Family Loyalty . . .Small Vent

[The Mystery Machine]

I echo what DD says. Sucky to realize how little family can care about you.
Secret is to only do what you want, if you feel like driving somebody to the airport, realize you are just being used, and are OK with that. You are just a "warm body" to hire for free.
If not, say no.

The good in this (and there is good), is that you know who you are able to count on. You also can begin to put energies in friendships, rather than family. I have found that the friends we have picked are closer to us than my siblings.

 

[wdwmom2]

joshsmom

Do you want to be adopted into my family???? We help each other anytime that the others ask. It's just the way my family is. We stick together, to us, that is what family is all about. If I lived close to you, I would take you. And your not even my family!!!

Hugs to you!

 

[MinnyGranny62]

Joshsmom So sorry about your family not helping. I always depend on my DD to drive us to airport and know that she would anytime. Wish that you lived closer and I would take you, but I would also go with you.
Shirley

 

[KelNottAt]

I don't like to be beholden to or dependent on anyone for transportation. That way no one can say to me "Well, I am the first one to offer to take you to the airport".

Next time they ask for a ride, say no. If it's the one sibling who doesn't like airport traffic, I'd say "Well, I don't want to do it because I don't really like airport traffic, but here's the number of the car service I called last time when you did not want to take me. They were really good and very reliable."

If it's the other sister, I would say "Well, I just don't have time. But here's the number of the car service I used last time that you didn't have time to take me to the airport. They were really nice and very reliable."

If my dad asked, I'd say "No."

If no one asks, then don't offer. Look how much time you have saved yourself already, not schlepping back and forth to the airport!!! OTOH, if you continue to make ariport runs after this experience, then you have no one to blame but yourself for choosing to be taken advantage of.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[disykat]

I agree with DD's reply.

I don't really think it's their responsibility to take you. I'm curious if they've ASKED for rides before or if you've just OFFERED. To me, that makes a difference as to whether they "owe you one".

 

[zurgswife]

I like DD's answer also...sorry they wouldn't help you out.

 

[JVL1018]

It would bother me too, because you have done it for them in the past.

My FIL always takes us to the airport..even when we leave at 4:30 am. Lately my BIL has been picking us up...even at 10:00PM on a Sunday at JFK. They are good eggs.
My husband drives everyone to the airport. LOL Need, a ride, call Jimmy, he'll be happy to take you.

It costs $100 here one way for a town car to the airport(and we are only 1/2 an hour form Newark..maybe 45 from the NYC airports)..

..so what we did last time instead of bugging my FIL because he had been ill, is we rented a car here in NJ for like $25 the night before we left and scheduled the drop off at the onsite car rental at JFK for the next morning.
DH dropped me, the kids and the luggae at the terminal, dropped off the car and joined us 15 minutes later.

SO easy and what I will do in the future if I need to fly out of somewhere other than Newark.