Errrrrr!!!!

[mondovimom]

Just have to vent. I have put hours and hours in to planning our first trip to disney, I really wanted it to be a special trip. We have 5 children DS10, DD9, DS3, DS2and DS2. We are leaveing the three little ones at home and just taking the older kids this time. It's kind of a "thank you" gift to them for all the help they've given us the last few years with having the DS3 and the DS2 twins so close together. Anyway, my DH is being a poop! He has not helped at all and I try to get him involved and have tried to get his input on what he would like to see and he just shows no interest. I will be so mad if we get to Disney and all he wants to do is sit in the hotel. He just isn't in to this at all. He thinks it's the dumbest thing to make plans. He rolled his eyes when he found out that we had ADR's. HE JUST DOESN'T GET IT!!!!
ERRRRR!!!!!

 

[mattsdragon]

I can understand that. He doesn't need to do everything, he wants to relax, can't say I blame him with 3 kids under 3.

Don't push him too much, he's approaching the vacation from a different angle then you are.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

My DH isn't interested in planning either. So, I took control and made all of our ADRs, chose our resort, made car rental reservations, etc. I know that when we get there everyone wll have a great time. I think some people are just not interested in all the planning that should be done. That doesn't mean your DH won't have a wonderful time though! I think that once you get there, he will appreciate everything and your family will have a wonderful time.

 

[Planogirl]

My DH never planned and most of the time he didn't even go! We still had a blast so back off and just enjoy yourself. It'll all work out.

 

[summerrluvv]

It could be worse...he could have said he didn't want to go at all!

 

[Stitchfans]

My DH never plans anything. I do all the planning. It is rare for DH is put his input into anything at all. If I didn't buy cards or gifts for all occasions no one would get anything. So same goes for our trips.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

My DH never cared to know the plans. And I had no problem with that.
I'm sure he'll be fine when you get there!

 

[MzDiz]

My husband didn't understand the point of all my planning until we got there. Then he saw the wisdom of my ways and has since converted over to my way of thinking.

 

[eclectics]

Hey, if he wants to sit at the hotel, give him a towel, point him in the general direction of the pool, tell him where to meet you for dinner, and then take the kids to the parks and have fun!

 

[Disney Ella]

My DH never wants to hear about planning either. His eyes glaze over if I start talking about it and I can almost hear him reciting baseball statistics or some other sports-related thing in his head. When we get there, he has a great time, he's just not into the planning. The kids and I decide everything. They're glad to help me which restaurant would be better in Epcot or where we want to stay.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

My DH isn't interested in planning either. So, I took control and made all of our ADRs, chose our resort, made car rental reservations, etc. I know that when we get there everyone wll have a great time. I think some people are just not interested in all the planning that should be done. That doesn't mean your DH won't have a wonderful time though! I think that once you get there, he will appreciate everything and your family will have a wonderful time.

Same here. My GS (Grumpy Spouse, as I sometimes refer to him in terms of Disney...with of course!) rolls his eyes at all the preparations I make for our WDW trips. We usually only go for 4-5 days, so I really need to plan-we don't do as much as others(sorta skip dining plans), but enough for us. The one compliment I will always remember from him was when we took a 5 day trip including MSSHP and The Pirate Cruise at GF, along with trips to the parks. He told me that I did a really good job getting it all together... It almost floored me!

 

[Keli]

Have you guys ever been to disney? If not, then I'm betting he doesn't even have a clue exactly how much is available, how many people will be there, and what all you need to plan in order to maximize your fun. Disney is so different from other vacations that the uneducated just don't get it.

Don't get down about it now, I'm sure you've got lots of wonderful things planned for your family and they will thoroughly enjoy them once they are there. Then there's a lot better chance he'll understand and appreciate all you did.

 

[koopa]

I'm sure the kids will tell you what they want to see. DH can just tag along or stay in the hotel.

 

[sha_lyn]

LOL Keli. The first trip (2000)DH though we could just drive to Orlando, find a motel off site and wing the whole thing. He did not realize how crowded it would be at spring break, how big WDW is etc. I hadn't even beend since there was only MK in 75 but I knew how many parks there were and that WDW would be packed. I knew I wanted to stay onsite and eat in the castle. that was about it. Then I found the DIS and realized what all there was at WDW. I scheduled around EE, make PS's for everyday etc. The first day we were riding a bus (to MGM for EE I believe) and passed all the cars coming onto WDW property. DH looked and me and said "you did good. I'm glad we are staying onsite."
Same thing happened with my sister in 02. She told people that she couldn't believe I had planned out which parks on which days, where/what time to eat etc. She joked that she hoped i scheduled potty breaks. When we returned she told everyone that if she had been winging it she would have missed 1/2 the things we did.

 

[hentob]

First of all--Take a DEEP BREATH! I can understand that your DH is frustrating you.

I promise you, your DH will appreciate you once this trip is over. I am sure he is thinking "Why all the fuss--It's just an amusement park!" Although the rolling of the eyes is quite disrespectful towards a wife Tell him that it is hurtful and uncalled for--Afterall--You are EXCITED for your vacation! That is what it is all about

I know what it is like to have 3 children under 3. BTDT!~ It is rough. This is a very nice gift you are giving to the older children. Don't waste precious memories being PO'd at your DH. I know that is easier said than done--So here is a

 

[mondovimom]

Thanks everyone. Maybe I'm just getting nervous about the whole thing too. It's our VERY FIRST vacation ever. We never even did a honeymoon. Therefore it's the first time I've left the three little ones. I'm a wreck!!!

 

[Antonia]

If I expected my DH to plan, we wouldn't even have supper at night, much less a trip to WDW!! He leaves ALL the planning to me, but once there he enjoys it!! Take heart and have a good time!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

First of all, try not to have this vacation be an end all to all vacations. There will be things that won't be perfect about it. It could rain, someone could get sick, etc. If you have all your hopes on it you are going to be so disappointed if there is even a minor glitch.

Having said that, the good news about having him not be too involved in the planning is that you can do what you think is best. Of course the bad news is that it's all resting on your shoulders if everyone doesn't have a good time.

Try to be flexible in your plans. If you all don't feel like another table serve meal, change your plans. If you want an afternoon swim, go back to your resort and go for a swim. Get your kids involved in the planning if you haven't already. Try to plan some things that you think that your husband will enjoy, but don't forget to plan some things that you will enjoy! Just plan a mix of things and be flexible.

When do you leave and how long will you be gone? Don't feel guilty about leaving your younger kids. Think of this as a planning trip. You'll return in the future and you will have scoped out things that they will enjoy and can do some younger kid things that trip.

BTW, my DH is not a Disney nut and he usually stays home. When he does go he's not involved much in the planning. I pretty much tell him what he's doing and when. I plan things that he'll enjoy and he'd better not complain if he's not speaking up before the trip.

 

[flortlebap]

Annoying isn't it? My DH isn't aplanner, he is excited about going, but just won't talk about it

 

[FayeW]

I think most of us are in the same boat. Sometimes, when I am talking about our plans his eyes glaze over & roll in his head like he's having some sort of seizure. We are planning our 3rd trip, and it is a little more complicated for us because we also spend 2 or 3 days at Universal parks. I have arranged some pretty cool things for the first 2 trips, so I know that he "gets" the planning...he just doesn't want to be a part of it.

Occasionally I have overheard him talking to others about our trips, so I know that he enjoys the results of the planning, but we ALL have to admit, that planning which park to visit and what restaurants we'll eat at 6 months out IS over the top!