Father's Day with a dad and a son

[Hillbeans]

Ok....my dilema...

My Father is 70 and my mom died last year. I want to spend Father's Day with him, but I also have a DH and a son, 3 whom I also want to spend the day with.

How do you all who have a Dad and a spouse/child spend the day? I just feel if I plan something, it'll be something neither want to do on their "special day".

Thanks for any input!

 

[Bob Slydell]

No chance you can do something with everyone together?

If not, then I would try to do something on both Saturday and Sunday.

 

[piglet too]

I have come to find after reading all the posts in regards to Mother's Day, that I am in the minority here. Ever since I became a mom, and my DH a dad, we focus on us for that special day. We do make a point of calling his folks and stopping by to see mine, but the day is for us.

I would maybe have lunch with your Dad at a special place, and include your DH and DS in this. Then have a specail dinner at home for your DH courtesy of DS. Or maybe see if there is something that your DH wants to do that you can include your Dad in if he would like it too. What have you done in the past?

 

[Tink33]

We have done barbeques in the past so that all the Dads, kids and grandkids could spend time together.

This year we are trying something new. The San Diego Padres have a new ballpark that none of the men have visited. I bought tickets and the whole group are going to spend the afternoon at the baseball game. There will be 3 generations - ages 8 to 64.

Could you get tickets for a local sporting event?

 

[Hillbeans]

Well, last year we had dinner with my Dad, Mom, Husband and Son at my Parents special restaurant, but that was the last meal my mom ate as she was diagnosed with Cancer just a few days later and couldn't eat solid foods. We all had such a special day.

It'd be too weird to go back to that place, but I guess i'll just feel them both out as to what they want to do and try and plan something. I'd just hate to leave my dad to himself on this day where there are so many memories of last year...but I have a tendency of planning something that no one really wants to do.

Hmm...maybe I can suggest going to Monmouth Park (the racetrack) for the afternoon, or some sort of event. Thanks for the good idea...

 

[piglet too]

Originally posted by Tink33
We have done barbeques in the past so that all the Dads, kids and grandkids could spend time together.

This year we are trying something new. The San Diego Padres have a new ballpark that none of the men have visited. I bought tickets and the whole group are going to spend the afternoon at the baseball game. There will be 3 generations - ages 8 to 64.

Could you get tickets for a local sporting event?

Can I go too? I really want to see the new stadium and I have always liked the Padres (except in 1984, see where I am from LOL)

Even though we are not going until the 23rd, DH gift this year is tickets to the White Sox. (even though he is a Cubbies fan, just no way we can afford to go see them!)

 

[piglet too]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
Well, last year we had dinner with my Dad, Mom, Husband and Son at my Parents special restaurant, but that was the last meal my mom ate as she was diagnosed with Cancer just a few days later and couldn't eat solid foods. We all had such a special day.

It'd be too weird to go back to that place, but I guess i'll just feel them both out as to what they want to do and try and plan something. I'd just hate to leave my dad to himself on this day where there are so many memories of last year...but I have a tendency of planning something that no one really wants to do.

Hmm...maybe I can suggest going to Monmouth Park (the racetrack) for the afternoon, or some sort of event. Thanks for the good idea...

I looked and here is what the racetrack has going for Father's Day
http://www.monmouthpark.com/events.asp?id=1375

 

[Hillbeans]

That sounds like fun! Thanks!

 

[believe]

A few years ago DH and I named the day before Father's Day and Mother's Day our day. So this year DH will celebrate his Father's Day on Saturday and on Sunday we will spend time with my Dad and his Dad. It works out great.

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

As someone who would give the world to be able to spend Father's Day with my Dad (we buried him the day before Father's Day in 1983) I would say, make your Dad the focus of your day. I would spend some one on one time with him and arrange for a special father/son activity for your DH and DS. Towards the end of the day, I would have everyone get together for dinner, with deference to your Father's preferences.

My thinking is that I bet for Mother's Day 2003 you had no reason to believe that you would not spend Mother's Day with your Mother again. Hopefully you will have many more Father's Days to spend with your Dad, and as your DS gets older you will likely find more activities that everyone would enjoy. I think for this year, you will be able to find to a way to honor your husband for being the wonderful father that he is without taking anything away from your Dad. I am sure your DH will understand.