Family adopts russian boy and then sends him back

[PaulaSB12]

http://susanduncan.newsvine.com/_ne...one-with-note-saying-i-dont-want-him-anymore-

I do hope karma gets this one in the rear.

 

[Minnie824]

since technically she's his mother now, isn't that illegal? That poor boy!

 

[java]

That story bothered me on so many levels. The fact that her actions are now causing the adoption door to close in Russia really bothers me.
It's such a strange strange story.

 

[cheermom1]

UMM I have no words sitting her with my jaw on the floor!

 

[Handbag Lady]

We'd gladly take him in.

 

[Ilivetogo]

Unbelievable

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[shortbun]

We'd gladly take him in.

I know several families here in our international adoption group who would have started the process had they known. This woman should be charged with child abuse at the very least.

 

[MnMomtoboys]

I know several families here in our international adoption group who would have started the process had they known. This woman should be charged with child abuse at the very least.

I can't think a bad enough punnishment for that so called familly. I can't imagine what that little must be thinking.

 

[mlynn]

OMG!!!!I'm in tears for this little boy. How could anybody do that? Send him on a plane to a place nobody waiting for him.He must have been so scared.I think the US needs to charge with endangerment and what ever else then can.

 

[PollyannaMom]

That is just so awful!! - Both for that little boy, and for all the good parents out there waiting to help other children. We have a neighbor who adopted from Russia several years ago, and I know how hard it was then. I can't imagine what it will be like now!

 

[Halloweenqueen]

We adopted our eldest daughter from Russia in 2000. My heart is breaking over this story.

First, to the poor boy. I can't imagine the level of stupidity, neglect, and ignorance that he was exposed to from his adoptive family. How did this mother pass a homestudy? Why didn't she seek out help...from the adoption agency, social workers, etc?

This mother MUST be criminally charged. Not only has she hurt this child, but future Russian adoptions. I don't blame the outrage that is taking place there.

There must be swift punishment for this woman and her family.

 

[pearlieq]

While this isn't the way I'd go about it, there's probably a lot more to this story than we all know.

I wouldn't be so quick to judge the mother. She may not have handled it the way many of us would, but we have no idea what she's been through. Until everyone here goes out and adopts a kid with severe mental health issues, I don't think they're qualified to cast stones.

International adoptions can be really, really rough. And she isn't the first person who has said that the overseas agencies/caregivers have been less than forthcoming about the extend of a child's issues.

 

[Aneille]

That is just awful. Did I read it correctly that she only had the child since September?

I don't know but I would expect behaviour issues in an older child being adopted even severe issues and would have had help in those areas set up for him and my family. I would have counselors and family therapy even if the orphanage said he was mentally stable. Who would be mentally stable after moving thousands of miles? Even babies being adopted can have trouble.

I am sure it could be scary for the Mom if the kid was extremely threatening but he's your kid now and you need to deal with it.

I just can't believe it...honestly I can't.

 

[Robinrs]

I couldn't do that to my CAT much less a child. That poor baby...

 

[eeyore65]

I'm adopted and this story is horrible but....it is reported by the Grandmother that the child was violent and abusive to his adoptive family. I watched some documentary on the Russian children put up for adoption and the children could be quite scary and manipulative because of what they had been exposed to in their early lives. She was wrong for what she did - but there has to be more to this story.

 

[Aneille]

While this isn't the way I'd go about it, there's probably a lot more to this story than we all know.

I wouldn't be so quick to judge the mother. She may not have handled it the way many of us would, but we have no idea what she's been through. Until everyone here goes out and adopts a kid with severe mental health issues, I don't think they're qualified to cast stones.

International adoptions can be really, really rough. And she isn't the first person who has said that the overseas agencies/caregivers have been less than forthcoming about the extend of a child's issues.

I understand your point that she probably has been through a lot but when she adopted that child it became hers. And I am sure the agency wasn't as forthcoming as they should have been. I am 100% sure of that.

If it was her own biological child and you just sent them off somewhere people would be just as outraged.

Obviously this child needed help and it was her responsibility and she failed miserably. Maybe she needed help too but there were 2 people involved in this. The Grandmother and the Mother. How they heck do 2 grown adults come to the conclusion that sending the kid back like they did is the answer.

 

[handinpocket]

At least she didn't kill the kid. I'm sure there is much more to this story.

 

[Briarmom]

This is an awful story on so many levels.

But...how in the world did she get a 7 year old on a plane by himself all the way to Siberia? Even if she'd purchased herself a ticket as well, and walked him through security, how would she have gotten him on the plane?? And certainly there would be layovers? He just sat on a flight with this note that said 'I no longer wish to parent this child' and he somehow miraculously found his way back? And found someone who knew who he was and what orphanage he came from and who adopted him? Not to mention he probably didn't speak English yet.

Hmm...

ETA: I see that it says she put him on the plane as an unaccompanied minor...still doesn't add up.

 

[Magic Mom]

She did a terrible thing(and should be punished), but I don't believe for a second that the only thing "wrong" with that child is being flat-footed. The story is probaby more complex than being reported.

 

[Aneille]

At least she didn't kill the kid. I'm sure there is much more to this story.

True!

I still think it was awful. And unless it comes out that the agency knew that child was comming back to them and it was set up with them ahead of time, nothing that child could do would deem this appropriate in my mind.

I'm sure the Mom was angry with the agency but this is a child. People get upset when pet owners surrender their pets.

For some reason this just really bothered me. I understand this child may have been more than she could have handled but this is just so wrong.