Family Photographs with an Ex “significant other”?

[HannaBelle]

My father loves to take pictures at family events. He has photographs from the 60’s to present of all of our extended family gatherings. A few of my cousins have objected to my mother having and displaying photographs that include their ex “significant other”…wives, husbands, girlfriends and/or boyfriends.

We have a very large family; my mother is the youngest of 9. Some of my cousins have literally confronted her and asked her to remove and or destroy the photograph. A new girlfriend of one of my male cousins just called my mother in a huff about some of the photographs I had posted on Facebook from 2004 that included a previous girlfriend. Seriously? He has had three wives and numerous girlfriends and I am NOT about to edit every single photograph with someone’s EX in it.

Am I way off base to tell her to go suck a lemon?

 

[EMAW_KSU]

Am I way off base to tell her to go suck a lemon?

No you are not.

 

[cabanafrau]

She's a girlfriend in a string of wives and girlfriends? Perhaps it's time for a photo montage stroll down memory lane.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

My father loves to take pictures at family events. He has photographs from the 60’s to present of all of our extended family gatherings. A few of my cousins have objected to my mother having and displaying photographs that include their ex “significant other”…wives, husbands, girlfriends and/or boyfriends.

We have a very large family; my mother is the youngest of 9. Some of my cousins have literally confronted her and asked her to remove and or destroy the photograph. A new girlfriend of one of my male cousins just called my mother in a huff about some of the photographs I had posted on Facebook from 2004 that included a previous girlfriend. Seriously? He has had three wives and numerous girlfriends and I am NOT about to edit every single photograph with someone’s EX in it.

Am I way off base to tell her to go suck a lemon?

Those ex's were part of their lives at the time the photo was taken. They're part of the family's history. You can't just be expected to erase them like they never existed. Sounds like the new girlfriend is a bit insecure and can't handle seeing your cousin with any other woman. That's her deal, not yours.

 

[HannaBelle]

Thank you!

I did not want to be insensitive, but I really think this is her problem, not mine... My poor mother was in tears on the telephone with me! I think the new GF is just being petty and insecure.

 

[Luvchefmic]

I am going to slightly disagree Your parents keep whatever photos they want in their home No one should have a problem with that Personally the only ones that would be on display would be current family members Anything else can go in a scrap book or whatever No one should ever ever confront your parents on things in their home

Facebook No I can't agree that the new girlfriend should go suck a lemon What is the purpose of all the ex's being on display there Makes no sense to me sorry

For the record I have many many pictures with my DDs father/ my first husband, the girls, my husband, and myself Major events weddings, graduations etc They are safely put away as family history BUT none framed & on display with the ex

 

[goofyintoronto]

Suck a lemon, Love it. Honestly, i'd go tell her to suck a few lemons! I dont understand why that would bother her? I guess she's just very insecure.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I am going to slightly disagree Your parents keep whatever photos they want in their home No one should have a problem with that Personally the only ones that would be on display would be current family members Anything else can go in a scrap book or whatever No one should ever ever confront your parents on things in their home

Facebook No I can't agree that the new girlfriend should go suck a lemon What is the purpose of all the ex's being on display there Makes no sense to me sorry

For the record I have many many pictures with my DDs father/ my first husband, the girls, my husband, and myself Major events weddings, graduations etc They are safely put away as family history BUT none framed & on display with the ex

Sorry but I have to ask. I noticed you havent used one period in your post. Not one. Is that button missing?

 

[goofyintoronto]

Thank you!

I did not want to be insensitive, but I really think this is her problem, not mine... My poor mother was in tears on the telephone with me! I think the new GF is just being petty and insecure.

You nailed it. This is HER problem. Not your moms problem. Sorry but she's just plain RUDE. If your cousin asked your mom to take it down, thats another issue. But for his GF to come forward and rudely ask? That wouldnt fly with me. i'd post even more pics.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Sorry but I have to ask. I noticed you havent used one period in your post. Not one. Is that button missing?

Seriously ? I am tired. I didn't think it was a big deal. Actually, I didn't even notice at the time I was writing. If it bothered you, I am sorry. If this is the only bad thing I do today, it is all good.

