Family bereavement just before we go :-(

[The Big H]

We are going to DLP on Monday, until Friday.
We've been waiting for this for ages, we love it. The boys are so excited.
Then I had some bad news this week.
My dad has passed away, quite suddenly.
My brother and aunt (dad's sister) say I should still go and enjoy it, dad wouldn't want us to miss it. But I feel so guilty.

I won't miss a funeral, because he died at home there will have to be a post mortem and this will mean it's delayed a few days. At least until we come back.

Am I wrong to still go? There's nothing I can do for my dad now. He's in a better place and free from pain. I can't get excited any more. I don't know what to do.

 

[DLPdaft]

Oh I'm so so sorry to hear your news , my Dad also died very suddenly.
In my opinion, you should still go on your trip - it won't be the same, of course it wont, but it might help keep your mind occupied, and you'll be back to say Goodbye at his funeral.

I'll be thinking of you, lots of hugs,

Elaine

 

[Cyrano]

I agree with Elaine. A trip with the boys will hopefully help you all through your grief.
Thinking of you all

 

[tinkertaylor05]

So sorry to hear your news, I agree, staying wont change anything and I'm sure it will do your boys if not yourself the world of good to get some time out

 

[wmoon]

Sorry to hear about your Dad.

You should still go and try to enjoy it, it will be good your boys to be away with you.

A number of years ago my Mum died suddenly the week before we were due to go on holiday, we had to postpone our holiday as there was only me to do all the arrangements but we went two days after the funeral and it was a well needed break. Also after a long illness and hospital stay, I found myself in the same position 2 years ago when my Dad died we were again due to go on holiday 10 days later, after the funeral and we went.

For me being on holiday so close to their deaths helped, bit of escapism I suppose but I found that it was also easier to talk to my DH about how I felt as you get much better quality time as a family when you are away from your normal routine.

Sorry for the waffle, hope you know what I mean.

Wendy

 

[mommy2ash]

i am so sorry for your loss. i agree with the others. staying wont change anything. if you are not going to miss the funeral i would go

 

[Mum to Belle]

Really sorry to hear your news I don't think it is wrong to go. As the others have said it won't be the trip you planned but at least you will be back for the funeral. I hope that you do go and are able to enjoy the time with your family.

 

[Ware Bears]

So sorry to read this.

I'm with everyone else in that you should go. You won't change anything by cancelling and I'm sure your Dad wouldn't have wanted you to do this.

 

[Disneyfanswicklow]

Oh you poor poor thing, so sorry to hear about your loss I hope you manage to get away and have some time to come to terms with your sad loss.

I can't imagine being in your position but I feel I would probably still go especially for your children and also like other posters have said to have some quality time for you and your family to deal with this sad sad situation.

Best of luck with what ever you decide to do

 

[RobynPrincess]

I am so so sorry for your loss

I really think you should go, if nothing else than for your boys, they have just lost their granddad, dont let them lose a very much looked forward to holiday as well.

I also agree that I think it will help you as well. Please also try not feel guilty for enjoying yourself as I'm 100% sure your dad wouldn't want you to feel like that, he will be looking down on you smiling, I'm sure he would love seeing you enjoying your time with your family as such a distressing time.

My thoughts are with you and all of your family.

xxxxxx

 

[zenith]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

As long as you wont miss your fathers funeral I think you should go - it'd be good for you and your children to go, you'll hopefully feel better about going when you see how (relatively) happy your children are there.

 

[markpsych]

Yes, whatever you decide to do, you shouldn't feel guilty either way.

Take care

 

[Mrs Stonfiesta]

so sorry for you loss my mum died new years eve 2009 and my bro was due to go away the following week, she told him she wanted him to go and enjoy himself and make lots more happy memories. i feel it was the right thing to do, life has to go on and i am sure seeing your childrens faces will remind you of all the happy times you spent with your own dad, go and make some memories that will last a lifetime and i am sure you dad will be watching over you all now that he is pain free and in a better place. take care x

 

[MickeysFavouriteGirl]

So sorry to hear your news. xxx

 

[J Marley]

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad.

I am in agreement with everyone on this thread.I bet your Dad would want you to go and show those grandkids of his a wonderful time.