Feeling Down - long whine!!

[elisebutt]

I have a real downer going on at the moment !!!

I am losing fine - about 2lbs a week on average, my clothes are getting looser - just put aside an enormous pile of 16s for charity, I am getting my life in order.

But I just feel really blah!!!

Colin's gone to Majorca to take his boys on vacation, so I won't see him until next Thurs. Money is really tight at the minute as the Inland Revenue have really mucked up my Tax Credits so I have been £400/month short for the last 2 months.

I've had to ask nearly ex-husband for money to pay Dannys playschool, I hate doing that!!!

It's probably just a combination of everything, plus I just had a week without the boys while I chilled out at Colins place, going out to eat like grown ups sans children, being able to get dressed up to go out etc, and now I'm back to being Mum again. I do love my boys but I love the freedom when they're not here.

So I also get a guilt trip for enjoying myself without them as well!

And to top it all off, the person i was going to use as a reference for university has just gone on holiday - aaaagh!!!

Somebody shake me out of this funk!!!!

 

[TigH]

Eeek!

This just won't do! One of my favorite people in the world CAN NOT be in such a funk! Although I think that very creative people are prone to just such things, so it's a curse that someone as creative and talented as you will have to learn to live with!

((((((Elise)))))) Spend some time day dreaming if you get a chance. Colin will be back soon enough - and you know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Why don't you spend a little time crafting a surprise return gift (could be ANYthing, wink wink!) for him. And be super happy that you have just gotten those size 16 clothes ready for a charity, you are going to be helping someone who needs clothes AND you are going to pass on your fashion style to a very lucky lady!

Just don't be so blue, my pal! Life is just there waiting for you to take advantage of it. You are a great mom and your boys are lucky to have you as an influence in their life. Don't worry about asking the almost ex for money, he is partially responsible for the kids too. You're not meant to support them completely!

I will send pixie dust for the Inland Revenue thing to work out. My cousin is actually marrying an Inland Revenue collector eek: ) next year and we're going to Sheffield for the wedding. I wish she had some clout to help you out of your situation, but you know how the paperwork with the government goes...

Anyway, hang in there. You are a very independent and strong woman, you will be fine!

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That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger, or something like that. I see such a bright future ahead of you, things will only get better from here, sweetie! xo

 

[Tinkbell]

{{HUGS}} I don't have children but I know my friends who have them really value their "alone time" over my house too. It certainly does not make you a bad mom! Don't feel guilty. Everyone deserves a little break from time time.

Congrats on your weight loss! You're doing fantastic and you should be very proud of yourself!!

 

[TigH]

And another thing, "whine"???!!!

Shouldn't that be whinge? Don't you want to educate us in English?

 

[jenanderson]

You are not whining! It is my goal tonight to respond to all of the W.I.S.H. members who feel like this. What you are doing is sharing with people that you need a little pick me up!

I think it is time for a little bit of appreciating the positives of your weight loss - everyone who has lost so much here is an inspiration to me! Take a moment to think about what a great job you have done with this! Celebrate getting rid of the size 16 clothes and how you are still loosing weight!

We all get into funks in life and it seems as if times are hard for so many people. I know that even before I joined this board I would look here for inspiration. So please know, even in your funky mood, I admire what you have accomplished. I admire it even more knowing that you are still loosing even with all of the stress in your life (I like to eat when I am stressed!)

I am sending a lot of hugs and wishes that you will soon be in a happier place.

 

[glo]

Oh sweetie....everyone has days like that. Please do not feel that way because you enjoyed some down time. Everyone enjoys time to themselves. I love my three girls to death. but the weekend in Memorial day that I get to spend with friends is something I would not change for anything. Does not make me any less a mom, and is good for the spirit Please know you have friends here, and that you need only to yell when you feel down. Everyone feels like this everyonce in a while, you are entitled. You have done so well on your weight loss, and on helping people here...think of all the good things...I know better said than done

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[elisebutt]

Thanks peeps for all the encouragement - cloud seems to be lifting a little today and ---Hey - I didn't attack the cookie barrel!!!

Just did some budgeting and worked out that I can feed the kids this weekend with playschool money and pay them next week with some left over - yeay!!!

Also helps that my favourite 14 blouse is now way too baggy - LOL.

 

[Beanie]

I agree with glo on this one...You should not feel guilty about loving the time you have away from your kids! I love my kids dearly and always want to be with them, but DH and I go away a few times a year without the kids and the time is precious to me! I always enjoy it and never feel guilty about it...We all need time away from our kids at one point or another! (Well I do anyway!)

Cheer up Elise!! We are all here for you!