Evil strikes again

[allisonswonderland]

My sis in law 2 B is now pretending that I did not send her invitations - there were 3 seperate invitations sent at least a week apart. She did receive my shower invitation that my MOH is throwing (I printed the address lables - the same ones that I used) and she has received my newsletters. Can you believe the nerve? They all had return addresses - the funny thing is that my fiance stamped them and two of them before he stamped I accidently put labels on upside down so we stamped upside down and we checked and one was his brother and the other was my mom's best friend - I sent them- but checked because I would not have had they not been close family b/c they would have thought I was insane, so they were in the pile-but acting like she did not get any of these... come on- his brother is away a lot for work and she is a stay at home mom and gets the mail- UGH... what do you do about someone like this- everyone else got them and nothing was returned to me. we live in the same town and out of state people got them.

 

[Skylarr29]

I would just apologise and personally hand deliver another invite. You know you sent one so if this person needs attention so bad then give it to her. Just be overly sweet and don't make a big deal of it, it seems to me that this is what she wants, to cause problems. Don't let her win and try not to let it upset you too much. At least this way the problem is fixed quickly and there is no chance of it being blown out of proportion.

 

[robinb]

{{shrug}} Maybe she didn't get the invitations. Can you prove that she did? Were they all sent in the same envelope? I know for a fact that the USPS is not perfect and they lose mail every once in a while.

I think it would be the mature thing to pretend that she's not pretending. Hand deliver a set of invitations with an apology and a minor vent about the post office. There is no use getting in a fight over this.

 

[allisonswonderland]

They lost 3 seperate invitations all to their family when everyone else got them? SOunds strange to me - everyone else received them.... they were mailed at 3 different times actually at 3 different locations.... it is really nice to give someone the benefi of the doubt but when it is someone who has tried to break you up and tells lies about you.... sorry I am wwwwaaayyy past benefit of the doubt.

 

[TinkBride]

I would personally with your DF go over there and say "We are so sorry that you did not receive the three invites we sent, so we decided to personally bring them to you to avoid any mix up!" Then you have the most important witness standing next to you and you dont give her the satisfaction of being able to whine and complain to people that she was "not invited".

 

[Chrissie-riel]

Well, Allison, are you at all surprised?? That "woman" has given you no end of trouble for quite a while now. I agree with the other poster that she just wants attention. She can't handle the fact that her wedding is over, her pregnancy is over and her babies are starting to grow out of the OOh and AAh baby stage. It is most definitely her way of diverting attention onto her poor, poor self. So just be the big girl like everyone suggests and hand deliver the invite with lots of gushes and apologies. That way maybe your SIL will be quiet for another month or so. Your sanity is worth it.

Then keep coming to us on the DIS to vent your frustrations. BTW, where are all of our invites? We're the ones who have been supporting you this past year? Is mine lost in the mail too? Just kidding!! We you!!

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Allison, you poor thing.. Sounds like this woman is a piece of work. I agree with the others...bite your lip, be extra syrupy nice and hand deliver her invitations. I also agree with TinkBride and bring your DF.

Girl if you need anyone's ear to bend you know we will be here for you.

and to get you through this trying time and this trying woman!

 

[BrideToBe82]

I would personally with your DF go over there and say "We are so sorry that you did not receive the three invites we sent, so we decided to personally bring them to you to avoid any mix up!" Then you have the most important witness standing next to you and you dont give her the satisfaction of being able to whine and complain to people that she was "not invited".

I agree with this post...your sil just needs attention. Be the bigger person and just hand deliver another invite so that you know for sure that she got it. This must be so frustrating but hang in there.

 

[Laurafoster]

Allison i agree, i would go round with your DFi and hand deliver the invites and say im so sorry the others must have got lost in the post so we decided to hand deliver these to avoid any more mishaps.

I bet she wont know what to say!

