fantasies - am i wrong

[punkin]

Both of them need more help than a board of DISers and I hope they get it.

Isn't that true of almost anything that's posted here?

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Isn't that true of almost anything that's posted here?

HEY! You stop that.

I'm not a real psychologist/physician/gynecologist/crockpotchef/busdriver, but I play one on the dis.

 

[momx2]

Until they find out what it takes to STAY in the industry. Drugs. Lots of them. That is the only way they can do scenes. And also they have very poor union rights. Directors will pretty much take men off the street to do scenes when they need a "crowd" if you know what I mean.

What??? I know a person who stars in porn and this is not the case. While I think it is a horrible profession there are very rigid health standards that must be proven before being able to "star" in one. None of what you are saying is true any longer about the mainstream porn industry. I'm sure it happens, but not in the legal porn industry.

 

[momx2]

Hey listen, this is the DIS, the voice of reason is not allowed here!!!!!

ITA LMAO!!!

 

[ccgirl]

Me again. I didn't expect porn to become the main subject. I was just making the point that finding out he had looked online secretly when I was away made me ask if he was fantasizing still.

The comment about the maid of honour was in 2003 after finding out he fantasized about having sex with her. So I asked what he was thinking about the day he married me. His point was he loved me and wanted to marry me but he was attracted to her.

Maybe it is my aspergers, but I don't understand the whole concept of "attracted more to someone else but love you".

I get that everyone is attracted to other people. He liked Geena Davis and Cindy Crawford when we met. He knows I have always had a thing for Han Solo/ Indiana Jones. It is the whole thinking of having sex with my friends, his co-workers, etc.. that throws me.

Off to therapy!

Asking him what he was thinking on your wedding day after admitting he fantasized about having sex with her probably wasn't the best thing. I think you know that now.

Fair enough, now pretend she asks you if her MOH looked better than she did on your wedding day.

Obviously a confident woman isn't asking that. So if the woman you LOVED asked you that question, what would you say? Even if the MOH was completely out hotting the bride???

Again, a bride asking if the MOH (or anyone) looks better is not the best thing. I'm sure others looked better than me but I don't care. Look at Pipa Middleton....I think she looked so much better than her sister, Kate. Quite frankly, my DH tells me the truth even if it hurts. That is why I never ask a question I wouldn't be prepared to hear the answer to.

I understand the OP has Asperger's and perhaps that is part of it. In any case, it would be a great idea if she continues on with her individual therapy where her therapist can teach her coping mechanisms.