Duggars Expecting

[Tiffany_PartyOf7]

Josh & Anna met at a homeschooling conference. Their parents did not arrange their marriage. Its sad that you assume things about this family. And yes, one of the 10 Commandments is to obey your mother and father. So yes, complete compliance is required. The Bible doesn't say to "Obey your mother and father unless you want to do _____ or _____." I don't know your religious beliefs so that may very well be something you don't follow but for some families it is our everything. Everything the Bible says MUST be obeyed in our household and many others. To say that it's wrong is like a slap in the face for some people.

 

[MaumeeMom]

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I would not presume to assume they are happily married. I don't think they really even knew each other when they got married.

That is how I also feel. I didn't follow their story very closely but from what I did see, they did not seem to have much time (if any) alone to get to know each other. I saw that they had not even kissed before they were wed. To me, and this is only my opinion, that is goofy! You need to test drive the car before you buy it, you know?

They may be nice people and a great family, we can't know for sure, but they are definitely not people to whom I could relate.

 

[Stacerita]

That is how I also feel. I didn't follow their story very closely but from what I did see, they did not seem to have much time (if any) alone to get to know each other. I saw that they had not even kissed before they were wed. To me, and this is only my opinion, that is goofy! You need to test drive the car before you buy it, you know?

They may be nice people and a great family, we can't know for sure, but they are definitely not people to whom I could relate.

When someone finds the perfect car, they don't need to test drive it. They just know. And I wouldn't call someone else's beliefs "goofy".

 

[anewmac]

I love the Duggars, and think Anna and Josh are too cute. But speaking from experience who did get married and had children young. Know what its like, they havent had time to really get to know eachother and do couple things before having to GROW UP ALL TO FAST!

 

[enchantingodin]

Like anyone is shocked here? Of course their pregnant. Poor brainwashed children...

 

[EmilyJ]

Congratulations to them. How exciting for the baby to have so many Aunts and Uncles to love him/her/them.

 

[disney_family_1247]

it's obvious they have happy, smart, well balanced kids. Bunches of 'em!

Not to be controversial, but how is this obvious?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I have long thought this family sick and twisted but the info on the blanket training is just too much for me. I can't see how anyone would think these people are good parents even without that little bit of info.

It's sad isn't it? I knew about their discipline methods a long tome ago. It makes me sick to my stomach. I know there are some who refuse to believe that they do that stuff because the kids "always look happy" but does anyone really think that 18 people can always be in a good mood? 18 kids and none of them ever have a fotch face on? None ever have a tantrum? None every whine? None ever roll their eyes even? Sorry but that is not even logistically possible. Ask Jon and Kate!

I hope this young couple has a good life with healthy happy children. I personally think they should have known more about each other before getting married but that is all they have ever known. It would definetly not be what I would want for my own children. So, let's all hope they are happy.

 

[nyyankeegirl]

Back to the subject at hand..those are children having children to me..they havent even experienced real life so they to me are like children still..I imagine they will have just as many babies as his mom..very sad

I agree! How old are they anyway? They just seem so young to me.

 

[princessmom29]

I've watched the Duggar's show since it's been on TLC and while I might have missed one or two episodes I don't recall seeing the marriage between Josh and Anna being arranged. Josh was the one who pursued Anna. He did ask for both heads of houses for their blessing; his father's and Anna's but arranged is a bit of a stretch.

T.

In the very first episode Anna appears in they are roller skating and Michelle talks about arranging for her children to meet "like minded people" who would be suitable for them to marry. They are only allowed to socialize with those people who are hand picked by their parents. I would call that arranged.

Josh & Anna met at a homeschooling conference. Their parents did not arrange their marriage. Its sad that you assume things about this family. And yes, one of the 10 Commandments is to obey your mother and father. So yes, complete compliance is required. The Bible doesn't say to "Obey your mother and father unless you want to do _____ or _____." I don't know your religious beliefs so that may very well be something you don't follow but for some families it is our everything. Everything the Bible says MUST be obeyed in our household and many others. To say that it's wrong is like a slap in the face for some people.

