Feeling odd about recent decision *Update Page 7*

[fkj2]

Dax, I'd recommend you apply for the food stamps. There's a vast difference between having a need and milking the system. Sounds like you've about cut back as much as you can.

About the pets, I give you credit for trying to maintain them. The system's overburdened with pets that owners have had no choice but to surrender. Although I appreciate the opinions of those who may feel your available funds might better be allocated on your own health needs, I also believe there may be some benefit to your health in keeping the pets. I couldn't begin to imagine the stress I'd feel if I had to surrender mine. Such stress surely couldn't be good for your migraines.

Best to you. As others have said, check with some of the local food pantries and churches.

 

[C.Ann]

There is nothing wrong with applying for food stamps.. If you qualify, you will get them - if not, perhaps they can point you in the direction of a good food pantry in your area..

It really upsets me when I see someone such as yourself getting "beat up" over this type of situation.. I don't care if "their DH did blah, blah, blah"- or if they themselves did "blah, blah, blah".. They are not YOU - they are not living in YOUR town - they are not living YOUR life - and they don't have a CLUE what sacrifices you have already made, how many jobs you have applied for, how much EMERGENCY savings that you went THROUGH before you had to make this unsettling decision - and on and on..

Unless someone here is living inside Dax's head, body, and soul, I would suggest it's time to put away your "crystal ball"..

Dax: Please, please, please ignore these types of toxic people.. You know that you're doing the best that you possibly can right now and that is the only "opinion" that REALLY matters..

 

[C.Ann]

Some of the remarks on here are really ludacris! All Dax wanted was some advise,not people knocking her down,and making her feel worse! Dax, I live in Clermont,please feel free to pm me if you need ANYTHING. I have food, an extra room,whatever. I will not judge.I have worked for HRS in past,for FoodStamps.It's there for people who need them. Florida is in a bad shape right now,just like many other states.It's not easy to pick up and relocate-it takes money to start over.I feel for you,Dax. I feel for anyone in this situation.

You are such a wonderful, kind, compassionate person to make such a generous offer to Dax..

Sadly, people such as yourself are becoming far and few between.. It's much easier to sit back and brow beat someone who is already down and out..

 

[Dax]

I appreciate all of the kind words from many of you who understand the situation. As it has been put, no one knows my life..unless they are me, DH or one of my pugs...

Giving up one of my dogs, NOT an option. I have no one in town to care for them..they are my burden, and I will maintain them.

Again, thank you all. I will keep you posted as to what happens. Thanks again for the generous offers as well.

 

[rockundergirl]

I'm glad you had the good sense to apply for a program meant to help people, I have respect for that. I'm in a bad spot myself, You have prob thought of this, but did you know that you can call most companies ( electric/ heat/ phone/ internet) and tell them you don't know what to do cuz you can't afford your bill. I did that , and it turns out my phone company was able to keep my phone line connected for just 11.95 a month, I was paying 34.95 before that and thinking i was getting a deal! just an fyi, and good luck , keep your head up.

 

[SweetMommy]

Please don't feel bad. I know in MA when you apply for the extension on UI, they automatically set you up w/ an appt. to apply for food stamps. You need to get by just like the rest of us. Good Luck

 

[stazmatic]

Here is my take. Not sure how old you are but if you are under 40 chances are you won't be getting all the Social Security you have paid into the system so consider it an advance!

 

[lts862]

Not trying to hijack the OP's thread, but this post upset me greatly. AND they are SSR owners and have a WDW vacation planned within the next year. Before people jump on the OP and worrying about her pets, maybe someone should be worrying about this poster's kids!

lts862, if this was a typo, I apologize greatly.

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**************ETA: I was a little harsh! I see where the omission of the word "meat" would scare some people!! I just reread my post! I apologize. Again, I read it quickly and was just livid. I accept your apology and respectfully ask that you accept mine!!!

 

[shortbun]

I hope you find more help from Florida than did my cousin. He was told that families without children would get very little food stamp assistance. I think he got $50 a month as a single, unemployed, permanently disabled man. We came down and moved him up here so we could take care of him. Ohio does a little better for him and I'm here to bring in groceries every few weeks. I try to take care of the non-food items like soaps, paper and trash bags as well as a few treats and he handles the essentials. I found him a free clinic for medical and it's a good one. We also found a great apartment for him that he's able to handle financially with his SSDI. Are you or your husband able to pick up odd jobs helping people or do you have anything you can barter? Times are tough and we all need to stick together. My BIL and SIL have both been out of work since October. They are getting desperate. Btw, are you near any home care agencies or nursing homes? They are still having a hard time finding help up here despite the job shortages. Try the health care industry. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

 

[Tink-aholic]

Not trying to hijack the OP's thread, but this post upset me greatly. AND they are SSR owners and have a WDW vacation planned within the next year. Before people jump on the OP and worrying about her pets, maybe someone should be worrying about this poster's kids!

lts862, if this was a typo, I apologize greatly.

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**************ETA: I was a little harsh! I see where the omission of the word "meat" would scare some people!! I just reread my post! I apologize. Again, I read it quickly and was just livid. I accept your apology and respectfully ask that you accept mine!!!

