LadyOfDunBroch
Earning My Ears
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- Jul 16, 2015
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Hey all! Hope this is the right place to post this, was wavering between here and the CB but figured you all may be able to shed some light on this for me 
My best friend has been with her partner for nearly 10 years, they got married almost 3 years ago. For awhile now when I hung out with them together it felt kind of chilly, but I didn't really think much of it. Until the end of this past September when BFF called out of the blue and said her DW was leaving her, planning on moving back to live with family across the country. They have certainly had some problems in the past (BFF called once lamenting that DW had THROWN A DISH AT HER!!
) But I don't think either of us saw this coming!
So on to the title of the thread...
Since September I have been helping BFF, consoling her, talking things out with her... and that's all we've been doing. Every time we are on the phone, every time I'm at her apartment or she's at the house, in each and every text. It's gotten to the point that my DH is getting annoyed because I can easily spend 2 hours on the phone with her rehashing the same conversations over and over and I finally have to be the one to end the call. I realize that it is remarkably difficult, what she is going through. And I feel so badly that she has to deal with this
But at the same time I feel like it's sucking all of my time and emotional energy. To complicate things, her DW was VERY introverted, so they never went anywhere and BFF has no other real friends (we met through work) I have suggested therapy but she said money is too tight for it. I suggested calling the 211 number for united way to see if there is free counseling available anywhere, but she flat out refuses because she has had bad experiences in the past? she wouldn't go into it any further than that
I am at my wits end! I want so badly to help her but I am at a loss.... any suggestions? thoughts? flames, even! I'll take ANYTHING at this point!!
My best friend has been with her partner for nearly 10 years, they got married almost 3 years ago. For awhile now when I hung out with them together it felt kind of chilly, but I didn't really think much of it. Until the end of this past September when BFF called out of the blue and said her DW was leaving her, planning on moving back to live with family across the country. They have certainly had some problems in the past (BFF called once lamenting that DW had THROWN A DISH AT HER!!
) But I don't think either of us saw this coming!So on to the title of the thread...
Since September I have been helping BFF, consoling her, talking things out with her... and that's all we've been doing. Every time we are on the phone, every time I'm at her apartment or she's at the house, in each and every text. It's gotten to the point that my DH is getting annoyed because I can easily spend 2 hours on the phone with her rehashing the same conversations over and over and I finally have to be the one to end the call. I realize that it is remarkably difficult, what she is going through. And I feel so badly that she has to deal with this
But at the same time I feel like it's sucking all of my time and emotional energy. To complicate things, her DW was VERY introverted, so they never went anywhere and BFF has no other real friends (we met through work) I have suggested therapy but she said money is too tight for it. I suggested calling the 211 number for united way to see if there is free counseling available anywhere, but she flat out refuses because she has had bad experiences in the past? she wouldn't go into it any further than that I am at my wits end! I want so badly to help her but I am at a loss.... any suggestions? thoughts? flames, even! I'll take ANYTHING at this point!!
