9/18
B - airport
L - snack credits while checking in as i'm sure dd will be hungry + split 2 qs at MK ?
D - ohana (5:15pm)
Are you really attached to the idea of Ohana? I know it is a DIS favorite but in our experience it is loud to the point of overwhelming and a 2yo is a little on the young side for the antics, and on a travel day a very loud crazy meal isn't likely to be what you're in the mood for. I'd recommend California Grill or Kona for this evening instead.
9/19
B - Akershus (8:00am)
L - counter service (probably tangierine café)
D - Chefs de France (5:00pm)
On this day, I'd plan on snacks for lunch. There are plenty of good choices around the World Showcase (check out jjohnson's sticky at the top of the board for a list), and you aren't likely to want a full meal. If you do want to try Tangerine Cafe, the portions are large enough for one credit to be a light meal for 2 adults and a young child.
9/20
B - Animal Kingdom rope drop 9am ... Grab and go day (snack credits)
L - Yak and Yeti... Not sure if I should do ts or cs for this meal
D - boma (5:00pm)
We liked Yak & Yeti table service, the lettuce cups appetizer and wonton dessert are excellent. Haven't tried the counter service yet. For breakfast, there is a cart on the right side of the path as you come into the park that has muffins, danishes, and coffee. It is a good place to use snack credits for a light breakfast without losing much early morning touring time.
9/21
B - chef mickey's (7:30am)
L - Coral Reef (11:30am)
D - Garden Grill (5:00pm)
This is a lot of food, pretty closely spaced. You're really only going to have about 3hrs between breakfast and lunch, and 4 between lunch and dinner. Could you move this dinner to a little later in the evening, around 6-6:30?
9/22 (flight is at 9:00pm and our magical express says pick up at 6:00pm)
B - MK rope drop 9am ... Grab and go day (snack credits)
L - counter service (split 2?), play it by ear
D - crystal palace(3:30pm)
For snacks/grab and go the Main Street Bakery is nice and right on your way in, but it gets very busy very quickly. I'd definitely plan on splitting something for lunch since you have an early dinner planned, and your time for Crystal Palace looks perfect for allowing plenty of time to get back for your ME pick up.