See the above post. Yes, they arranged tha marriage in the sense that they are given vary limited choices of acceptable candidtes for marriage. He reall had little choice but to persue her or someone just like her, and his parents had to approve the match. Michelle said it. I fully believe in the ten commandments, but I also believe that God gave every individual free will and the ability to question. I my opinion it means nothing for a child to obey mom and dad out of fear, which is what absolute obidence without question teaches them to do. They should obey b/c they know it is the right thing to do otherwise it is meaningless and does nothing to enhance their relationship with God. A child that NEVER questions obeying Mom and Dad is achild that has never been allowed to think it out for themselves. I am absolutely not saying that asking children to obey their parents is wrong, but it has to come from a tre disire to do so not out of fear to mean anything at all.They bible also addresses a parent's responsibilty to their kids. Ephesains says parents do not exaperated you children. We are obligatred to treat our kids with love and understanding, not an iron hand. I assume what I do about the Duggars discipline methods because the ATI program requires that familys discipline in this manner in order to be a part of the organization, and there is no ythe Duggars could be such a vocal part of this movement and not practice what it preaches. The dicipline within the organization is just like that within the family. Absolute adherance to our rules or you are out. On a side not do you really obey everything in the bible? Do you keep Kosher and follow the ritiual sacrifice requirements of the Old Testament? Do you believe in stoning women adulterers? What about pologamy? Also suggested in the old testament. It really bothers me that you would call into question MY religious beliefs b/c i have a problem with 18 cases of child abuse which is really what this is about. Those kids ARE being abused qwether you want to admit it or not.

 

[katyjeka]

What is amazing to me is so many people feel they have the right to judge a family by just watching an hour show on(of all places)tv!!! Please, what we see on television is entertainment, not reality. As parents of 3, my dh and I very seldom get tv time and when we do shows about parenting and kids are the last on our list to see. Exposing your family for profit is something we'd never do and I'm shocked that there are so many that do. Parents of 1 child, versus 8, 12, 18, and now we have "octo" mom reality show in the works, when will it stop???

 

[nyyankeegirl]

What is amazing to me is so many people feel they have the right to judge a family by just watching an hour show on(of all places)tv!!! Please, what we see on television is entertainment, not reality. As parents of 3, my dh and I very seldom get tv time and when we do shows about parenting and kids are the last on our list to see. Exposing your family for profit is something we'd never do and I'm shocked that there are so many that do. Parents of 1 child, versus 8, 12, 18, and now we have "octo" mom reality show in the works, when will it stop???

It won't stop until people STOP WATCHING IT!!!

 

[saremca]

I'm happy for them. I wonder if they'll end up with 18 kids too.

 

[Steph9072]

Gee, I thought this was going to be a thread about a happily married couple expecting a baby!!! Instead it has turned into a thread with alot of negativity regarding a family we don't even know. Josh and Anna are happily married, financialy secure, in their early 20's and ready for a family. I don't know see the problem.
As far as "taking a switch" to their kids, I don't believe it. Their kids are not fearful of them in anyway and if you watch the show you can certainly see the boys running crazy through the house at times.

I agree this is a young happy couple who God has blessed with a child. Dh and I dated for about year when we got married. We began trying to have kids the day that we were married. Dd was born 4 months after our 1st anniversary. This is a decision I will never regret.

As far as the switching I too don't believe it. I believe there is a big difference in spanking and child abuse. I have no doubt they spank their childern but I don't believe they use a switch on their kids. If they did and it was so widely known I would think CPS would have stepped in by now.

They seem like loving parents. Their children are well behaved and have the deepest respect for their parents. I have heard more than one of the kids say so. I won't begin to judge a family that we get glimps of for an hour a week. Do I have the same beliefs they do on birth control no but am I the one who is suppose to judge theim no.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

When someone finds the perfect car, they don't need to test drive it. They just know. And I wouldn't call someone else's beliefs "goofy".

I don't know about that. I LOVED the Eclipse and swore that was the car for me, but when I got in for the test drive there were just so many blind spots in that car!

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

I was just wondering where does the new couple live and what does Josh do for a living? I have never seen him work.

 

[tinkermom23]

I was just wondering where does the new couple live and what does Josh do for a living? I have never seen him work.

They live in Springdale Arkansas, they run a car dealership.

They are 21 & 20 years old. They will have been married more than a year when their first child arrives, which is certianly not unheard of. This would not even be an issue worth discussing if it weren't that he is a Dugger!

I wish them lots of luck... They will need it, The world can be a harsh, judgemental place!

 

[jamie&Greg]

enchantingodin - We live in Jupiter too!

 

[mom2prettyprincess]

I think it is great they are going to have a baby! Although to me 20 & 21 is still a little young, you still have so much to do and explore about life and eachother, but then again I was 27 when my daughter was born (unplanned) and I am 31 and think I still have so much I want to do explore and see. That of course is just my opinion but I do wish them many years of happiness, and maybe a few less babies than their parents.

On the brightside...they will never have a problem trying to get a brother or sister to babysit with so many options!!!

 

[Kit'smommy]

I feel sorry for these children overall after everything I have seen of them on the show and read from reputable sources online. In this day and age, I think these children have been too sheltered and too poorly educated -especially the girls. I also do not agree with the older children rearing their younger siblings. Chores are one thing, but having to prepare all of the food for a large family or doing all of the laundry is just no way to spend all of your teenage years.