I've never been to Flying Fish, but have been to Artist Point several times. For men, shorts are OK, as long as they're not cut-offs, athletic shorts, or swim trunks. They also request no sleeveless shirts or flip flops. I've always worn a nice pair of cargo pocket shorts, a polo or casual short sleeve button up shirt, and a pair of clean sneakers. My wife wore casual capri's or skirts and nice sleeveless shirts. We have seen people wearing attire that is "frowned upon" but they weren't refused entrance. They did look very out of place though, especially one guy who was wearing a tank top, swim shorts, and flip flops.