucks and you have strong feelings about this.........but hey..........you can look at it this way.....it is definately unique and no one else will probably have it!

I say grin and bear it!

 

[Maggimus]

lol... Im gonna be completely honest. If my DH had wanted wolves on his ring.... I think I would have tried every way in the world to find a normal one that he would love just as much or more than that one. Make sure he has looked at all his options (If you know what i mean?). I just couldnt see how wolves on a ring would make you think of your wife? lol. "Man shes a wolverine in the bedroom".. i mean... seriously?
In that case I would have tons of high-heels and purses on my ring . Ahh... the thought of it . Haha.. im just kidding with you and I hope you know that. But in the end... I think I would make sure he has weighed all his options... by going to tons of jewelry stores and absolutely making sure that there is no other normal ring out there that he would want.

Im evil... I dont know how my DH puts up with me.

Hugs to you JoJo... things will work out

 

[Sparkles9306]

Well it is his ring and he is going to have to wear it, but like others have said maybe you could just hint about rings that are a little more subtle.

 

[cryssi]

if it gets him to wear the ring and that's what you want, then let him do it...maybe it will grow on you?? lol

DH has already lost his ring...he's not a jewelry wearer, and even though he picked out his own ring (titanium, not that pricey b/c he probably wouldn't wear it), he takes it off and leaves it places b/c it bugs him...so...it's gone, probably sucked up in the vacuum cleaner at his mom's house. Oh well. Luckily it doesn't bother me...but I digress...

good luck!

 

[amyminzey]

Think about it the other way around. What if you wanted a ring that he absolutely hated? How would you feel if he told you no, you can't have the engagement/wedding ring that you want? He wants a ring that has meaning to him, right? Well, maybe this is that ring.

 

[kimnkel]

Wolves on a ring...LOL! It could be worse--he could have insisted on wolves on the cake--or little engraved wolves on the invites.

Do they really make rings with wolves on them? I guess they do...are the wolves super obvious?

Well, maybe the stuff we like seems as silly to the men as wolves on rings do to us--maybe we just have to indulge each other. I go along with Maggimus on her advice--let him look at lots of other options, maybe get a like minded friend talk to him about the wolf thing, and hope he changes his mind. Act like you are willing to go along with whatever he decides, and he might be more open to the idea of a different ring. (Men hate to feel like they are being bossed, don't you think? makes it harder to boss them--lol)

Good luck!

 

[TinkBride]

I am so intrigued...........

We GOTTA see a pic of this ring somehow! if you can find one you gotta post it!

 

[TinkBride]

I am so intrigued...........

We GOTTA see a pic of this ring somehow! if you can find one you gotta post it!

 

[Maggimus]

I am with you Tink. I cannot stop grinning from ear to ear as this thread goes on. I MUST see this ring!!

 

[afinter1]

Haha. You two read my mind!

I want to see this ring. I just can't believe it exists.

 

[jojoandhb]

I am so intrigued...........

We GOTTA see a pic of this ring somehow! if you can find one you gotta post it!

It was not easy to find a ring comparable to the one he likes, but this one is close:

He said he likes engraved details, so I tried to talk him into something more like this:

But, he LOVES wolves, we even have a half timber wolf half German Shepherd as a pet.
He did say he'll probably wear it on a chain around his neck because he works with his hands a lot...maybe then people won't see it as much?

 

[Maggimus]

Poor Jojo....I bet you are like !!

Im sure if you keep shopping... there is something out there for him. Maybe you could talk him into getting matching his and hers. That might touch his sentimental bone??

 

[TinkBride]

OK....don't flame me.....

But if I saw that ring on a guy's finger or on a chain, I would not think "Hmmm that's a wedding band"

Like you said if it was on a chain it would not be as bad, and if he plans on doing that anyways, because he wants to keep it nice and from getting scratched, then I would be more willing to go with it.

I am so sorry JoJo......I can not even imagine the tongue biting that is going on right now...but what if you had picked THE RING and he told you "NO" because it wan't his taste?

But, then again, I am sure you would not want animals on your wedding band!

I am out of words, as to what to tell you to do, like a previous poster said, what if you found a nice band to his liking and had a wolf engraved on the inside?

 

[Moonpie]

His ring will be in your wedding photos...forever. I would talk to him about getting matching wedding bands because the wedding bands should symbolize more about your love and your promise to each other, rather than symbolizing your personal interests...and then surprise him with a wolf ring for his other hand as a wedding present.