A husband and wife were arrested this week for hosting a birthday party for their 18 year old son. Dozens of teens, as young as 15 were treated to a keg (or multiple kegs). Just so they could keep tabs on the cops, they monitored a police scanner to be sure that the cops weren't on the way. Many witnesses, including some parents of the underaged party goers came forward and testified. In addition, the police took the party pictures off of the internet as evidence. Just about a year ago, a teenage boy was killed in an automobile accident. Furthermore, this "mother" was involved in a DUI a few months ago as was the "father". Do people seriously think that it is okay to serve alcohol to anyone elses kids? It amazes me.
We had a similar situation here when some parents (who were not only out of town, but out of the COUNTRY!) gave their 17 yr old son permission to have a party. It was a drunken bash for about 60 kids and ended with the parents car being totalled...thankfully, the teen who took the car was uninjured, but he could have easily killed himself or someone else. What are parents thinking??? When we go out of town, if our teen stays with her mom, our house is on instant alarm and no one is allowed in for any reason. All the neighbors have our full permission to call the police if they see anyone at our house when we are gone--including our teen daughter. It might be harsh, but our house will not become the party place.
I have found it best to never let them know exactly when you could walk through the door. That policy did me well when I came home to a "house party" in my own home. I herded them all back in the house, but thats a very long thread. 