Feel so lost

[stacopp]

I feel kind of stupid writing this down but I just I am just looking for some comfort. My mom passed away unexpectedly last week. I never thought in a million years I would be going through her things without her here. To top it off, I had a huge falling out with a group of friends a couple years ago and no one even acknowledged her death. I know it shouldn't upset me... but it does. It feels like I have no friends, no support and my mom was an anchor for me. I feel like a horrible person. Thanks for listening.

 

[Trentmom]

I am sorry you feel so alone.

I am very sorry for your loss.

Don't force yourself to go through all her stuff right now if you don't have to.

That stuff can wait

 

[dogodisney]

I am so sorry for your loss. Keep coming here if you need a shoulder. We are here for you. God Bless you and give you strength to get through this.

 

[quasar4legs]

I am very sorry for your loss, it is hard to cope with the sudden loss of someone we love.

Even though your mum is gone, she can still be your anchor.
Grieving, by it's very nature is lonely and I am sorry your 'friends' have not been supportive during this sad time.

Take care of you and if you need somewhere to 'chat' there are lots of people here that are very good listeners.

Hugs
Quasar

 

[TinkerbellinLouisian]

Losing a Mom is VERY hard....I have been through that....


Be very Careful with YOU..... Take special times... give special moments....

You need to be pampered right now...and make sure you surround yourself with ppl that will help you...

Hugs,
Mary

 

[AnnaS]

I am very sorry for your loss

 

[lawsonsontour]

i had a very sad time a few weeks ago and posted on here and the love that came over the boards helped me alot...god bless and remember your never far from someone to chat to if you feel the need

 

[stacopp]

Thank you all for your kindness. I have been really overcome with the shock of it all and feeling sorry for myself. I have a great husband and daughter but I just feel like no one really understands what it is like. I miss my mom.

 

[MickeysMommy]

No one knows what it's like until they go through it.

My Daddy passed away 4 years ago this past Feb. 16th. I am an only child and extremely close with my Mom and Dad. It still hurts. Let yourself grieve. Cry if you need to. Scream if you want. Whatever helps YOU get through this is what's important. I miss my Dad every single day. I have had people that have lost parents try to comfort me. They can't. I was totally (and still consider myself) a Daddy's Girl.

About your friends - I am sorry. My ex-husband never acknowledged my Dad and I was really hurt. To this day, his entire family hasn't. Never even sent a card. I just feel bad that that is the way they were brought up and I know my Dad wouldn't want me to worry about that.

We're here if you need us.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I am so sorry for your loss. I miss my mom too. Its true no one understands sometimes. I battled cancer alot last year and wish she was there. I agree with the other posters, if you dont have to go through her things right now, dont, you need time to grieve. I pray Gods peace and comfort for you during this difficult time. Know your mum will always be in your heart and cling to all the good memories you have.

 

[WINTER]

I lost my mom unexpectantly right at Christmas time. I miss her and think of her every day. Some days it just hits me, that she is not with us anymore.

 

[FeelsLikeHome]

I don't know what to say or how to say it.. just wanted to tell you how sorry I am about the loss of your mother and wanted to show you some support.

 

[cm8]

I am so sorry for you loss! I just wanted to say that you mom will always be there to comfort you. I think writing a letter to her would help you. I still write in mines and then one day when I am ready, I think I will bury it and or mail it to heaven. It really helps me especially when I feel that others around me are not able to console me.

 

[saradela]

May it confort you, that your loved one is now at peace.

Here is A Link to a Book "hello from Heaven", where people had recived messages from their loved ones after they die, I hope it helps:

http://butterflywebsite.com/discover/bfliesandrainbows.cfm

 

[stacopp]

Thank you everyone for your kindness- it means so much to have a place where you will not be judged.

 

[amyy]

I am very sorry for your loss and don't know exactly what to say.

I can see why you would be upset that your friends didn't put aside your differences. I am sorry.


I lost my father suddenly when I came home to find he had passed away from a heart attack in his favorite chair. Going to a grief support group really helped.

take care

 

[Disney Daddy et al]

I struggle with most days trying to stay positive. After all it is how I make my living. Each day I grieve in the morning before work as to insure I do not lose it there. I take time at night also. I walk a few miles every morning on the beach to clear my head. Find a special place that works for you. Your Mother is always with you. She lives on in your memory and the stories she gave you. Celebrate her spirit every day. You are never alone. Take Care

 

[rie'smom]

Check with your church or the funeral home for a bereavement group. My mom started going to one after my younger brother died. She made a lot of new friends.

 

[stacopp]

Thank you for all the kind words and advice. I still find it very difficult and it seems to get harder, not better, but I am managing.

 

[angie@dvcstore]

Im so sorry for your loss. Will be praying for you