Marseeya
<font color=blue>Drama Magnet<br><font color=deepp
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Today is DS's 15th birthday and he woke up being an absolute jerk to me. I tried to tell him happy birthday and he walked away from me and refused to listen. When DD tried telling him happy birthday, he just made a nasty face at her and told her to get out of his way. On the way to school, he just kept getting meaner and meaner and told me it was because he didn't want to go out to dinner with me tonight, so I told him fine, to just stay home. He just kept going off on me. I'm at the point where I don't want to even do anything nice for him at all. How wrong would it be for me to just give him a card with maybe five bucks in it (instead of the MP3 player he asked for)?
I honestly don't know how much more I can handle with this kid. He's making our lives a living hell. He has an appointment with a new psychiatrist, but they can't fit him in until March. I don't hold out much hope there anyway, because nobody has ever done him any good over the years.
I just want to add that he did this on our birthdays last year (mine is the day after his). He absolutely refused to go anywhere with us and refused to buy me a gift or acknowledge me in any way. This year I was trying to make things different for him and just take him out alone, which he seemed to be interested in, but just flipped out about it this morning.
I feel like my heart is breaking in a million pieces. I'm sorry for pouring out my problems with him on here, but there's nobody in my real life who understands. My friends don't see this side of him -- all they see is a quiet, polite kid, so they can't fully believe the hell he puts us through.
I honestly don't know how much more I can handle with this kid. He's making our lives a living hell. He has an appointment with a new psychiatrist, but they can't fit him in until March. I don't hold out much hope there anyway, because nobody has ever done him any good over the years.
I just want to add that he did this on our birthdays last year (mine is the day after his). He absolutely refused to go anywhere with us and refused to buy me a gift or acknowledge me in any way. This year I was trying to make things different for him and just take him out alone, which he seemed to be interested in, but just flipped out about it this morning.
I feel like my heart is breaking in a million pieces. I'm sorry for pouring out my problems with him on here, but there's nobody in my real life who understands. My friends don't see this side of him -- all they see is a quiet, polite kid, so they can't fully believe the hell he puts us through.
If his mood has not improved and he just grouches at you then make something easy for dinner and leave it at that.
What a way to start the day. Hopefully it will be better when he gets home. Hang in there!
) and we were doing well with making him understand that, even if he couldn't help having an outburst, there would be consequences for them. Where she was helping was giving us ideas on how to handle the outbursts while they were happening in order to minimize them. He really respected her opinion and would listen to her ideas. But now when I try to implement them, he just won't comply. (just as an example, if he starts to go into a rage, she said to have him go into his room to cool off and calm down -- not as a punishment, but just to separate ourselves... he did that when we talked to her about it, but he refuses to now, so when he has an outburst, he won't allow us to try to defuse the situation)
