Fairy Godmailer vent...UPDATE 1st page

[mickeyfan2]

I am sending the postcards to bring a smile to the face of a child...but I really don't expect a thank you. I guess in some way I kinda thought it was the way everyone thought about it, that the thank you was to pay it fwd..and do the same for another child. When I saw the OP upset that no one thanked her, I realised my assumption was wrong, and hence my quick post that if it was me I was truly sorry and indeed thankful.
Please dont judge people as rude unless you know the whole story

I will reply to this. I did this on another site. One time I sent 10 cards. One person did send a thank you. I then got told off because only two of another ladie's three kids postcards arrived. She was mad that I hurt her third child's feeling. Well I did send all 3 on the same day and I cannot help it if the PO did not keep all three together (it did arrive two days later). She never thanked me for the two that did arrive. Talk about self-centered women!!! I like to "know" that they arrived, so I can try to get another one sent if they did not.

BTW many who send the cards have no kids, so the only thing that we get back is the story of how they made the kids day.

 

[kc10family]

I know I deleted the pm with the Fairy Godmailer who said they would send my girls some. I think I puit a generic thank you on the FGM sticky.

But what I did when I sent mine out was put my screen name on the bottom of the card in the event that they deleted the pm as I did. It is very easy to delete a pm after waiting a few months for your card.

I think of it this way.... I am sending out PD and not wanting a thank you because I know that the smile on the face of the child will come back to me someday, someway.

I for one do not need nor care for a thank you, I am just glad to send them out and make a child smile.

 

[Vickie46]

my pm's got deleted too last year... so I was one of the ones that didn't get to say thank you.. I think it would be nice to put your id name on the corner of the card so the parent can send a thank you message.. this what help this issue a lot... for the one that sent to my little Allison last year.. I am ever so thankful! Thanks!

 

[eeyorelori]

You think that is bad i emailed my addy to 2 people ..Not a one even sent my kids one...That really bummed me..I wanted it to be soooooooooooo special ...So i had to a fake a letter myself ..Thank god they were to little to read where the addy was from ...I thanked them a million times and then they didnt even send them ...I guess it goes both ways ...

 

[cuppycake]

Originally Posted by Feralpeg
While a thank you is always nice, I would never do something for someone expecting or wanting one. When I decide to do something nice for someone, I do it because the act makes me feel good. IMHO, that is enough, but that is just me.

Lame a$$ ditto.

 

[aubriee]

Is it worse to not say thank you, or to not send a postcard when you said you would. I had someone volunteer to send my kids a postcard, and it never happened!

Us too!

 

[Ariel8676]

Hey Everyone OP here.....i didn't start this post expecting WW3, there is no need to argue amongst ourselves. I didn't mail out the postcards just to get a Thank you, i just thought it would have been nice to recive one. I actually had fun with my girls picking them out and sending them, and when Feralpeg sent the postcard to us my girls were very happy, and i hoped someone else would be as happy as they were.
I guess i had just assumed that when you recieve something you Thank the person who sent it..but you know what they say about assuming...lol
Im not a crybaby and not someone who does something to get something in return..i just wanted to make another child happy.
I never would have started this post if i thought it would have led to arguments.

Anyway its over and done..no need to fight, we are all here for the same reason..the LOVE of Disney.

We can talk about something else...How about them Yankees...lol

 

[bnorm27]

I must take back my original post in this thread. I went to the mailbox on Monday, and lo and behold......A Fairy Godmailer post card! Now, they were supposed to send it to both my daughters, but I did get it, so I am not complaining.

P.S.....And I feel horrible, because I deleted the PM after I thought the postcard was never showing up. So I cannot send a Thank You!

 

[java]

I sent one out in July and actually never thought about a thank you- I would have liked to know if they got it- but to me it was pure fun. My oldest got into it with me in searching for the "perfect" postcard and writing the message. We had fun doing it and will do it again in the future-

 

[TinkNH]

Hey Everyone OP here.....i didn't start this post expecting WW3, there is no need to argue amongst ourselves. I didn't mail out the postcards just to get a Thank you, i just thought it would have been nice to recive one. I actually had fun with my girls picking them out and sending them, and when Feralpeg sent the postcard to us my girls were very happy, and i hoped someone else would be as happy as they were.
I guess i had just assumed that when you recieve something you Thank the person who sent it..but you know what they say about assuming...lol
Im not a crybaby and not someone who does something to get something in return..i just wanted to make another child happy.
I never would have started this post if i thought it would have led to arguments.

Anyway its over and done..no need to fight, we are all here for the same reason..the LOVE of Disney.

We can talk about something else...How about them Yankees...lol

Hey shannon...Now I need to say I am sorry cause I feel like I started the sort of argumentitive posts..since I couldnt keep my mouth..er fingers...shut. (I need to learn to sit on my hands when I read here!) Please dont think in anyway I was insinuating you were a crybaby or whatever..not at all...I think expecting a thank you when you do something nice is NORMAL! I just made an assumption myself...that thank yous were not needed...and well...you know the rest

However if ya wanna argue we can talk about the yankees...lol (Us up here in new england..not big fans of the evil empire ya know )

 

[Ariel8676]

LMAO Carolyn..see i knew that would change the subject...

 

[TinkNH]

LMAO Carolyn..see i knew that would change the subject...

I giggled extra hard at that one too..cause I know that is a common 'change the subject " phrase..but up here ..it is never said. Always how bout them red sox..or if sticking with NY..how bout them Mets LOL

 

[brandylouwho]

[/QUOTE]
I think of it this way.... I am sending out PD and not wanting a thank you because I know that the smile on the face of the child will come back to me someday, someway.

I for one do not need nor care for a thank you, I am just glad to send them out and make a child smile.[/QUOTE]

well said!

