Feeling left out (a whiny little vent)

[funkychunkymonkey]

My freinds seem to be planning everything without me. They planned to go to this work realted play. I was not invited to go with them. Then they plan to dress like twins, go shopping and have a preprimping party. These two know there basically the only freinds I have in the area. Oh and then when I mentioned going, they invited me to sit with them. They then told me, I couldnt go in the car with them, there wouldnt be room and that they all had dates. I guess Im just feeling left out and need a hug today. Oh and I am going to the party, another coworker they invited (who they arnt close to) offered me a ride and told me I could sit with her. This isnt the first time they have left me out. They plan dinners and hang out at each others house alot without me. Mabye I should take the hint. Thanks for listening, I know I should just get over it but Its making me sad.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Grown women dress like twins??

 

[Bluestars]

I'm sorry your feelings are hurt. I would find new friends. Maybe if you get involved in activities that you are interested, you will meet new people.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I'm sorry your feelings are hurt. I would find new friends. Maybe if you get involved in activities that you are interested, you will meet new people.

Im not sure where to look. I want to find a photography club but havent yet. This incident is the final straw for me.

 

[JCJRSmith]

These people sound a little ..... off. Are you sure you want to hang out with them? Are they still in high school?

 

[momrek06]

My freinds

fcm, I would not be calling them "friends" if they were treating you like this....move on. Time to meet new people. Get involved in clubs and organizations.

 

[Disney Doll]

Unless you guys are 12 years old, I'd say it's time to find new friends.

 

[NYPDwife]

Why would you want to go if you have to force an invite?

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

It a work thing, I was invited orginally by corprate (they invite everyone) but wasnt going unless someone else I knew was. One of the women is 34 (married and has kids) and the other is 26 (and single). I think I will find new freinds. Now I see why everyone at work has issues with S (the 34 year old).

 

[ols386]

I'm sorry they treated you this way.

It sounds like it's all about "them". They were/are being very rude to you.

I don't think I would call them your friends. Friends don't treat friends that way.

Hopefully you can make some new friends. What about joining something new. Maybe you could do some on-line research about clubs or groups to join. I'm not sure what your interestes are, but there has to be something out there.

Good luck!!!

 

[MinnieTink]

I have had that left out feeling a few times!! Hugs to you...it stinks. The "friends" who have done that to me are still around. They won't ever just disappear but I have made other friends who certainly don't treat me that way.

Also, I agree with some PPs that these two seem WAY off. Twins? Really?? Last time I dressed like my friend I was in 7 th grade! LOL!

 

[Flight]

Grown women dress like twins??

I agree. That is a bit odd.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

last I heard there wearing matching pants and differnt purple tops. I went shopping with them and they tried to convince me I didnt want to wear purple..... Jerks

 

[Gabes_mommy]

last I heard there wearing matching pants and differnt purple tops. I went shopping with them and they tried to convince me I didnt want to wear purple..... Jerks

What weirdos! Distance yourself from them ASAP and work on finding some new friends who don't act like they're 12.

 

[clovergirl5]

last I heard there wearing matching pants and differnt purple tops. I went shopping with them and they tried to convince me I didnt want to wear purple..... Jerks

And they are how old? Im 36 yo mom and can't imagine wanting to get together with my friend and dressing up like twins

op, they sound a little childish and clickey imo. You can do better.

 

[mtemm]

to be honest they sound a little odd, and you sound a little dependent on them.

am sorry you are feeling low about it, but maybe a good wake-up call to get out more without them?

 

[Magic Mom]

I'm sorry your feelings are hurt. I would find new friends. Maybe if you get involved in activities that you are interested, you will meet new people.

I agree, broaden your circle of friends. The best way to do that is to get involved in new activities, like church or community classes or a sports activity. Then you will meet new friends and yout current friends won't feel like you depend solely on them for friendship and support.

 

[jen0610]

Only once have I ever dressed alike in my adult life and it was not planned.

My best friend and I were shopping and we both saw a sweater we liked. Neither of us got it though. Later each of us mentioned it to our boyfriends as they were asking about Christmas gift ideas. Needless to say, we both got the sweater we liked.

A couple of days after Christmas, the four of us go out. It was really cold, so everybody was bundled up good. It wasn't until we were inside the restraunt and we undid our coats did we see that we had our sweaters on. We had a good laugh and several of the people waiting in the lobby also got a chuckle, as we gave the guys crap for buying us the same sweater. They both swore that they didn't know that the other one was getting it.

During dinner, it was noted that the sweater was to be worn only when we weren't going to be around each other.

 

[pixiewings71]

LOL My BFF and I dress alike all the time, but it's totally by accident! LOL It's to the point now that we ask each other what the other one is wearing when we are going out so we don't dress alike. I love her, she loves me, we are like 2 halves of a whole really, we finish each others sentences and everything, but we don't want to dress alike. LOL

OP I think you need new friends for sure. These ladies are obviously both in their own world and they don't care if they hurt you or not. I hope you go and have fun without them!!

 

[NHdisneylover]

I'm sorry you are feeling low

I think maybe you need more friends. Not going to the party unless you know someone going is NOT the way to make some. Go to things like that to meet new people and make the friends. It is a great place to start along with the church groups and classes others have suggested.

I don't think you need to drop these friends at all (though I admit some of the behaviours --like dressing alike--sound very odd). No one wants to be the "only" friend of someone and feel obligated to always invite that person along. It takes away from the JOY of doing things with you if doing so becomes an OBLIGATION. Once you have other friends and are not dependant on these ladies, the pressure on them will release and they can go back to enjoying tiem with you.

If you get out and make some new friends you will not feel the need to always be included in this other group. Soemtimes you are and sometimes you're not. That's how most friends past highschool operate.