Dressing room melt down! (rant I guess)

[luna99]

Have you guys seen that episode of sex and the city where Carrie tries on a dress and has a panic attack and they have to rip the dress off her?? yeah, I was pretty much this close to re-creating that scene.

I don't know what happened.. I was driving to the shop and in a good mood.. I told myself to look at dress shopping as a fun experience.. the shop was great and the women were nice... they didn't even come in the room with me which I was happy about...

but I dunno... first of all I wasn't happy with the dress sizes I picked out and they didn't even fit me.....(and I thought they would - I know they run small) and I guess mostly I just paniced because they are *so* heavy and *so* poufy and I was getting so hot in the dressing room then I started thinking man, If I'm this hot in here, how will I survive my wedding day in september in the florida heat and I dunno... I miss my mom and sister and they can't come with me because they live in texas and I"m in New York and it just took everything I had in me not to start bawling in the store!

I called my mom and cried to her when I left. I got so emotional I was even considering cancelling my disney wedding and telling my DF that we should just elope or something.

Maybe I"m just not meant to wear a big poofy wedding GOWN and should go with something more simple.... but then I feel like I shouldn't spend the extra money to have randy chapman take our photos if I'm just in a simple everyday dress instead of a gown...

and I think "won't people be expecting some huge gown .. I mean, this is a DISNEY WEDDING after all?"....

I know logically that's not true and I know you guys are probably tired of my gown trama on this board.... *sigh*... I just want to marry my DF and be his wife and have a fun time at disney with our closest friends is all.

why do I feel like I need to buy into all these "traditional" wedding things??

sorry... I guess this is really just a rant.. i'm just all sorts of emotional right now.

 

[TinkBride]

Honestly I think that by having the wedding a disney it will be easier to pull of a simple dress.

People expect simplicity and fun during a destination wedding. If you watch destination weddings on wedding shows, most of them are simple and fun. I saw one where at the reception the bride was in a bikini and sarong....

you can do whatever you want, because it is your wedding. There is no rule book. You should have the experience that suits you and your DF as a couple. Not what others think suits you.

If you will feel more comfortable in a simple dress, than by all means do it! And dont worry about randy he will make those pictures beautiful even if you are in biker pants and badannas! Go for it!

When you look bak you want to see the love and happy faces in the pictures....not the clothes you are wearing.

 

[luna99]

awww, thank you emily. I never watch those wedding destination shows.

I think part of it too was that my sister was wanting to get a fancier bridesmaid dress and if she did that I'd look silly next to her in something simple...

but I think I'm just going to tell her she has to do something simple too. It's my wedding she needs to dress according to me! haha.

ugh, I feel a bit better now I guess.

in the end, I honestly don't care about the dress or what flavor cake we have or if there are enough flowers ....

I just want to marry my honey and be his wife.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Aw dont' stress. If you just want a simple dress and not all the other stuff do that. It's your wedding! All the wedding planning can be so stressful you do not need that. Find the dress you love and go from there. Hugs.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

wedding anxiety..........its a real bummer


Dress shopping is not as easy as they make it seem.
Your right those dresses weigh a ton & its brutally hot in those tiny rooms & its a time you want your mom/sis there.
so I can see why you got upset...i would have to.....but chin up !!!

I agree that you can wear whatever you want on your wedding day....Its YOUR wedding.
Thats the good thing about weddings nowadays...anything goes!!
Ive seen incredible weddings that were so simple & elegant...you can do it

The goal: find a dress/attire YOU love & marry DF & have a great wedding

dont be sad

Take your time & have some fun...it will all work out

 

[TinkBride]

in the end, I honestly don't care about the dress or what flavor cake we have or if there are enough flowers ....

I just want to marry my honey and be his wife.

As long as you keep that attitude, you will have the most amazing wedding and it will make even that more special.....hang in there, it will be beautiful

 

[Funniebunny]

Aww honey, this is your day and you are entitled to wear exactly what you want and what makes you fee comfortable. There is no point in wearing something that is going to stress you out so much. I'm sure you Fiance would still marry you if you were wearing a bin bag.
Every bride has their own take on a gown and you'll know when you find it. It may be from a normal store but it should make you feel special.
Have a good cry and then take a deep breath and think what would make you feel happy and comfortable, then have a go at shopping again.
I know you will find something that will make your Fiance's heart skip a beat

 

[lurkyloo]

Yes! I agree with everyone else - wear the dress *you* want to wear. There are even girls on here stressing that their dresses are too formal for a Disney wedding, and the answer is always the same: wear what you want to wear and it will be perfect because you will be happy.

And it isn't the dress that justifies having a photographer - it's the occasion! You want to capture how you and your groom look at each other, your family's smiling faces, your sister in an 80lb sequined bridesmaid's dress with cathedral-length train...

 

[RangerPooh]

I know that dres shoping can be stressful but cheer up it's not all bad. I was firtunate that my SIL warned me ahaea dof time that the dres sizes run small, if she hadn't done that I would have freaked outmore than I did. Look on the brightside, the ladies at the shop were friendly and treated you the way that you wanted to be treated.

You can wear anything that you want to wear. There are a ton of really nice bridesmaids dresses out there that are not too formal, heavy, or poofy that you might consider for your own dress. As for your sisters dress you could select a few different dresses for her to consider that are not fancier than your dress, but are still fancy. Or if you want to go casual you could consider wearing a pretty sundress. This would help to keep your wedding relaxed and informal. As it's a destination wedding you are not required to wear a formal poofy dress with all the trimmings.

What's important is that you wear what are are happy in. Remember your DF will love you just the way you are, even if it's in sweatpants lol.