I'm so glad it was a typo! Malificent also pointed out that you might have meant to add "meat" to your post. I did not mean to be judgemental at all and sorry if it came off that way. I was just pointing out that if you were skipping eating for days at a time to go to WDW...well, maybe they were being overly harsh on the OP.

So sorry if I upset you. No need to apologize to me, but I thank you anyway.

Keep budgeting and I hope you have a wonderful trip!

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[Dax]

***Update****

Today, July 3, I recieved a letter in the mail, telling me they need to me to call them for an interview. I hope that is a good sign. I will keep you posted.

 

[S. C.]

Good Luck Dax.

 

[horseshowmom]

Good luck!

 

[Dax]

Well I had my "interview" today...which in of itself was a disaster. I was supposed to call between 10a-12p TODAY. So I begin calling at about 10:15a, as I was busy with something else. I get the typical "all agents busy" message, so I prepare for a long hold time. Just as soon as I get the message and I assume about to enter queue, it hangs up. This is then REPEATED over and over again until noon. I finally call back in at 12:10, only to FINALLY be put on hold for over an hour in a silent queue, with the occasional "all agents busy"

When I got a human, they basically went over my application. She told me unless I was pregnant, disabled or over 65, nothing is avail to me for medical. WoW..amazing.

Then she told me that my DH and I make TOO MUCH for foodstamps. I had to laugh. They take the amount he get BEFORE taxes and benefits come out...which I think is wrong. She told me that I can re-apply when my unemployement runs out..of course by then...I wont be able to afford my rent to store the food I would be getting.

I am just sick about the whole thing. After my rent was paid this past week, I had less than $50 in my bank account to survive on...but I am not in need..

OK, off to go have a good cry somewhere...I feel so defeated.

 

[cheap traveler]

I am so sorry. I know the pain. I am a single mother of 2, making what I can, and I don't qualify either. My DD5 will be entering kindergarten in the fall, so at least she will be able to get $.25 lunches.

Good luck finding work, or getting help elsewhere. Maybe a food bank could help out?

 

[eyor44]

Keep your chin up Dax. There is help out there. I'm not sure where as I don't live near you, but hopefully somewheres.....

Have your cry....a good long one.....hug your puppies.....take a few deep breaths and think. Scour the threads here for suggestions, it will take some creative thinking, but you can do it. You really can.

 

[smylie1]

This is really making me mad! Why why why can someone never strike a lick in their lives, be second, third, fourth, generation well-fare recipiants have baby after baby and seem to get everything they ask for, BUT someone needs just a little help for a little while to get back on their feet and they are denied!! I'm going to just leave it at that ...

No, I'm not, I'm gonna tell you my mom's story. When I was about 2 years old, my bio-father left. It was me and Mom with what little she made in a furniture factory. She said she lacked about $30 a month being able to make it. She went to SS and told them this. THEY WOULD NOT SUPPPLEMENT HER $30 a month! Not in food stamps, WIC, nothing. BUT told her if she "lost" her job they would pay her rent, childcare, food stamps, and healthcare! WTH!!
She declined and thankfully my grandparents were able to help alittle until her situation changed. She married my DDDDDDstep-dad! (don't like putting that "step" in there, he's my daddy! )

 

[wovenwonder]

Thinking of you.............

 

[Disneyliscious]

Dax,

Im so sorry this happened to you.

In all honesty, what happened to you is the very reason so many people cheat the system.....they have to. The legitimate people can't get the assistance they need so they lie to get the assistance. Sometimes.....I honestly can't blame them.

It astounds me that they won't require some kind of birth control for anyone under 23 and popping out babies left and right.

I have a nephew who just turned 20 on the 4th of July. His 19 y/o gf had a baby on August 30th last year......they had another on May 18th this year. Do the math on that one - 8 and a half months apart!

I simply cannot understand why the government wont step in on people like that and FORCE them to get fixed or use that 5 year birth control that goes under your skin...can't remember the name of it....

They automatically got accepted for ALL of the aid. My nephew does work...makes about $9.75 an hour. She doesn't work, has no car, has the oldest baby with her and the new one is in Vanderbilt University Medical Center for another 6 months to a year due to severe complications and being born early (the mother is a Lortab junkie).

WHY oh WHY can't they drug test people who get state aid?? Because those same people would just let their kids suffer and do without - thats why. It gripes me. I am a firm believer in using state aid if needed, but I don't agree with allowing them to have babies whenever they want.

That goes back to the education thing. This 19 y/o mother was raised in an alcoholic family and taken away from her own parents as a child because she was neglected. My nephew was one of the kids who raised himself because his dad and step mom worked 2 jobs each.....

Dax.....don't give up. Check out Angel Food Ministries and local food banks such as Mid-Cumberland if they have one in your area.

Living on Ramen for a week is NOT healthy and can lead to severe health problems down the road from poor nutriion. I know you had no choice....which is why it frustrates me so bad that you couldn't get the assistance you need.

 

[ilovejack02]

http://www.cflcc.org/

Try this link. Catholic services helps folks here with a lots of different things and you don't have to be Catholic. Ill be thinking of you.