feel pretty low...

[Natalie_89]

...i dunno y but all of a sudden im noticing im single and im gettin slighty depressed... xx

 

[edamethyst]

You're 19 - I'd be depressed if I was 19 and married. Enjoy life as you have it - married/single, rich/poor, fat/skinny, tall/short - it is what you make of it. If you always wish for something different from what you have you'll never be happy or satisfied but if you're happy with what you have you'll enjoy it all alot more and be a happier person.

 

[Natalie_89]

You're 19 - I'd be depressed if I was 19 and married. Enjoy life as you have it - married/single, rich/poor, fat/skinny, tall/short - it is what you make of it. If you always wish for something different from what you have you'll never be happy or satisfied but if you're happy with what you have you'll enjoy it all alot more and be a happier person.

thnk u x

 

[APB513]

You're 19 - I'd be depressed if I was 19 and married. Enjoy life as you have it - married/single, rich/poor, fat/skinny, tall/short - it is what you make of it. If you always wish for something different from what you have you'll never be happy or satisfied but if you're happy with what you have you'll enjoy it all alot more and be a happier person.

I could not have said it better!!

Natalie -

I've been where you are. Heck, I was there last week But I have decided to be grateful for what I do have and not focus on what I don't have. I believe that when the time is right, my Prince will come along.

Until then, this Princess is spending her time getting her stuff together

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[CinRell]

Hey I'm 33 and single... sometimes it gets me down. I think it's this time of year... it's getting cold so not as much to do for us freeze babies... holidays are coming and no honies to spend it with...

However lately the prospect of being in a relationship and HAVING to make time away from work and my volunteer work in dog rescue and my time with family and friends to spend with someone (not that I wouldn't WANT to but I"m SO busy)... scares me even more!


You're SO young. Heck.. .at 33 even I realize I"m still pretty young and not ready to say it will NEVER happen.

This time of year is just rough.. I understand.

 

[deltachi8]

You're 19 - I'd be depressed if I was 19 and married. Enjoy life as you have it - married/single, rich/poor, fat/skinny, tall/short - it is what you make of it. If you always wish for something different from what you have you'll never be happy or satisfied but if you're happy with what you have you'll enjoy it all alot more and be a happier person.

Very wise advice....

 

[Natalie_89]

i think it is the time of year! it wood be nice to cuddle up with PC in the evening with a nice cup of coco

 

[black562]

You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with another person. If you have to rely on someone else to provide your happiness, you'll never be truely happy. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you. I rushed into marriage and it ended in divorce only 18 months later.

So be happy, enjoy life...one day someone will come along when you least expect it and love will hit you right between the eyes.

 

[spiceycat]

...i dunno y but all of a sudden im noticing im single and im gettin slighty depressed... xx

get involved - do volunteer work - there are a bunch of charites that need the help.

if you get involved with others you won't be so lonely (and therefore will not make bad mistakes that you will regret your entire life).

if you don't work get a job.

fill your hours with others - believe me it is better than saying poor me.

 

[Nie0214]

You're 19 - I'd be depressed if I was 19 and married.

Agreed! I'm 22 and I see a lot of old high school and college people with engaged/married status, and it boggles my mind! I'm still trying to get my career on track!

I think sitting in a cubicle at work for 40 hours a week, same time every day, same hours every week, etc. around this gray time of year coupled with the holidays is depressing. Definitely get involved if you don't like staying at the house, get out to the gym and just walk the treadmill for a half hour, or volunteer to wrap presents at the mall, etc. All fun stuff!

 

[Trinitys Ghost]

What these folks said.

I'm 31, the only person in my family (immediate or extended) living in FL, and am single. This time of year can be tough, but only if you let it be. Take the opportunity during this time of the year to hang with family (if some/all are local), friends and coworkers. Celebrate the season however you do, but make sure that you remember that you are not alone, whether in the family/friends/coworkers sense of the relationship sense. Alot of us are in the same boat, and I'm sure we can cheer each other on and/or provide suggestions to help out. Being single during the holidays can prove to be just as much fun.

