Extreme Homesickness

[valeriesunshine]

Well here is the problem:

Every two weeks I go to my Dads house which is three hours away. I stay for a weekend and on Sundays I go home. I have been going since I was like three so it never really bothered me. But lately it has, I tend to have a really really bad day on Fridays I leaveto go to his house. And most of the time I feel like I'm just going to burst into tears because I want to go home so bad. I don't know because I used to like going but now I really don't...I love my Dad but don't like going to his house. I just get extremely homesick even though its only two and a half days. Sometimes I even call my Mom 8 times a day because I'm so homesick. Sometimes I even skip some weekends. But I feel if I don't go every two weeks I will make my Dad unhappy. I'm at his house now and the only time I'm happy here is when I'm on the dis or playing VMK or Listening to Today in VMK. I thought the Dis could help give me some advice?

-sunshine

 

[rivas101202]

I went through the same thing when I was growing. It is great when you are young, but when you get older your life is more and more at your primary residence with your mom. I think you should talk to you dad. Explain to him how you feel and maybe instead of going there for the weekend he can come and you could spend the day together. Do lunch, go shopping, see a movie exc. That way he still gets to spend time with you, but you get to say home as well! Good luck I hope it all works out for you. Just be honest with him. He might be a bit upset at first, but in the end he will do whats best for you

Shelly

 

[big_ol_lineman]

i went through that when i was younger but he doesnt talk to me anymore

 

[mcco5543]

I'm not sure the above poster was entirely helpful since they don't talk anymore .

anyway, Do your parents speak to eachother? could you talk to your mom and dad and work something out in a family meeting? Or could you talk to your mom or another adult you trust and they could talk to your dad on your behalf if you feel like you can't talk to him yourself?

I bet your dad would want you to be really happy and if your current situation isnt' making you happy I think he'd want to help fix it. Parents can be more understanding then we think. As long as you approach it in a way that lets him know you love him and want to see him, you just want to find a way to do that and not be so homesick, then i'm sure something can be worked out! good luck! We're glad you felt you could talk to all of your Dis friends!

 

[Peri]

I agree that you should talk to your dad about this. I wonder if a big part of what you are missing is being closer to your school friends. Maybe your Dad would let you bring a friend home to his house when you visit for a "spa" weekend, or fun weekend that you could plan for your friend? Think of the things you like to do at your Mom's house and try to make it possible to do some of them at your Dad's, too.

I know this will work out for you, but the first step is communication - your Dad may have no idea what is wrong. He might be able to help you fix it!

 

[ShadowKittyKat]

I have a sense of what you're going through.

I'm going through something similar, but I'm usually home at my dad's house. Right now, I'm at my mom's house for the week. I skipped a visit there once, and I think my mom got really upset. I really dislike going to my mom's house now, because of my stepdad who thinks he is like the king of everything. I came for three weeks once and was begging my dad to pick me up early. I don't like coming here but I bet my mom would probably think it's because I'm addicted to the computer. I know I am, but I would rather be among friends, virtual or not, than be bossed around by my stepdad.

I know I should speak up, but most of the time I'm really shy (me? SHY?!), and most of the time I'm just plain confused. I feel I've got better friends on here than in real life. There are so many people to help, give advice, and just "be a good friend".

I agree with everyone else that you should talk to your dad. I know I need to try that, and I promise myself I will before I leave this house.

 

[punkskateboarder]

talk to your dad, tell him you only want to come once a month if u want too