Facebook meets real life

[padams]

I vote "no" to friending MIL on FB. I have an evil MIL. I just tell her I don't have a FB page. She tried to "friend" my teen DS. He ignored her.

I remember the cheesecake post. You have my sympathies.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Thanks for the posts but you guys are as undecided as me and repeating everything swirling around in my own head which is making me giggle a little bit.... glad to know it's not just me who thinks it's tricky.

I really don't post anything interesting on there, it's more for family updates about Lacrosse games, movies we've seen, sleepovers. The FB drama came from The Witches of East-wick getting bored on a slow "The View" morning and stirring up stuff with me which I would't really have cared about if it was for the fact I am friends with some of my kids friend's parents and THEY didn't need to see that our family is nuttier than squirrel poo (A JK Rowling quote from HP) THAT is what I am ticked about, I don't give a flying leap what these people think or say, as long as they "Keep it off my wave" I'm

What to do, what to do, what to do... I have no idea the best way to proceed and it doesn't help that DH is on a business trip in NYC so I can't ask what he thinks I should do. I think playing dead might work for the time being

 

[MushyMushy]

Personally, I'd accept her friend request and then immediately put her in a separate friends group and lock down the privacy settings so that all she can see is what you want her to see. I have a few different levels of privacy settings. Some friends can only see my info and a few photo albums. Some can see a bit more plus my wall. And some can see everything.

 

[Mrs. Sojourner]

I think there is a way to friend someone with limited access to things, maybe that is an option for that sake of peace?

 

[LuvOrlando]

I am going to have to look into this limited access stuff but I am such a techie spaz I will need help. Boy this woman couldn't be a bigger high maintenance PITA... sigh... I hope my DH appreciates how much I love him to put up with the shenanigans. I usually prefer a shenanigan free life.

I think I have a new word of the day!

 

[Robinrs]

Are these GROWN people????

Just don't go on the site.

 

[mtblujeans]

Regardless of trying to be "nice" for your hubby, if these people bother you it's only going to hurt him in the long run, so I would suggest not friending anyone you don't like. It's going to do is tick you off any time they post or reply to anything you post.

Why would he want you to friend someone you don't even like? If he has his own facebook page he can friend all the annoying relatives. If he doesn't have FB then it's high time he gets one and let's you off the hook.

FB really shouldn't be a place for people to get all worked up about issues so I'd only be friends with people you really want to know/care about.

What she said.

 

[LuvOrlando]

You guys are going to get a kick out of this, when I asked DH about it all serious and worried about the ramifications of my actions on him he was so . He told me she tried to friend him & he rejected it because he doesn't want their antics anywhere near his colleagues ect. and I just burst out laughing we both laughed over how different our responses are to things. I tell you, my DH is so much sharper and braver than me, here I was worried if it might upset the balance and with a click of a mouse he was done with it. Now I know he can do stuff I can't because #1, he's her son & #2, he's her son and I still need to be able to get along with the hornets nest attached to DH but still, his response was still really refreshing. I don't think I have the nerve to flat out reject it but I feel better about doing nothing and seeing what comes of it. I am going to explore the idea of setting up a different friends list.... or errrrr, I will ask DH to do that when he gets home although he doesn't have much patience for high maintenance people/ girl code & all that so it won't be easy to talk him into helping me set it up. At this point I am only interested in keeping things calm with/for my sister in law who is getting married, I don't want waves for her wedding and need to find a way to keep the hive smoked until then.

BTW, I know how ridiculous all this is... I really do. Someday this will make for some very funny stories, ok well even right now it's funny

 

[It'sWDW4me]

You guys are going to get a kick out of this, when I asked DH about it all serious and worried about the ramifications of my actions on him he was so . He told me she tried to friend him & he rejected it because he doesn't want their antics anywhere near his colleagues ect. and I just burst out laughing we both laughed over how different our responses are to things. I tell you, my DH is so much sharper and braver than me, here I was worried if it might upset the balance and with a click of a mouse he was done with it. Now I know he can do stuff I can't because #1, he's her son & #2, he's her son and I still need to be able to get along with the hornets nest attached to DH but still, his response was still really refreshing. I don't think I have the nerve to flat out reject it but I feel better about doing nothing and seeing what comes of it. I am going to explore the idea of setting up a different friends list.... or errrrr, I will ask DH to do that when he gets home although he doesn't have much patience for high maintenance people/ girl code & all that so it won't b easy to talk him into helping me set it up.

I'm so glad that you and Hubs are on the same page. It seems like he usually has your back (Cheescakegate - or was it Cheesecake Hill? - was a waffle on his part, if I remember correctly)

 

[LuvOrlando]

That would be The Battle of Cheesecake Hill, I forget which poster called it that but it will forever be called that when I retell the story

Soooo funny

DH does have my back, we really have been best friends for 20 years. My MIL has been nice to me lately, even got me tulips just because she thought I'd like them, fake nice of of course (I'm no amateur) but I think she knows she is on thin ice with my hubby and he is not the sort you want to be on thin ice with so she's working on her end. I'll enjoy it while it lasts