 

[Poppins2000]

Buck up little buckaroo! It will get better - who knows what surprises in life lie ahead for you? I was single for a longggggg time (13 years!) and I hated the thought of being alone for the rest of my life. All of my younger brothers and sisters were married, had families and the holidays well, sucked! But I had a good job, got to travel, had great friends, a good life (although too blind to see it!) and once I stopped dwelling over whether or not I would ever find the right person and started enjoying my life; BOOM! Prince Charming himself shows up. Someone whom I went to high school with but never dated and we connected over the internet. He lived in NY, I lived in FL but we long distance dated and got married 10 months later right after I turned 39! We'll celebrate our 9 year anniversary next spring.

Who knows whats in store you; but I'm sure it will be wonderful and magical!

 

[Natalie_89]

thanks every1 for ur comments ... comin heres just made me feel a bit better

 

[Disneyfan71]

Hey..I was single for a VERY long time---and went to Disney with my parents several times and didn't have anyone--and yes it was lonely. But the thing you have to remember is that you have to be happy with yourself---go to Disney, have a good time and leave all your worries behind.

 

[Natalie_89]

Hey..I was single for a VERY long time---and went to Disney with my parents several times and didn't have anyone--and yes it was lonely. But the thing you have to remember is that you have to be happy with yourself---go to Disney, have a good time and leave all your worries behind.

i wish i could go to disney tht wood make me better lol xx

 

[Mousecop]

Natalie,

In addition to all the other wisdom passed along here, consider that you may wish you were alone if you end up in a bad/toxic relationship. It's simply not worth it to your soul to be engaged in a relationship, just to be in a relationship, when that relationship does not feed you emotionally.

That's at the core of being happy with yourself first. When you are happy and comfortable with yourself, you attract the same sort of people into your life, and these are the people with whom you can form healthy relationships. When you are alone, or unhappy, those are the sort of people you attract into your life, and the kind that form toxic relationships because they don't know any other kind.

Some people never understand this, and until recently I could count myself among those people. I've been married more than once, and to women who were toxic and unhealthy. Until recently, I wasn't happy with myself, and 'needed' someone in my life. Only now do I understand the power of choice, and the ability to choose (instead of need) someone with whom to share my life. Only now can I say that I am happy with myself and the life I live, the friends I have and the value I bring in my community.

This doesn't mean I wouldn't make a choice to add someone to my life and share important things with that person. But I don't need to do that to have a fun time with my life as it exists now. That is a much more centered way I choose to live.

I hear the pain of loneliness in your messages, and I hear how much you hope for companionship. But please remember that these are things you must get from yourself, from within, than from other people. You will never find someone that can give you all that you need, because that person just doesn't exist for anyone. But you do have the ability to get all these things for yourself from yourself.

Surround yourself with people with whom you want to hang around. Invite good things and good people into your life. And create space in your life for those people to come in.

The universe always gives us what we are supposed to have. Right now, perhaps you are not supposed to have a partner. Mucking around with the universe is usually a bad idea, and gets you hurt very badly. Perhaps there is a lesson during this time that the universe is trying to teach you about yourself. Be open to it - figure it out and try to learn and embrace it. When you have learned the lesson, the universe is more likely to present you with choices for a partner.

These were painful lessons for me to learn, and I suspect for others that learned them as well. But I believe you are strong enough to learn them and to be healthier at the end of the journey. Why do I think this? Because you reached out for support in your very first message. That tells me how strong and determined you are.

It will work out.

Mark

 

[Natalie_89]

Natalie,

In addition to all the other wisdom passed along here, consider that you may wish you were alone if you end up in a bad/toxic relationship. It's simply not worth it to your soul to be engaged in a relationship, just to be in a relationship, when that relationship does not feed you emotionally.

That's at the core of being happy with yourself first. When you are happy and comfortable with yourself, you attract the same sort of people into your life, and these are the people with whom you can form healthy relationships. When you are alone, or unhappy, those are the sort of people you attract into your life, and the kind that form toxic relationships because they don't know any other kind.

Some people never understand this, and until recently I could count myself among those people. I've been married more than once, and to women who were toxic and unhealthy. Until recently, I wasn't happy with myself, and 'needed' someone in my life. Only now do I understand the power of choice, and the ability to choose (instead of need) someone with whom to share my life. Only now can I say that I am happy with myself and the life I live, the friends I have and the value I bring in my community.