 

[JandJ]

If you really want a traditional wedding gown, maybe you should try a different bridal boutique. And take a friend or even a co-worker. Sometimes you just need someone there to "ground" you and tell you how something really looks. I dreaded shopping for my gown. I really did not want strapless and it seemed like that's all I saw in the magazines. I also thought the gowns were unbelievably heavy but after the 4th or 5th one I was used to it. The boutique I went to had HUGE dressing rooms and that really helped. I liked having the conusltant in there with me. I figure she's seen it all, and there was no way I could get those gowns over my head and buttoned and zipped and all that by myself. My consultant was great and she pulled 20 gowns for me based on what I said I wanted. She was so patient with me. Maybe you just need a fresh perspective.

BUT, if you really want a simple dress that's cool too It is YOUR day and you should wear exactly what you want! Don't let the fact that you hired a photographer determine your wedding ensemble. Of course you'll want goregous pictures of your wedding day - no matter what beautiful dress you are wearing! You obviously see what's really important here - marrying the man of your dreams!

Good Luck!!

 

[marywdw]

I had somewhat of a similar experience - lesson learned was this: it's not a good idea to go shopping for your bridal gown by yourself - generally speaking. (I live in FL and my family is in NJ). You sort of need people who know you there to tell you all of the things we're telling you now! Besides, it just gets emotional b/c you're alone and that's one of those things in life you always expect to do with your mom, sisters, friends...whoever.
You don't have to do what anyone expects - it's a Disney wedding, first of all, so most people have never been to one and don't know what to expect! You might want to try a tea-length bridal gown....not so heavy or poofy. And there are MANY styles without a poofy skirt. You'll find what's best for you, I know!
No matter what you will look beautiful and you will be getting married to the man you love.....
BTW, that's one of my favorite Sex & the City episodes

 

[Tiggerific04]

I know how you feel... I'm stressing about my dress right now as well.

I got myself so worked up about having to try on dresses that I had to take anti-anxiety meds before I went to the store!! It really isn't as easy or as fun as everyone makes it out to be.

Do you have a friend or someone that could go with you?

Don't worry about a dress being too "simple" for the pictures. You want to be comfortable and feel confident in your dress so that that shows in the pictures.

Good luck!

 

[jmmastra]

I hated dress shopping!!! You wear what you are most comfortable with, it is YOUR day!!! Do you have a friend that can go shopping with you? Where in central NY are you?

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I am so sorry that you had to go through that.. I remember that scene and I have to admit I laughed hysterically ...... Just try to breathe and relax... I was going through some stressful moments with my wedding that I wanted to call it off and elope, but some disgirls gave me great advice about not to freak out so easily and just try to relaz and breathe... Maybe you might want something more form fitting and loose... I know its a Disney wedding but you can def. wear a more sleekier dress.. GL to you

 

[AnnieBelle]

Have you been doing a lot of wedding planning lately and maybe things all started to get overwhelming for you? I have actually started to feel that panicy feeling in the dresses I tried on too, they can seem really heavy and uncomfortable and really constricting. You should definitely find something you feel comfortable in. I have seen beautiful t-length wedding dresses that were still very elegant. It is your wedding day and you look beautiful in anything you wear. The people who love you and care about you will not care about anything other than being with you on your special day. The ones that judge you for not wearing a huge princess dress will find something else to complain about if you did wear a massive gown anyway.

 

[Lynn5700]

I agree with everybody! You can wear whatever you want. First off destination weddings are all about "no stress". I am not saying that you won't stress about things cause Lord knows I have but seriously wear a non poofy dress if you want to.

 

[hulagirl87]

I completely agree with everyone else. You have to wear what you are comfortable in. If you want it to be a very simple dress, than so be it I'm actually having the opposite reaction from people that have seen my dress. They think that since we are going to Disney and it is just the 2 of us that it shouldn't be a real wedding dress (poofy). My dress is definitely a real wedding dress with poof and all and I love it and can't wait to wear it, even if it is just the 2 of us. Bottom line... do what makes you happy!!!!

 

[Belle1981]

Just BREATH....It can only get better! You should wear whatever makes you feel best! I am so sorry that you were alone on the dress shopping day but do not worry things are going to come up and make us CRAZY. Don't worry because it will work itself out. You are meant to have a wonderful wedding regardless of the POUF factor of the dress. Just remember this is ONE day when you are meant to enjoy it from start to finish! It will be great!

 

[soontobebride]

I totally agree. Do not worry you will find that dress that is right for you. It might be that you just haven't seen it, but when you do, trust me you will know it is the one!!

As for the sizes they did actually tell me before I tried on the dresses that I probably would be one or two sizes more than I usually am, so because they told me this I felt happier when I tried them on. They explained that there was a lady who was a size zero who needed a size four, so please don't worry. I am not anywhere near a size zero.

Just enjoy yourself and just remember it is your day and you must wear and do you what you want...after all it is your day!!!

 

[audisight]

I have to agree with everyone. Get the dress you want. I work with brides all day and I can tell you that for every bride that gets a big poffy dress there is one that gets a fitted dress for a beach wedding. The dress has to be about you. If you dont not feel good in the dress the whole day could be a mess. Yes, yes, yes the dresses do run very small. I'm a size 2 and I fit into a size 4 or 6 in wedding dresses. Don't let anyone tell you what dress to get. I promise when you find the dress you will know it's the one, just like your groom, you just know. Try on every dress you can, but space it out. I recomend trying on no more then 6 during one visit to a shop. When you try on more then that the dresses may start to all look alike. Take your time, and relax, it will all work out.