We should try to remember that while there are "rules of etiquette" out there, they are not the same for everyone everywhere.

The more I read this thread the more I think it is all crazy. I do things for others because I want to make someone else happy, not for recognition!!!
And while a thank you is always appreciated, it is not expected.

And in the Fairy Godmailer case, I can totally see how people may think that paying it forward is the thank you.




A little OT but, I also think it is a big waste of time and money for people to have to send thank you cards for gifts in cases of wedding showers and the like, because I was there when they opened the darn present and they already said thank you...but yet I sent them to those who gave me gifts, because it is expected. I am sure Hallmark and the other card companies are behind the whole Miss Manners/ Thank you note type columns because more reasons to send a card makes more money for them

Just a theory.

 

[Becky2005]

A little OT but, I also think it is a big waste of time and money for people to have to send thank you cards for gifts in cases of wedding showers and the like, because I was there when they opened the darn present and they already said thank you...but yet I sent them to those who gave me gifts, because it is expected. I am sure Hallmark and the other card companies are behind the whole Miss Manners/ Thank you note type columns because more reasons to send a card makes more money for them

Just a theory.

I actually agree with you. It's one thing to send a Thank You for something that you get and the giver isn't there when you receive it. I, however, have never figured out the sending a thank you card to someone who is *right there* when you open a gift and you tell them right to their face, thank you very much for this. Umm...wasn't that just your thank you to them?

I did do it for my showers though because it's expected even though you already told them thank you while in person. However, I don't do it for birthday/Christmas presents that I open right in front of the giver and tell them thank you on the spot.

My perplexing is always -- do you send a Thank you for a Thank you gift? On rare occassions I will get a little token gift as a thank you instead of just a card. I'm usually in a quandry on that one if I should send the person a thank for that or not. I usually don't because I figure that could be a never-ending cycle. Oh well...I'm probably wrong & should have sent a thank you but it confused me (doesn't happen that often).

 

[jessica52877]

While a thank you is always nice, I would never do something for someone expecting or wanting one. When I decide to do something nice for someone, I do it because the act makes me feel good. IMHO, that is enough, but that is just me.

I agree with the above and as someone else said, the thank you is in the paying it forward. Do I think a thank you would be a nice gesture, of course. Do I think that PM's could easily be erased and not even thought about until the card arrives, of course.

I am a big thank you person. I just don't get it when I give gifts to the kids in the family and no thank you. Now that is one that gets me. I feel obligated to give a gift since they are kids and family but a thank you is well warrented. My son has sent thank you's since he was one. Yes, the first years were white paper with a few scribbles and a note from me. Next year was coloring pages, then painted pages. But something to say thank you!

 

[Harmony]

I belong to a yahoo group with other parents whose children were born with the same condition that my son was born with. (CDH)

The 2nd time we visited WDW, I volunteered to send postcards to some of the kids. Wouldn't you know it, they were thrilled! (their parents told me so) I never expected a thank you, though it was definitely nice to get one and esp to hear what the reaction was! I was just glad that I was able to do something for some kiddos that have had alot to contend with....that's all the thanks I needed.

For those parents whose children received the cards, definitely pay it forward! I would love it if someone going soon would send my now-3 year old a card, as he asks *everyday* "can we go to dis-nee world today?" How long do you think a year is to a just-turned 3 year old? *sigh* Wow, it's going to be a looooong one! LOL

 

[Ariel8676]

The more I read this thread the more I think it is all crazy. I do things for others because I want to make someone else happy, not for recognition!!!
And while a thank you is always appreciated, it is not expected.

I have already explained in my 1st and 2nd post i was not doing it for the recognition, i WAS doing it to make someone happy...My girls were very happy when they recived theirs, and wanted to make another child as happy as they were...BUT i think that if you do something nice for someone a simple Thank You isn't to much to expect. I don't think the post or me feeling this way was Crazy(how you put it)..maybe we were raised differently..And i really do hope that the people i sent cards to do Pay It Forward..
Oh and BTW i also think sending Thank you cards out when you recieve a gift of some sort is a nice thing to do..maybe im just CRAZY...

 

[robinb]

The same thing happened to me. I sent post cards from Disneyland last year for someone. One for each kid. "I can't wait to see you at Christmas!" xxoo Minnie Mouse, etc. Not a peep from the recipient. It soured me on the whole thing.

And YES. I expected a "Thank You".

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I have already explained in my 1st and 2nd post i was not doing it for the recognition, i WAS doing it to make someone happy...My girls were very happy when they recived theirs, and wanted to make another child as happy as they were...BUT i think that if you do something nice for someone a simple Thank You isn't to much to expect. I don't think the post or me feeling this way was Crazy(how you put it)..maybe we were raised differently..And i really do hope that the people i sent cards to do Pay It Forward..
Oh and BTW i also think sending Thank you cards out when you recieve a gift of some sort is a nice thing to do..maybe im just CRAZY...

Agreed completely!

And as so many put it, I never said I needed a Thank you for recognition. PLEAAASE!!

But to receive a PM at least saying "MY kids got the postcard, they liked it". I don't even know if they got it. One of these posters on here can be talking about me that their kid never received it, even though I sent it.
But see I would never know that since I never heard another thing from any of the people I sent cards to again.

 

[drakethib]

Please remember that you are sending it to kids who will get a thrill. To me, that makes it worth while. I have had a few times where I have not got thank yous but email addresses and PM get lost and deleted so I tend not to worry about it.

I do think it is a little tacky when you offer to be a fairy godmother and people start requesting an exact post card that they want in lieu of a "Mickey" card or "Donald "card or "Disney" Princess card. This is in very poor taste IMHO.