feeling sorry for myself

[hentob]

Birthday or not, that was EXTREMELY rude of your parents to allow you to sit like that and never show up

Did I miss what her excuse was?

Oh, and by the way

 

[mommasita]

Happy Birthday!

I hope nothing happened to them. I get the impression this may be habitual by your posting. That is horrible. Personally, I would be worried that (god forbid) they had an accident or something. Hope that is not the case.

I know how hard it is with family, I really do

 

[lovemylife]

Thanks to all of you who were so nice last night.

Last night at about 9:00 my mom leaves a message on my cell phone and said sorry that she missed me on my birthday (had a tone in her voice, like it was my fault). Said dad was running late (he was home at 5:15 and they live 10 minutes away) and they got there at 6:30 and didn't see me. They couldn't call me either because she left her purse and cell at home. Nevermind that my dad has a cell phone glued to him almost. Well, my DS and I left at 6:40, before we left, we looked all around the place and didn't see them so I really didn't feel bad leaving.

She then invited us to a movie on Thursday morning at 10:00, but I told her 4 times I am having a 2 1/2 hr test that morning, but I guess she didn't listen. I guess you could say rude behavior is common in them.

Thanks again for letting me vent last night.

 

[Teacher03]

I hope today is better! Happy belated Birthday!

 

[agnes!]

Sometimes family just sucks. Sheesh, I am so sorry, I would be hurt too. Sounds like this bad behavior is not unexpected/unusual though, right? I bet she does hurtful things like pay more attention to your sibling (parent of the nephews) maybe even going all out on *their* special occasions but then turns around and ignores you... Sadly, I think you need to learn to expect little to nothing from your mother. I do have to admit something here... I'm kind of wondering why your dad is getting a free pass since he's the one with the cell-pone glued to his hip, couldn't he at least have called you? You seem to be reserving all your anger/hurt feelings for your mom.

Oh, and

HAPPPY BIRTHDAY!!!​

AGNES!

 

[Robinrs]

Just be thankful you still have them... I wish I could complain about my parents again but I can't because they're gone and I MISS THEM.

You have a husband, healthy children and live parents. Start doing your username and feel better!! That's a choice!!

 

[lovesmurfs]

Happy belated birthday! I'm so sorry -- I know that you weren't expecting much, but when you hope that they'll change and don't, it's disappointing at the least.

We can't change people, only our reactions to them -- Rejoice that your inlaws seem to be filling the hole that your parents don't seem to be able to fill.

 

[WDSearcher]

Thanks to all of you who were so nice last night.

Last night at about 9:00 my mom leaves a message on my cell phone and said sorry that she missed me on my birthday (had a tone in her voice, like it was my fault). Said dad was running late (he was home at 5:15 and they live 10 minutes away) and they got there at 6:30 and didn't see me. They couldn't call me either because she left her purse and cell at home. Nevermind that my dad has a cell phone glued to him almost. Well, my DS and I left at 6:40, before we left, we looked all around the place and didn't see them so I really didn't feel bad leaving.

She then invited us to a movie on Thursday morning at 10:00, but I told her 4 times I am having a 2 1/2 hr test that morning, but I guess she didn't listen. I guess you could say rude behavior is common in them.

Thanks again for letting me vent last night.

Sounds like your mom was frustrated about how the evening went, not blaming you. I mean … think about it. She planned to meet you for your birthday, husband was late, they got there and didn’t see you, she forgot her phone and purse and was mad at herself for that, probably pretty flustered by that time because they were so late … sounds like she also had a rotten night. If that had happened to me, my voice would have "a tone" too. But I suspect she was mad more at the situation as a whole and not at you.

When you called to find out where they were, did you call your mom or your dad? If you called your mom ... well ... she didn't have her phone with her, so you can't really fault her for not calling back. If you called your dad, then he should have picked up and said, "We're here, where are you?"

As for the "I told her four times but I guess she doesn't listen," we all 'hear' stuff that we don't remember. Sounds like she's trying to make it up to you, at least. I'd give her points for that.

But really ... I'd cut them a break. You had a great birthday celebration with your husband, your in-laws brought you pizza. You had two nice celebrations specifically focused on you and one that didn't really work out. Maybe take a look at the glass as half full, y'know?

Hope you had a great birthday!

 

[cat83]

Happy (belated) Birthday!!

Sorry it didn't go the way you would have liked...but I hope the next 364 are much better!!