 

[cabanafrau]

I am going to slightly disagree Your parents keep whatever photos they want in their home No one should have a problem with that Personally the only ones that would be on display would be current family members Anything else can go in a scrap book or whatever No one should ever ever confront your parents on things in their home

Facebook No I can't agree that the new girlfriend should go suck a lemon What is the purpose of all the ex's being on display there Makes no sense to me sorry

For the record I have many many pictures with my DDs father/ my first husband, the girls, my husband, and myself Major events weddings, graduations etc They are safely put away as family history BUT none framed & on display with the ex

But in the large extended family situation OP described you may be talking about parents not being able to display wedding photos from their own children's weddings because their cousins were in the wedding photos w/ past spouses/significant others. I don't think we're talking about a family refusing to let go of his first wife Suzanne & pushing pics of Suzanne in every new potential partner's face, simply showing their family photos. I think the girlfriend has overstepped.

 

[goofyintoronto]

Seriously ? I am tired. I didn't think it was a big deal. Actually, I didn't even notice at the time I was writing. If it bothered you, I am sorry. If this is the only bad thing I do today, it is all good.

Whoa chill. It doesnt bother me at all! Did i give the impression that it did? I was just curious. Thats all.

 

[Luvchefmic]

But in the large extended family situation OP described you may be talking about parents not being able to display wedding photos from their own children's weddings because their cousins were in the wedding photos w/ past spouses/significant others. I don't think we're talking about a family refusing to let go of his first wife Suzanne & pushing pics of Suzanne in every new potential partner's face, simply showing their family photos. I think the girlfriend has overstepped.

No, actually I said the parents should do whatever they wanted in their home. I said "personally" meaning what I do.
Period.

 

[goofyintoronto]

But in the large extended family situation OP described you may be talking about parents not being able to display wedding photos from their own children's weddings because their cousins were in the wedding photos w/ past spouses/significant others. I don't think we're talking about a family refusing to let go of his first wife Suzanne & pushing pics of Suzanne in every new potential partner's face, simply showing their family photos. I think the girlfriend has overstepped.

Yes, totally agree with you on that.

 

[ashley0139]

Seriously ? I am tired. I didn't think it was a big deal. Actually, I didn't even notice at the time I was writing. If it bothered you, I am sorry. If this is the only bad thing I do today, it is all good.

I don't think it bothers anyone per se, but it makes it very difficult to read. I skipped over your post because there was no punctuation. Not bothered, but just so you know.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Whoa chill. It doesnt bother me at all! Did i give the impression that it did? I was just curious. Thats all.

I don't need to chill. It's all good. I met your with my own I was kidding too. Yes looking back, very difficult to read.

 

[shoney]

I agree with the suck a lemon!

I can understand teenagers acting this way, but adults...NO! You can't expect people to cut out the ex's face from every photo!!!

My in-laws received a very large picture collage as a gift 20+ years ago. It has probably 100 little pics cut in different ways. It has hung in their home since then.

Well, a week before Easter my SIL came over and taped pics of her new husband (well married 2 years so not that new) over pics of her EX.

It looks so stupid. All of the pics are 20 to 40 years old and then a few recent shots taped over. If I were my MIL, I wouldn't have let her do it. I would have told her to find pics of herself or of her children from that time period or before.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I don't need to chill. It's all good. I met your with my own I was kidding too. Yes looking back, very difficult to read.

Ah, that one flew over my head. My bad.

 

[PrincessJo]

Wow. If I wasn't allowed to post photos with exes in them, I'd never be able to post an old photo again. That would just be stupid.

Sorry... but that's just stupid. Everyone has a past. Grow up already.

 

[cabanafrau]

No, actually I said the parents should do whatever they wanted in their home. I said "personally" meaning what I do.
Period.

But if the mother posted a pic of her DD's wedding on facebook, maybe in a nod to an anniversary or something, and cousin Bobby is in the pic w/ his ex wife it's out of bounds because he's got a new GF? IMO it's not even about Bobby & sure as heck isn't about his new GF.