 

[allisonswonderland]

She is insane - everyone in the family knows what she has done and my fiance's mother went as far as going thru their kitchen drawers thinking that she stuck them in there - she is playing games and got caught in a lie BIG TIME. She does not want to come to the wedding and is making up every excuse to not have to come and I wish that she would not- I invited her to both showers because I felt like if I did not that would create an eruption that would rock the world and now she does not want to come to either...I know you guys are telling me to be the bigger person but what I have endured with her over the past 7 and half years...this is just a small glimpse of what my life has been. This was not suprising that she pulled this, in fact we should have expected it - she has been horribel to meand I can not even begin to tell you- I mentioned lying about me and talking about trying to set my now fiance up with other girls while he was dating me and talking about it in front of me. This was after we had been dating several years - there is no bigger person here. I was being the bigger person by inviting her to my shower because I thought it was the right thing to do and she does not want to come to that because she would have to get a present. She already bought our wedding present at the Mikasa outlet - she did not even buy from our registry, which I know you do not have to but you would think his brother would want to get him somthing nice and if she bought it I am sure that it will not be- I am finished with her - all she does is upset me and at this point I have to just pretend that she does not exist- everythign I do with this wedding she finds a problem with and I can not continue this way with all of the others things that have been happening I will be in an Insane Asylum!

 

[Cinderella_68]

Allison, I know that she does not deserve it, but if you want to come out smelling like the rose, just kill her with kindness. She will have nothing to complain about and she'll look stupid and foolish when she does, anyway.
And knowing that with every kind deed you do, you are just piling on the fuel to help her look more foolish, well, that should give you enough to smile!
Take it from been there, done that.

 

[robinb]

She does not want to come to the wedding and is making up every excuse to not have to come and I wish that she would not

So if you are both on the same page, then why is she coming? I must be missing something. Did you include her in your wedding party? Why not just let her off the hook? Let you BIL come without her ... if you don't I bet she comes down with the flu the day before your wedding.

 

[Chrissie-riel]

robinb - she is coming because she wouldn't miss any opportunity to mess up Allison's life. She is coming so that she can whine and complain and steer attention away from the bride. Just read Allison's posts for the last year and you will see how often the in laws have been hurtful and spiteful and downright nasty! I feel for you Allison!! Good pixie dust coming your way....

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks- Chrissiereiss! It is really hard to explain sometimes. That is actually what his (Dfi) aunt asked last night - is she going to FL just to ruin the wedding? I believe that is the case....ugh! Thanks for the advice, ladies and the pixie dust-

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Hang in there Hunnie! Sounds like you've had it rough through the years. It's hard to believe that there are people out there just that nasty. Believe me I KNOW they exist, I just don't like to have to deal with them. I feel for you. On the up side, it seems as though others see her behavior as it really is. There seems to be support from your BF on that matter. If ever you need an ear...I'm here.

 

[ItGirl753]

Allison,
My BF's cousin tries to set him up on dates too, and tried to break us up, always "discounting" our relationship. I can't wait to see what she has to say about me when she finds out about our Disney wedding!

I'm sorry you've had to put up with this horrible behavior. I had huge issues with an ex's sis-in-law who lied about me and was just plain horrible! I hate to think that she won in the end (notice the "ex"). Just hang in there a little longer. You don't want to be a Bridezilla! Have a gorgeous and happy wedding and then afterward say and do whatever you need to!!! My only advice is to wait until after the wedding. Does your DF intervene at all (and is it helpful)?

 

[allisonswonderland]

He does try to intervene and his mother told his brother that if games were being played here that she was going to be furious - the thing is that she never mentioned NOT getting the invitations. His mom just asked why they had not rsvp d and the bro said what was I supposed to rsvp to and she said well you should have gotten invitations to and listed the 3 events and he said that he had not seen them - she said well that they just had not been invited and then got really quiet. I am not sure if she meant to throw them away or did something in a fit - honestly she is not right- it is very odd. I think he let her have it after everyone left b/c she did not go to church the next day - she stayed in bed w/ a "migraine" that is what she fakes when she is mad or just does not want to do something - like take care of her kids take them to school or just wants to be plain lazy- it really stinks! The whole family including cousins now have her number---

 

[ItGirl753]

she did not go to church the next day - she stayed in bed w/ a "migraine" that is what she fakes when she is mad or just does not want to do something - like take care of her kids take them to school or just wants to be plain lazy- it really stinks!

That is so funny!

The whole family including cousins now have her number---

At least everyone knows what she is really like.

Maybe she needed extra invitations for scrapbooking or a gift she is making for you. Sorry, I know it's probably not true, but I had to try.

Try to hang in there. Come here anytime to vent! When is your big day? Not too much longer to wait.

 

[allisonswonderland]

No she does not scrapbook all she does is sleep most of the day - not kidding. The day is Nov 10