This doesn't mean I wouldn't make a choice to add someone to my life and share important things with that person. But I don't need to do that to have a fun time with my life as it exists now. That is a much more centered way I choose to live.

I hear the pain of loneliness in your messages, and I hear how much you hope for companionship. But please remember that these are things you must get from yourself, from within, than from other people. You will never find someone that can give you all that you need, because that person just doesn't exist for anyone. But you do have the ability to get all these things for yourself from yourself.

Surround yourself with people with whom you want to hang around. Invite good things and good people into your life. And create space in your life for those people to come in.

The universe always gives us what we are supposed to have. Right now, perhaps you are not supposed to have a partner. Mucking around with the universe is usually a bad idea, and gets you hurt very badly. Perhaps there is a lesson during this time that the universe is trying to teach you about yourself. Be open to it - figure it out and try to learn and embrace it. When you have learned the lesson, the universe is more likely to present you with choices for a partner.

These were painful lessons for me to learn, and I suspect for others that learned them as well. But I believe you are strong enough to learn them and to be healthier at the end of the journey. Why do I think this? Because you reached out for support in your very first message. That tells me how strong and determined you are.

It will work out.

Mark

thank you mark for ur wise words...

 

[ttester9612]

I couldn't have said it any better. Listen to Mark....he is a very wise man...

 

[Johnfish]

Natalie,

In addition to all the other wisdom passed along here, consider that you may wish you were alone if you end up in a bad/toxic relationship. It's simply not worth it to your soul to be engaged in a relationship, just to be in a relationship, when that relationship does not feed you emotionally.

That's at the core of being happy with yourself first. When you are happy and comfortable with yourself, you attract the same sort of people into your life, and these are the people with whom you can form healthy relationships. When you are alone, or unhappy, those are the sort of people you attract into your life, and the kind that form toxic relationships because they don't know any other kind.

Some people never understand this, and until recently I could count myself among those people. I've been married more than once, and to women who were toxic and unhealthy. Until recently, I wasn't happy with myself, and 'needed' someone in my life. Only now do I understand the power of choice, and the ability to choose (instead of need) someone with whom to share my life. Only now can I say that I am happy with myself and the life I live, the friends I have and the value I bring in my community.

This doesn't mean I wouldn't make a choice to add someone to my life and share important things with that person. But I don't need to do that to have a fun time with my life as it exists now. That is a much more centered way I choose to live.

I hear the pain of loneliness in your messages, and I hear how much you hope for companionship. But please remember that these are things you must get from yourself, from within, than from other people. You will never find someone that can give you all that you need, because that person just doesn't exist for anyone. But you do have the ability to get all these things for yourself from yourself.

Surround yourself with people with whom you want to hang around. Invite good things and good people into your life. And create space in your life for those people to come in.

The universe always gives us what we are supposed to have. Right now, perhaps you are not supposed to have a partner. Mucking around with the universe is usually a bad idea, and gets you hurt very badly. Perhaps there is a lesson during this time that the universe is trying to teach you about yourself. Be open to it - figure it out and try to learn and embrace it. When you have learned the lesson, the universe is more likely to present you with choices for a partner.

These were painful lessons for me to learn, and I suspect for others that learned them as well. But I believe you are strong enough to learn them and to be healthier at the end of the journey. Why do I think this? Because you reached out for support in your very first message. That tells me how strong and determined you are.

It will work out.

Mark

Wow Mark! That was great. I really need to take this to heart myself. So much going on in my life right now that is stressful. It is hard to focus on what is good! I am even having trouble getting excited about my Disney trip!

Natalie... Listen to what Mark has said. It is the truth and at your age and with that beautiful smile you are going to have guys lining up. Just keep Mark's wise words in mind. Having been in a toxic relationship it is far better being a little lonely believe me. The key is really learning to love your self first (something I am still struggling with!) Learning it now at 19 is better than waiting until you are in your 40s. It will be extremely valuable as you go through the rest of your life.

Wishing you the best and keep smiling!!!!


John

 

[acm563]

Listen to Mark, truer words have never been spoken. Take it from a wise old lady of 45 who has been there and done that...I have learned I would rather be alone and semi miserable any day of the week than with someone and totally miserable..... I have actually came to prefer my solitude!!!!!